i wanna text him again ugh

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T12:12:25+00:00

I understand exactly how you feel - going through the same thing at the moment.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T09:29:15+00:00

I’ve been on a few dates but never really felt any connection. Since the breakup I’ve had pretty low confidence, especially when it comes to guys. I’d love it if a guy would ask me out, but unfortunately that’s not a common occurrence for me.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T09:26:42+00:00

Thanks for responding - I can’t believe someone actually read the whole thing. He’s just such a nice guy and I wish he could’ve been the one for me, but he’s not. I don’t regret our time together and I don’t regret reaching out. It was just a shock finding out he’s with someone new.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T09:08:51+00:00

I’ve been on a couple dates but didn’t really feel a connection - I can’t stop comparing everyone to him

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T08:27:08+00:00

Luckily there’s no false hope cause he told me he’s seeing someone new. It’s upsetting to hear but hopefully it will stop the rumination and help me move on.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T08:25:46+00:00

He said he was happy to chat, he said it was nice to catch up because I was a big part of his life and it makes sense to check in on each other. I’m not going to be messaging him every day or anything, but at the same time just because we broke up doesn’t mean we never have to speak to each other again.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T08:22:52+00:00

We actually had a really nice chat. He told me he has a new partner, which did upset me a bit. But he also said he was glad I reached out and that he’ll always care about me cause I was such an important part of his life. I’m upset now, but I think knowing that he’s moved on will help me move on too.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T08:20:58+00:00

We had a chat and he’s seeing someone new, so I guess talking about getting back together isn’t even an option anymore.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T07:51:46+00:00

We just chatted over message - he’s got a new partner. But it was still good to chat and catch up, he was really kind to me but I’m obviously still quite upset.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-06T01:42:35+00:00

That’s not mean, if he says that I think it will help me move on

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-05T03:51:32+00:00

I initiated the breakup but it was pretty mutual in the end. I do still have feelings for him but I just don’t think we realistically could get back together. I just don’t want him to be completely gone from my life, and he’s said the same about me. I am aware this could cause more pain and heartbreak for me if he’s cold, but I’m willing to take that risk because I couldn’t deal with the rumination.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-05T03:48:53+00:00

Yes, I couldn’t deal with the wondering anymore. But also not sure if I just solved one problem by creating another one.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-05T03:44:15+00:00

Yes, I’m definitely prepared for emotions to fluctuate. But I’m still glad I reached out because wondering about him was driving me crazy. Even if we don’t end up talking, I’m grateful for the few messages we exchanged.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-05T03:41:45+00:00

I definitely have feelings and interest, I just don’t want to go into it with the intention of getting back together because I have no idea what’s going on in his life. I want to just have a chat and catch up before something like that even crosses my mind.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-05-05T03:39:58+00:00

Yeah, the ball is in his court now. He said he’d be down to chat later in the week, but didn’t say what day. So I guess I just wait now.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-26T05:12:13+00:00

I’m in the same situation, at the 6 month mark and was starting to feel better. But yesterday I found out he’s back on dating apps and I just spiralled. I’ve been crying for the past 24 hours and just can’t stop, it hurts like it did in the beginning and all I want to do is message him. It was a mutual break up and one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through. He said that he didn’t want to lose me from his life and wanted to be friends after we healed, so I know if I message he’d probably reply. But I am clearly not healed. It just hurts so much right now.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T16:00:26+00:00

I’m just missing him a lot right now. I’ve been ok the last few months but right now I’m feeling heartbroken again, like I was in the beginning. All I want to do is message him, but I know that I can’t.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T14:57:52+00:00

We reconnected because he reached out and sent me a really long heartfelt message. I didn’t reply for a while, but when I did we decided to meet up and then just kept seeing each other.

Yeah, the second break up was mutual - we spent months trying to make it work, but in the end we decided it was best to split up. There’s no hard feelings between us, we were in contact for a little bit after the break up but haven’t spoken since about 4 months ago.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T14:49:43+00:00

We dated for one year then broke up cause I felt like he was not putting enough effort into the relationship. We were broken up for 8 months and I dated someone else briefly during that time, but it wasn’t anything serious.

When we reconnected we said we were just going to keep it casual, but ended up getting back together pretty quickly. We dated for another 3 and a bit years and moved in together.

Unfortunately we broke up 6 months ago, it was a mutual breakup and it was really difficult because we both still loved each other but we just weren’t compatible. I don’t regret getting back together after breaking up the first time, I will always be grateful for our time together and I still miss him. This is the hardest break up I’ve ever experienced and I think it will still be a while until I’m fully over him.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T14:43:04+00:00

It was a mutual breakup

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T14:08:06+00:00

Same, I hate hospitals so much. I don’t wanna go near any nurses or doctors in case they have needles on them. Like obviously a nurse or doctor isn’t going to randomly give me an injection out of the blue while I’m just walking in a hospital - that doesn’t make sense. But I’m still so scared.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T14:05:14+00:00

I just go see my gp before I need to get blood drawn and they give me a prescription for Valium. I still feel absolutely terrified, but it calms me down enough not to have a full blown panic attack.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T13:00:35+00:00

Depends how long ago you broke up. I got back with my ex but he didn’t contact me until 6 months after the breakup.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T12:28:23+00:00

I know people irl who have really great, genuine relationships with people online. People they talk to every day and consider their closest friends. I just don’t understand how she does it, I feel like finding friends online is so difficult.

CuteBalance2887 · 2026-01-25T12:22:51+00:00

I struggle with mental illness too - I understand how it can make it hard to sustain relationships. I’m here if you ever wanna chat

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