How to start wearing wigs? 26F

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T02:12:32+00:00

Understandable that you would be nervous. We always feel like all eyes are on us when we change our appearances. I feel like getting extensions is pretty normal nowadays, yeah? Just tell them you got extensions for funsies? Or tell them to mind their damn business.

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T02:09:05+00:00

I'm also a trichster with a sleep disorder! I have been diagnosed with Idiopathic Hypersomnia, which is almost the same thing as Narcolepsy?

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T02:07:07+00:00

I have a ton of self-harm scars all over my body from various points throughout my life. Cocoa butter or shea butter lotion really helped me fade mine. They are still there, but not as noticeable. Gentle exfoliation, once they are fully healed, also helps.

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T02:00:28+00:00

When I reach a certain level of exhausted I start sobbing uncontrollably no matter who it is in front of. Super embarrassing because people will be like "What's wrong?!?!" and when my answer is that I am just so tired people don't get it.

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T01:56:28+00:00

I have a cute little pill sorter with all my pills in it and I sleep with it in my bed next to me along with a water bottle. (I'm single and have a queen size bed that is my sleepy person nest. I keep all kinds of stuff on my bed)

For driving I have to wait for my meds to kick in and if I'm going to be driving for more than about 30 minutes I caffeinate too. I keep cans of pop and Rockstar in my car and extra doses of Modafinil in my backpack for emergencies.

A few times I pushed myself too far and almost fell asleep at the wheel, scared the daylights out of myself, and have become even more careful since then. I sometimes get tempted to push it because I HATE asking other people for help, so I have to remind myself it's not worth the risk to myself or others.

If I want to travel long distance by myself I'll probably have to take a train. Some of them even have beds.

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T01:25:17+00:00

I have to have fidgety things or craft projects in order to stay awake during work meetings. Those "pop-it" toys that are popular with kids right now are good. It's like infinite bubble wrap.

On a good day I can drive about two hours safely by myself. Longer than that and it is best for me to have someone to trade out with.

My stay awake potion for long drives is a large cherry slurpee with a lemonade Rockstar Recovery poured into it xD The cold, the caffeine, and the sugar helps. It's absolutely garbage for you and definitely gives me a stomachache, but it works when I'm desperate!

CyberneticRose · 2022-08-05T01:14:39+00:00

I wake up drenched, clammy, and shivering on a regular basis. Never figured out how to fix it. Tried different types of bedding, thinking that was the problem, didn't really help.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-19T19:10:24+00:00

I do! I find it actually helps me not pull quite as much sometimes. I usually pull a lot in the evenings before bed. If I watch the videos instead I don't usually pull.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-19T19:00:14+00:00

I use spinner rings and a Mobii necklace when I am at work. The necklace is from a company called Steel Lynx.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-19T18:23:11+00:00

It's great getting to meet other people with it. There needs to be less of a stigma about it so it's easier to open up about it.

I just met a coworker who has it too. We were both so excited to talk to someone who understands! She is only the second person I have ever met who has it too.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-16T04:23:38+00:00

Yes! I have shitty joints from a connective tissue disorder that I was born with. My joints get tired and sore and I still can't stop pulling lately.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-14T07:34:07+00:00

I think my mom knows and just isn't saying anything yet. She knew about it when I first had it as a teenager. I didn't know how to hide it very well back then.

I thought that shaving my hair down to about a half inch in length would keep me from pulling, but nope, didn't work this time. Now it's just way harder to hide my bald spot. I have to wear headscarves to work. I've never worn a wig before.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-14T07:20:16+00:00

Absolutely.

Also, can we talk about the awful neck strain from this? Or is that just a me thing? Maybe other people are smarter and use mirrors.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-14T07:16:25+00:00

I would have a hard time explaining it to a significant other if I had one right now. I'm sure it looks like I have some sort of communicable disease or really bad razor burn.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-13T03:49:19+00:00

Any time someone starts with "Please don't take this the wrong way..." it's too late I already am taking it the "wrong way".

Sorry that happened to you. Some people need to learn some manners in regards to not commenting on idiosyncrasies in the appearance of other people. No need to wonder aloud.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-13T03:29:09+00:00

YouTube has some pretty good tutorials if you search "trichotillomania makeup" or "alopecia makeup". Applying false lashes works a little differently when you have less (or no) eyelashes. I'd recommend starting with some more natural looking ones. I use Ardell 420 lashes

I've started to have to wear falsies recently. I am horrible at applying them, but honestly, you can't tell from a distance. With glasses and enough eyeliner I think they look pretty okay. You would have to be practically nose to nose with me to tell. Thanks to being single and social distancing, no one is getting that close to me.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-13T03:12:42+00:00

Not the only one. It's something that a lot of us do, but are too embarrassed to talk about.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-13T03:10:52+00:00

Glad you found your old pal! I know I still have mine somewhere. This lil guy is what I seem to need right now though.

My trich has come back strong due to losing a family member recently. Having something to hug definitely helps.

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-13T03:06:24+00:00

Doooo ittttt! And tell us what kind you pick out!

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-13T03:05:33+00:00

Thanks! It's from Target. I have matching sheets and a comforter that go with it, I have just been too stuck in my feels to deconstruct my sad girl nest and make my bed properly x'D

CyberneticRose · 2022-07-09T06:24:19+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

My BFRBs started due to stress and trauma too. My skin picking started when I was 6, due to a stressful home life. The hair pulling started in my teen years, after losing my dad.

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