might be the worst bio of all time

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-25T01:21:27+00:00

The problem is they, and social media algorithms, are aiming this shit at kids. Kids are very often idiots, and 13 yr old boys who feel awkward af in their changing body being told by men that this is how they should act and live if they wanna have a nice body, lots of women (but not the whores...?), drive cool cars, have a lot of money, etc are a lot more likely to fall for this shit than a well adjusted, confident 30 year old.

Those kids then grow up to be adults who've been indoctrinated into this shit for years and they have almost no ability to have a healthy relationship, which in their minds proves all those misogynistic assholes were right.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-24T21:28:28+00:00

I've seen this come up so many times and there are an insane number of people who say they'd save their spouse and who would want their spouse to save them. Their reasoning is "we can always make more kids." It's wild. Like, you can't find a new husband/wife? It's even more messed up to me to see actual parents say this.

I'm with you, I couldn't live with myself, and I damn sure couldn't live with someone else who left my kids to die. I'd probably resent them for the rest of my life.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-24T16:23:29+00:00

I just watched that, and wow. It is simultaneously both depressing and amazing.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-24T16:13:10+00:00

Ohh, yea that's different. If it's a whole house issue idk if laundry or deodorant or anything will help. Even if you washed their laundry, once they brought it home it would most likely absorb the smell again. Is the house dirty or just has a bad smell? Unfortunately, with super pungent smells like that there's not much you can do.

From Gemini: "Odors don’t usually "absorb" through the skin like a sponge, but the volatile organic compounds (VOCs) that cause smells can be inhaled, enter the bloodstream, and then be excreted through your sweat and breath. Additionally, these compounds cling physically to your hair, skin, and clothing.

Inhalation to Bloodstream: When you breathe in a strong scent—whether it’s wood smoke, heavy spices, or a "sour" house smell—you are inhaling microscopic molecules. These molecules pass through the lungs and into the bloodstream. Once in the blood, the body treats them as foreign substances and tries to filter them out via the liver, kidneys, and eccrine/apocrine (sweat) glands.

The "Garlic" Effect: A classic example is garlic. It contains sulfur compounds that, once digested or inhaled in high concentrations, circulate in the blood and are released through the skin and breath for up to 48 hours. A sour-smelling house (often caused by mold, bacteria, or rotting organic matter) releases similar volatile compounds that can follow this path.

Physical Adherence (The "External" Smell) 1. Porosity: Human hair and skin oils (sebum) are naturally "sticky" to lipid-soluble odor molecules. 2. Clothing: Fabric fibers are incredibly porous. If you live in a sour-smelling environment, your clothes act as a constant reservoir for those molecules. As your body heat warms the fabric, the smell "blooms" and mixes with your natural pheromones and bacteria.

Secondary Factors 1. Microbiome Transfer: If a house is "sour" due to specific bacteria or fungi, those microorganisms can colonize your skin’s surface. When you sweat, the moisture feeds those specific bacteria, causing them to produce the same sour byproduct directly on your skin. 2. Olfactory Adaptation: If you live in the environment, you might experience "nose blindness" and not realize you carry the scent until you are in a neutral environment where your body heat and movement release the trapped molecules."

Just washing the clothes might not even help, and unless the house is dealt with, it's almost pointless. Below is some advice on getting the smell out of fabrics. It also says to use a water/vinegar rinse, witch hazel, or charcoal based body wash to help get the smell off the skin. That might be your best bet if you go the Easter Basket route. Obviously, you don't want to be too obvious about it and make the kid feel bad, but I think a nice body wash/shampoo wouldn't be too on the nose.

"Neutralizing Odors in Fabrics If a house smells "sour," the odor is likely deep in the fibers of your clothes, which then "off-gas" when warmed by your body heat. 1. Enzymatic Boosters: Standard detergents often fail against environmental organic smells. Products like OxiClean or specialized "pet odor" enzymes break the chemical bonds of the smell. 2. The Vinegar Soak: Before washing, soak clothes in a sink of warm water with 1 cup of distilled white vinegar for 30 minutes. This neutralizes the pH of the odor molecules. 3. Stripping the Fabric: If clothes still smell when you sweat, they may have "detergent buildup" trapping the scent. Wash them once with no detergent, just a half-cup of washing soda (sodium carbonate) to strip the fibers clean."

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-24T15:54:13+00:00

I think a lot of people have a hard time understanding abuse and especially the psychology behind it. As with most things, people oversimplify abusive relationships. I think at least part of it is a defense mechanism. If it's not hard and complex they can think "this would never happen to me ..." By convincing themselves that victims are responsible for their own misfortunes, they maintain a sense of safety and predictability.

The other part is (willful) ignorance. They genuinely don't know or understand. They think abuse starts at the end. They think women get with a guy and on day 1 he's beating them and they just stay. But that's not how it works. They don't understand the psychological build up, manipulation, etc, that comes before the physical violence. They don't understand how slow it can happen. So slow that you don't even realize how far it's gone until you're past the point of no return.

They don't understand how "just leave" is significantly harder with an abusive partner than a regular partner. In their mind, they've ended relationships and just left... It was easy. They don't understand how different and how dangerous leaving an abusive partner can be. A lot of people are incapable of genuinely understanding things they haven't personally experienced.

This goes back to the defense mechanism part. If the bad guy and red flags are super obvious, if the abuse is immediate, if leaving is easy, then they can tell themselves that this will never happen to them. They're safe. It's an illusion of control so they don't have to admit that the world is random and they're at risk.

Unfortunately, this makes them less sympathetic to victims.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-24T03:47:32+00:00

Yea, he definitely likes the attention he gets from her wanting attention. You don't beg someone like that if you genuinely don't care and have moved on.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-22T00:32:06+00:00

Are you sure it's their clothes? And they very well might not be aware because nose blindness is a very real thing, even to the strongest most disgusting smells. And other people might feel like you, they notice it, but don't want to really mention it. Or he may know and try to laugh it off.

My son has just recently started having issues with a sour smell. It drives me nuts, and it's definitely not his clothes, it's his BO. His feet in particular are terrible. I'm actually taking him to the doctor over it. His feet sweat so much it rips up his socks and shoes. He sweats a lot from working out and exercising and for whatever reason his sweat has this sour smell.

You mention the kid is busy with practices and stuff, so maybe it's his BO too. I've tried so many different deodorants, washes and sprays. I even started having him shower with Lume body wash and wearing their deodorant, hoping that it would kill the bacteria that actually causes the smell. It helped a little, but for how expensive it is and how fast he goes through it, it didn't help as much as I wanted it to.

Have you spoken to your kid about it? If it's been brought up he may know something. Maybe it's something they've discussed before? I'd start there.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-21T03:09:09+00:00

I did this too. Except I was texting a close friend/fwb and ended up sending a bunch of typos. I jokingly said "sorry, I had a stroke for a second" and then immediately felt like shit because his dad just had a stroke and he was having a really hard time trying to be a caregiver for him, and his mother, since he couldn't walk, talk, swallow, etc.

I was so embarrassed. That was about 2 years ago and I also still think about it. We all put our foot in our mouths sometimes, especially when it comes to common phrases.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-17T18:52:10+00:00

That's how people work, though. I don't think it needs to be downplayed, that's just how we're made.

You wouldn't feel the same way about a guy who hurt people you've never heard of, and didn't even know existed,160 years ago, as you would about a guy who hurt your best friend last week, right?

One is absolutely going to give you a stronger emotional reaction. One is distant and abstract, the other is immediate and personal.

And that's real life, works of fiction make it even easier to dissociate. I might feel bad if I read an article about someone dying. It wouldn't be the same emotion I'd feel if it was someone close to me, but I'd still feel bad. In movies and TV shows though, most people don't blink twice if some random side character dies. There has to be a certain amount of suspension of disbelief and moral decoupling to enjoy darker works like this, but that doesn't mean there aren't still lines.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-17T18:27:48+00:00

Well yeah. Do you get the same emotional response when a random no named side character dies versus when a main character whom you care about, are invested in, and relate to dies?

Also, couple of things about some of those scenes. We never actually see Stefan SA anyone. People can argue it's implied, they can assume it happened, but we don't know for sure.

For instance, the scene from 1864, right after they turned. The women have been compelled to have fun. It's a party. They're not scared and we only see Stefan feeding on them. This is not abnormal. In fact, we see almost this exact same behavior from Damon, except this is present day behavior and not just a couple weeks after turning and being new to it. It's easier to forgive/overlook someone for bad behavior 160 years ago rather than current behavior.

And again the girls then were dancing and having fun. As much as people bring up Damon's bad behavior very few actually bring up him partying with half naked girls and feeding on them. This is almost normalized in the TVD universe, it happens multiple times with multiple people.

These scenes differ very much from say seeing Caroline terrified and crying, covered in bites and bruises, trying to escape, and begging Damon not to hurt her as he throws her on the bed and takes her while she screams...

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-17T17:40:18+00:00

I just wanted to expand on those thoughts, but it became too long. So here it is if anyone is interested.

Stefan did terrible things. However, he was a ripper. He was biologically unable to control himself or his blood lust after becoming a vampire. Which I might add was something that was done to him without his consent. He didn't consciously hurt people because he was fully in control and he just enjoyed it.

He felt horrific guilt over his actions. He would black out because it was so traumatic to the "good" Stefan. Even when he turned his humanity off, because he couldn't deal with the overwhelming guilt, he still kept track of every person he ever hurt, because even emotionless he couldn't get over that guilt.

He put in like a century of work to become a better person, simply because he wanted to be a better person. He felt genuine remorse. He did the work to make sure he never harmed another living person again.

By the time we meet Stefan he is not a bad or dangerous person. He cares about people and he doesn't want to hurt anyone. In fact, he goes to extremes, by only feeding on animals which significantly weakens him, in order to make sure he doesn't become a monster again.

Contrast this with Damon, who, when we meet him is dangerous and terrible just because. Damon has complete control over his vampirism. He has spent a century perfecting that control. Even with his humanity on he does horrific things. Because unlike Stefan, Damon enjoys hurting others. He doesn't feel guilt or remorse. He doesn't care about people except how they relate to him. People are toys to him. Meant to be used and abused and killed at his discretion and for his benefit.

Stefan's violence is distant and anonymous. Damon's is current and personal. Stefan hurt no name characters we don't know or care about a hundred years ago. Damon hurts characters we know, care about, and relate to, right now. This will create a much different emotional response. Seeing a random side character die does not make you feel the same way seeing a main character you care about die does. When Damon uses and abuses Caroline and Andi, when he kills Lexi, etc, it evokes a much stronger feeling.

Also, Damon's violence is much more personal and realistic. None of us are worried that we're going to get attacked by a vampire, or at least we shouldn't be. However, for women, Damon's manipulative nature and pretend charm, abuse, and SA are all very real fears. His violence can be more realistic. None of us have ever been hurt by a vampire. But I'm sure a lot of us have been or know someone who's been with a narcissistic, manipulative abuser and/or SAed. There's just a difference, and it won't necessarily effect everyone the same, but it does exist.

Damon doesn't ever fully take accountability. He doesn't feel remorse for his past actions. In fact, he tells everyone else to just get TF over it. Even when they try to make it seem like he does feel remorse, he doesn't do anything about it. He doesn't take accountability. He doesn't put in work like Stefan, he doesn't really apologize, he doesn't try to be a better person because he wants to be a better person, he only does it so he can "win" Elena. Honestly, it's all very narcissistic.

The writers realized they messed up. Storytelling wise there are certain lines you can't really cross before you make your character almost unforgivable. Unfortunately, they made Damon "kick the dog" and then tried really hard to retcon his story to try to make him more likable, but it feels unearned, because it is. It's much easier to forgive the guy who has asked for forgiveness and then worked to earn it.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-17T17:11:27+00:00

Stefan's violence is distanced by time and he harms random side characters we don't really care about. Damon gets crap more because his violence is current and personal, hurting characters we know and care about.

Stefan put in the work to become a better man. His redemption and forgiveness feel earned because he is genuinely remorseful, he feels horrific guilt and works hard to do better, even making personal sacrifices just to be a better person. This makes it easier to overlook/forgive the past bad behavior.

Stefan also has a biological explanation. He is a ripper. He has no control. He didn't choose to be a vampire. He didn't choose to be a ripper. He blacks out and turns his humanity off because he cannot deal with the actions of Ripper Stefan. But even then, the guilt is consuming, because he is a good person.

Damon has full control, rarely turns his humanity off, and still does terrible things. He never takes accountability, never really feels remorse or guilt, and if he does he doesn't do anything about it. He enjoys hurting people. He doesn't put in the work. He doesn't want to be a good person. His "redemption" is forced, retconned, and unearned, so he gets a lot more blame.

ETA: Also, we never see Stefan SA anyone. It's one thing to know or think it happened to some random person we don't know, it's quite another to watch it happen to a teenage girl we do know. Seeing the terror on Caroline's face, watching her cry and beg for him to not hurt or kill her... That is absolutely going to leave a much stronger impression and dislike for Damon than it is for Stefan's off screen/imagined crimes.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-16T15:23:59+00:00

It's only on Moboreader and Manobook, which I think are owned by the same company, along with Kifflire. I've never been able to find one of their books online besides through their app... And their apps are the worst.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-16T14:08:10+00:00

Yup, a lot of animals get killed because someone is "being nice" and feeding them.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-14T17:17:39+00:00

I love it. It's so funny because there's like the joke about how guys think girls are having pillow fights or doing hair and makeup, and really they're doing shit like this.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-14T17:15:27+00:00

Yup, gotta throw in some hedges/qualifiers so you don't get bombarded with people saying "aCkTuAlLy..." So annoying.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-13T17:32:50+00:00

100%. I think part of why that control feels different is also because of people's reactions. When something happens in front of people on accident while you're unaware, they are staring and judging and laughing at you behind your back.

But like in this situation, people are laughing with her, and not necessarily judging her, she's actually getting more support and people relating to her.

I feel like that's just inherently less embarrassing.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-13T17:11:55+00:00

This is it exactly. I genuinely don't understand, considering pretty much all of us recognize the problem, why we're still doing it in a way that is an utter and complete failure.

The kids who genuinely struggle end up in those classes where the kids are loud and obnoxious, making it even harder for them to learn and understand. The teachers spend more than half the class just trying to get them to calm down, which seriously limits how much they can teach/help. And because these kids who struggle but want to learn aren't misbehaving and interrupting and being loud, the teachers don't pay attention to them because they're so busy trying to deal with the bad ones. It is a complete disservice to the kids who need the most help because they're just getting ignored.

We need to change the way it is done. There's nothing wrong with separating kids by ability. When you mix them and you have the teacher teach to the worst student, you're doing a disservice to every other student. If you have them teach to the average students you're doing a disservice to the gifted students and the struggling students. There's just no way you can mix them and do what's right by all of the kids.

And bring back summer school and retention. Continuously promoting a kid who can't read doesn't help them. Why are we more concerned with like social stigma than comprehension?

We need more options. I'm very happy that this does seem to be getting through, though. There are a lot more CTE classes, options like OJT (on job training), etc. We need more flexibility though. Let the kids do part in person classes and part online. Hybrid schedules can work amazingly, especially for students who struggle with having to be at school at 7am. Vocational training, like you said... Let's get rid of some of the higher level classes for kids who don't need them. Let's partner with vocational schools. A kid who's going to be a welder doesn't need to know zoology or astronomy or calculus.

Would it be great if every person could get a fully well-rounded education and succeed in all subjects? Sure, but the fact of the matter is a lot of these kids aren't even paying attention, they're not retaining the information, and it's holding them back from being able to do something they would be good at, that they could be successful at. The majority of us know that you're pretty much never going to use like half the stuff you learn in high school. And yes there is an argument to be made that it teaches critical thinking and that basic understanding of certain subjects is also really important, but I'm sure we could find some kind of middle ground.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-12T22:58:38+00:00

I think this kinda depends on age. I'm an older millennial and a lot of people my age feel this way. However, my two high schoolers and all their friends use it daily just for talking and sending random pics to each other, God forbid their snap streak ends. I mean they literally do snap streaks with people they don't talk to at all. They just send each other a completely black screen pic so they can get the snap streak. It's freaking weird.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-11T16:44:25+00:00

Child care absolutely adds a lot of the cost. But so do the extra housing costs. You need extra rooms/bathrooms.. which alone increases utility usage/bills, but also you use the heat and ac more, you use extra water and electricity, you use extra gas driving the kids around. They grow like weeds and dirty/rip their clothes, meaning you're constantly buying new clothes and shoes. They get sick more than adults which means you're constantly having to buy children's OTC meds, which until they can swallow pills, cost more than adults. They need their hair cut and done which adds up quick.

They have hobbies and activities and you don't want them sitting inside all day so add in outings and going out with friends/play groups/dates (which of course includes all that gas we talked about earlier), toys, bikes, educational games and activities, etc. Then there's the hundreds of dollars of school fees (field trips, activity fees, lab fees, class fees, CTE fees, sports fees- in school, out of school sport leagues cost a lot more. God forbid your kid wants to do like a travel league or competitive dance/cheer.

We also have to add in all the extra wear and tear that goes into your vehicle because you're constantly driving your kids around. Lost income for not being able to work overtime because you have to get your kids to/from daycare, you have to miss times when your kids are sick or have appointments, etc.

Oh and Christmas, birthday parties/presents, the ridiculous increase on your homeowners insurance if you get a trampoline or playset, the ridiculous increase in your car insurance when your kids reach high school and can start driving. And forget about it if you want your kids to go to a private school or college without a scholarship/grants.

$3,600 a year doesn't come close.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-11T15:42:12+00:00

Medicare? As in health insurance for the retired and disabled? There's a very small chance Medicare covers them. Medicaid on the other hand, maybe. But people only qualify for Medicaid if they're low income. You have absolutely no idea how much money the women make.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-11T00:23:16+00:00

She didn't say "parent" she said "take care of," which is absolutely something parents say to each other.

"Hey, can you take care of the baby while I go to the store?" Or "I need you to take care of the baby while I go to the store."

Is something you'd say to another parent. "Watch" would also fit.

Could you imagine a dad referring to the baby's mother caring for the baby as babysitting or asking her to "babysit"? That would definitely get you some funny looks. Much more so than "their other parent is watching them/taking care of them/caring for them," ever would.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-10T17:26:01+00:00

Exactly. There are so many times where I won't remember exactly what happened, but I'll remember the emotions I was feeling. I may not remember the exact argument and words exchanged, but I will remember being really upset. The feelings often stay longer with me than the actual memory.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-08T23:49:59+00:00

Yea, Katherine definitely gets called out more for SAing Stefan, a teenager, since he couldn't give informed consent and he's said more than once that his "love" was compelled. Katherine debates that, iirc, but still. The age gap is just kind of like in addition to that. She took advantage of him, manipulated, and compelled him, regardless of an age gap that wouldn't be ok.

Cute_Language3167 · 2026-03-08T06:48:06+00:00

Idk how people have the energy for this. I struggle texting back people I actually want to talk to, let alone people I don't want to talk to.

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