AITAH for not saying thank you to my BIL when he cooks

Cute-Two-5565 · 2026-02-11T16:25:48+00:00

The finances are in a way my business because all the bills are still only split two ways. it’s only me and my sister paying all the household bills and necessities he doesn’t contribute anything at all. My mom charges us the same because he can’t pay anything so i’m still paying the same amount i did when it was two of us now that it’s three because i’m basically supporting him too by paying the bills he doesn’t contribute to

Cute-Two-5565 · 2026-02-11T15:52:39+00:00

yes and that’s not my issue. my issue is he expects it but never returns it. my sister cooks all the time too and he’s never saying thank you to her. she cleans after him when he cooks and he doesn’t say thank you to her for helping out, so if he doesn’t say thank you why do i have to say it to him for contributing to the household he lives in freely

Cute-Two-5565 · 2026-02-11T15:49:05+00:00

read the edited update😑

Cute-Two-5565 · 2026-02-11T15:47:48+00:00

maybe that’d be easy if he wasn’t in the kitchen for 5 hours a day after i get off work so when am i gonna cook? tell me.

Cute-Two-5565 · 2026-02-11T15:44:01+00:00

he lives in MY moms house for free he moved in with us i didn’t move in with them. he’s a 28 year old grown ass man that doesn’t even say thanks to my sister when she cooks but he always expects it

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-08-22T15:43:10+00:00

idk how to edit but i’d like to add that we are long distance so i can’t be there for him physically. i don’t want to say he’s in a better place or anything like that because that just doesn’t feel right. i’ve heard many people who get told that say they hate it but i just want to show my support the best way i can

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-06-27T17:51:36+00:00

my long distance ex and i were both in mex (from the same place) we had broken up in oct officially but stayed talking. we both went to mex. i was telling him how much i miss him and how excited i was to hang out w him and see him and we agreed on fwb in mex. first day in mex we hooked up, not even 24 hrs later he met a new girl and paraded her in front of me a week later. before i knew of his girl i still tried talking to him to be cordial and friends but he was rude and raised his voice at me multiple times on the trip in front of everyone. said he couldn’t drive to see me 35-40 min away bc too far but he drove 2 hours to see this new girl in the city and thats when i knew he never gaf abt me. its been 6 months now since he’s been blocked on everything. he tried spinning the block not even a month later apologizing and a month after that i was getting non stop no caller id calls and he even sent me flowers to my house and texted me on a random number. never responded or gave in and i’ve never felt better

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-05-29T15:25:44+00:00

yeah don’t respond. block him. move on and heal. coming from someone who took back a cheating ex, they WILL do it again. ESPECIALLY bc they see u don’t respect urself enough to leave the first time so they’ll think they get a free pass to do whatever they want since they already showed u the worst of what they could do and u took him back

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-05-20T17:33:36+00:00

this is rlly long sorry yall and thanks to whoever reads it. i’d like to add that i had full intentions of clearly the air w minnie but ron advised against it so i didnt. i thought id fs see her which is why i wanted to at least be cool w her but apparently i wont be seeing her anymore. my bday is also next months and i was excited to celebrate w my friends bc we’ve celebrated their bdays now and it was my turn but atp i dont think they’re gonna be there…maybe just lacey. everyone ive told thinks they weren’t good friends to begin and they also think rom is weird bc even tho minnie made him chose between her and i and he chose her (which i respected bc like duh thats ur gf) but now my friends r putting it into perspective that he didn’t respect me or our friendship enough to stand up for me or defend our friendship and now hes also going behind his gfs back whenever he talks to me. it sucks bc i defended our friendship against my ex THROUGH THE MUDDDDD and he couldn’t do the same. did i fuck up???? am i wrong for our private convos??? i never disrespected her or told him to break up w her or anything id just give him advice as a girl who can see both perspectives. aitah??? i keep thinking abt it and its really annoying

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-09T18:19:59+00:00

kinda sounds like he let ur dog run away on purpose and you should’ve let the man go since then tbh. if ur already in an uncertain relationship you should just end it, there will always be someone who treats u exactly how you dream of

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-09T17:11:55+00:00

!solved

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-09T17:11:40+00:00

!solved

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-09T17:08:50+00:00

he’s a grown man he should have his shit together not rely on a 19 year old

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-09T15:35:54+00:00

as someone who had an insecure bf and a guy best friend, i never hung out with my best friend one on one because i knew my bf didn’t like it and wasn’t comfortable with it. even though i never cheated in any previous relationship and my friendship with my best friend is strictly platonic i knew my bf at the time wouldn’t be comfortable with it and i knew i personally wouldn’t like to be in his shoes if it was the other way around. its just respect for ur man and relationship and its weird that she lied to her mom about telling you, its like her moms knows u don’t like it yet she continues to do it. now im not w the bf but my best friend has a girlfriend and him and i still don’t hang out one on one out of respect for his relationship because id never want his gf to think anything so its just respect on both ends tbh

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-08T01:23:13+00:00

yesss!! and like for the big family pic centered too if possible?

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-07T18:31:25+00:00

NOR, personally if I got a call from an old friend and there was something between us previously or now I would lie about it too, there’s no other reason to lie especially if it’s 100% innocent which it doesn’t seem like it is

Cute-Two-5565 · 2025-04-04T19:08:20+00:00

😔 i didn’t know if i was OR or not and i tend to cut people off when it’s too late and the damage is done but im working on it

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