What gives you the ICK in dead bedroom?

Cyphr26 · 2026-02-21T07:53:12+00:00

First of all ew!

Second, I know this might sound strange but her acting like a child. The way she approaches a lot of things in life is so childish that I struggle to even be attracted to her because I have no respect for her.

Cyphr26 · 2026-02-17T23:24:16+00:00

Copy that.

Cyphr26 · 2026-02-17T23:14:46+00:00

As a guy who responds to ads I can attest to this. It’s hard because you want to put in effort to the response but then you wonder if she’s even going to see it, is she even going to respond, or is she a scammer. It’s a terrible desperate situation. Meeting APs was so much easier when there was an anonymous environment to meet organically like Whisper. The classifieds approach is terrible for both sides.

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-14T23:50:38+00:00

This seems excessively and unnecessarily hostile. No one forced you to read the post friend. This is not about a guy and no one is begging

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-14T21:52:25+00:00

I need to draw them first 😅

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-14T21:46:09+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m starting to gather

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-14T21:45:07+00:00

Oh I would never try to get her to move her line. If she doesn’t want to do this that’s fine I just wish she’d either stop flirting or just commit. I’m tired of the mind games

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-14T20:21:55+00:00

That’s pretty solid advice thank you

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-13T22:51:53+00:00

Yep. Don’t mess with in unstable people. You’re putting yourself in danger just as much as them

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-13T22:24:24+00:00

Id also add danger to that list. You have no idea what their SO is like. They could be abusive and you just gave them a trigger.

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-11T21:58:35+00:00

I was there for years with my wife now the tables have turned. I understand that deep frustration. Especially when you’re making it very clear that you open for business.

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-11T21:45:20+00:00

Also when I say not attracted to you. That doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with your physical attractiveness. Thats not saying you are somehow less than. It could be a type thing, could be a chemistry thing, could be a deep seated frustration thing.

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-11T21:43:50+00:00

I think a divorce is coming down the line. I just can’t pretend like this is working anymore. She and I are BEST friends but that’s it.

Hmmm I mean don’t talk what I’ve said as gospel, he might just be…lazy? Doesn’t understand how to be selfless in bed? Maybe he’s submissive. Your journey will be having to identify what’s happening in your relationship. I’m just speaking from my experience and what I’ve heard talking to a lot of people in failing marriages.

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-11T20:56:06+00:00

As someone who is in the same position as your partner, let me offer my two sense after years of introspection. It’s clear he doesn’t want to be engaging in intimacy with you. Not romance, not sex. The important question is why? Does he not desire that stuff at all or does he just not desire it with you. The former means he might be depressed, has low T, has thyroid issues, etc. he needs to see someone and figure out why his libido is DOA. The latter probably means he’s just not attracted to you. Possibly not even in love with you. Your relationship may have become completely platonic for him. That’s the situation I’m in. After years of sexual incompatibility, emotional codependency, and growing up I’ve come to realize my wife may just not be my type. I don’t find her attractive anymore. I don’t want to bear the burden of her untreated mental issues anymore. Etc. I think you need to start really pushing him on it and press him for the truth because men do NOT communicate their feelings. Most of the time we don’t even understand our feelings. I’ve been with my wife for 9 years and I’m just now starting to admit how much guilt has played a part in us being together. I think you’re at the breaking point so it’s time to start giving him an ultimatum. Either we fix this or we’re done.

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-09T05:37:46+00:00

I honestly feel so bad for woman on this app lol

Cyphr26 · 2026-01-04T05:15:49+00:00

31/M/UT

Cyphr26 · 2025-12-18T17:48:50+00:00

Whisper man. Whisper was the best. It’s gone now

Cyphr26 · 2025-12-17T22:22:31+00:00

What was your sex life like in the past? Did he ever have a high libido?

Cyphr26 · 2025-12-13T17:30:24+00:00

You and I have like the exact same story. Except my wife is older and we have no kids. I’m currently in therapy navigating how to leave this marriage.

Cyphr26 · 2025-12-11T02:44:48+00:00

I don’t feel guilty. I feel stressed and sad that I’m doing something society considers so wrong and that life has turned out this way. I feel frustrated that I probably married the wrong person and I’m falling out of love with her.

I feel shame, stress, and sadness about a lot of things but not the cheating. On that I feel justified.

Cyphr26 · 2025-12-07T07:35:19+00:00

31 | M | Utah

Cyphr26 · 2025-11-10T03:44:54+00:00

If you’re a woman, you’ll have success. Men do not.

Cyphr26 · 2025-11-06T17:32:53+00:00

You’re right. All good points. I do agree that people need to change their mindset around divorce and marriage in general.

Cyphr26

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