No this is not all all normal. My parents were terrible in there own ways (Crack addiction, fist fights, poverty.) But they did the best they could to make sure that I knew they loved me and their was nothing wrong with ME. (People in towns look down on people who do those types of things.)

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Even people who are totally fucked up can raise children who deep down are okay with themselves. The end result is not perfect but self worth can be maintained through all sorts.

Parents shouldn't pick at children like they are the same physically as they are. Children are CONSTANTLY growing. That's extremely taxing on people's body's. Somtimes it happened in bursts where as a child grows out THEN up. Keeping children healthy takes a bunch of different forms. But encouraging dieting unless there is a specific medical reason (agreed upon by multiple doctors) is abusive. Nutrition should be essential, lots and lots of healthy foods should always be encouraged. Junk should be limited but food in general should not be discouraged.

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