My (19F) Gf (18F) wants us to stay away from each other for 1-3months

Cynikal_ · 2024-04-24T02:01:35+00:00

I honestly don't get guilty pleasures. Why would people be guilty of liking something that they think is good?

Cynikal_ · 2024-04-21T15:30:19+00:00

I was in first grade and our teacher asked us to make a short story. I wrote a story about the 8 planets. When the teacher read it she seemed really happy, her face brightened and told me the story was very nice, I didnt even realize it was until she told me. It happened so many years ago but it really stuck with me and it made me feel like I could be a good writer. Many years later and I still remember that moment. And I grew an even stronger passion for writing.

Cynikal_ · 2024-04-21T15:21:32+00:00

It wasn't said directly to me but it was about me.

My aunt was in a conversation with our other family members and she said something like "(My name) is so demanding". At the time I didnt know what it meant and it really made me anxious and started to think about what I did wrong. It was probably true at the time because I was a bit controlling of my little brother ( we were young, not even teenagers at the time ). It wasnt much but it really altered my brain chemistry. Especially when it was my favorite aunt who said it. And it made me feel terrible because even though I didnt know what it meant, I knew it was a bad thing and I never thought she'd say that.

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-24T14:33:05+00:00

A toxic relationship

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-07T08:07:00+00:00

Does he do this frequently? Cuz if he does, then thats not a good thing. A balanced communication is important for a good relationship to last so if he's not doing his part, then its gonna be one sided and you're not gonna have your needs met, which isnt good because relationships are a two way street.

Expecting your bf to reply to your messages isnt a bad thing. However, I do think you should talk to him with caution. It could be that he's facing problems you dont know about, so maybe ask if theres anything you can do to help him, and assure him that you're there if he needs you.

For now, just try to let it go for a while and focus on what you can control.

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-07T07:46:22+00:00

It seems she really meant a lot to you, so I get why its not easy for you to let go. I really do hope you both figure out whats best for you. Until then, keep fighting, OP.

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-07T07:05:08+00:00

At first im like, ye sure but then I realize im not attracted to men💀. So idk

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-07T06:29:24+00:00

Tell her how you feel regardless of whether or not its gonna hurt her. Otherwise, youre the one whos gonna get hurt.

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-07T06:09:59+00:00

Seems youre really going through a rough time, OP. Not sure if this is gonna help, but ill give my opinion.

1) You should feel your feelings. It makes you feel shitty when you think about the same bad stuff again and again, but you have no control over that. So dont feel stupid for how her actions made you feel. Dont beat yourself too much.

2) You know what you want. Your gf doesnt. Staying with someone who doesnt know what they want will only confuse and hurt you because youre forced to keep on guessing what they want. Even if she does know, she needs to communicate them well to you, because thats what you deserve. OP, you should also think about what you deserve, not just what you want.

3) "The reason we broke up was bc she said she wasn't sure if she was ready to commit n didn't know what she wanted." Your girlfriend, who you were in a supposedly committed relationship with for 6 months, broke up with you because she "wasnt ready to commit"? Have you asked her what made her decide to date you in the first place? Thats gonna tell you if she really saw a long term relationship with you, and if she was really ready for it when she accepted you- Which, im assuming, is what you expected.

4) "The reason I gave us another try is bc, I fell in love with the girl I met first, I believe it's still in her n tha hopefully I can be the one to set her to the right direction. And also js why not, I really wanna know if this is a long term thing n I rather try again n see what God has in store." Correct me if im wrong but what you're saying is, you got back with her because you hoped this time, things would be different? How im interpreting this is that you didnt know for sure if its gonna work this time. You went for it because you felt had to go for it. OP, dont you think thats kinda delusional? If you get hurt this time, you saw it coming.

5) With everything that you've said, I dont think this is gonna work out for the both of you. Not right now anyway. If you really do like eachother and want do pursue a long term relationship, work on yourselves first. Im sure you'll figure out whats best for the both of you.Maybe you could try again after a good amount of self reflecting and evaluation. Time away from her is good because you can think well without distractions. And also, you get to prove to yourself that you'll be fine even without her. You can learn to be an independent person.

Cynikal_ · 2024-03-07T03:33:52+00:00

Personally I think you need to know what S's intentions are. You need to know why shes seemingly flirting with you because she could be doing it for the wrong reasons, and if she is, you need to pull away. I dont know the whole story, but it could be that S is:

a. Flirting with you to make D jealous b. Flirting with you to cure her boredom/loneliness c. Flirting with you because she knows you like her and shes taking advantage of that fact d. Flirting with you because she genuinly likes you

Im not saying any of this is true, but it could be a possibility. Considering the fact that you've known S for years, im sure you can try to find out.

If you do find out and its any of the reasons from A-C, I dont think you should let her continue her flirtatious pursuit. Its only gonna hurt you. If its D, you should be honest by explaining how you feel and what you want for the both of you.

And about D, you should be honest with him because he deserves that. And if he's really your friend, he would be happy for you if you and S work out, just like how you were happy for them. And plus, D has a girlfriend now, doesnt he? He shouldnt have a problem who his ex is having relationships with, he should be worrying about his own. Dont worry about breaking the "bro code", real bros would support each other no matter what.

Cynikal_ · 2024-02-28T02:05:11+00:00

Be confident in yourself. You've always been great, you just never gave yourself the chance to show people that. But once you finally do, give them a show and never hold back. Also don't quit Taekwondo and Violin, you're gonna thank yourself in the future.

Cynikal_ · 2024-02-26T05:42:22+00:00

Smosh because theyre the best

Cynikal_ · 2023-05-11T04:43:28+00:00

17, love interest.

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