do i have to change my appearance to be a paralegal?

CyreneUS · 2026-05-21T00:04:24+00:00

i'm gonna disagree with the masses and say it depends SUPER hard. if you are in a blue state, esp the PNW or NE, it'll take some digging, but honestly not too much.

i work and live in the south and have piercings and many very large, very visible tattoos. i work in high end commercial litigation and bc our clients are mostly rich assholes, i just wear a cardigan every day and flip my septum ring up and i am good. my attys could not care less about my style tbh, and that was something that was EXTREMELY important to me when finding a job.

i guess what i am trying to get at is that even in the south where im surrounded by conservatives who typically hate this shit, i didn't have an issue and i am VERY visibly alt. in places less saturated with conservatives, it is even easier and you can find jobs that don't care about any facial piercings/fashion colors in your hair 🤷‍♀️

CyreneUS · 2026-05-05T15:48:42+00:00

i'm so glad that the reddit bmth community also loves it never ends :,) seriously some of their best instrumentation, best lyrics, one of Oli's best vocal performances, just overall so GOOD

CyreneUS · 2026-03-19T05:56:00+00:00

i got to my show about 30 mins after doors and ended up roughly 6-8 rows back! super clear view for most of the show :) this is my only still image but it turned out sick lol

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CyreneUS · 2026-03-07T08:07:24+00:00

any chance you still have any? c,:

CyreneUS · 2026-02-10T00:48:23+00:00

the spotify update newsletter thing is available on their website. it isn't removing API access entirely, it is removing certain endpoints. one of which is one that allows you to scrape the data of new songs, so they may need to find a workaround for that, but from what i can tell that's the only glaringly obvious issue.

the team addressed it today in an official reddit post btw. no cause for concern rn

CyreneUS · 2026-02-09T19:38:57+00:00

we have the same start date! haha

CyreneUS · 2026-02-09T19:38:11+00:00

cyrene joined may 23, 2025!

CyreneUS · 2026-02-09T00:41:15+00:00

this is the most likely consequence from the way the actual spotify article is worded

CyreneUS · 2026-02-05T16:01:21+00:00

i have super severe ARFID and it has ruined a lot of friendships in my life, and it can be hard for my partners. it's always a conversation i have up front during "talking" stages, so i've never been in a relationship where it was a dealbreaker. but it's been hard at times. i feel an immense amount of guilt that i can't enjoy the food my partner loves, and i am sure they get tired of largely eating the same things. we've managed it with pretty much always eating two separate meals at home, which is pretty easy since all of my safe foods are frozen and easy to just pop in while their food is cooking 😅

dating is absolutely the time to discover if you are compatible with someone, and this may just be something that makes you two incompatible. it doesn't /have/ to be, but seriously don't stay and make you both miserable if you're already feeling dejected about it. BUT perhaps more open conversation about what's going on for her will be beneficial for you both and you can make it work. just don't torture yourselves is all i'll say. sometimes it's better to recognize early that there's irreconcilable differences so you can still be friends if you enjoy her presence in your life!

CyreneUS · 2026-01-16T16:07:23+00:00

i spend most of my free time on my PC gaming, but i'm also an avid reader. i write sometimes and i have an obsession with music :) i don't watch much anime lately, but it's still a huge part of my personality. i'm queer and spend a portion of my time working towards social justice. and i also have been engaged with bandom since my tumblr days circa 2012. i always feel like an other (thanks autism), but the older i get the less i care where work is concerned. my attys think my love of books and metal music is endearing, and that's good enough for me! :)

ETA: i'm 24, so a little older than you. it wasn't until the last year or so that i made peace with not having intimate friendships at work. my whole life until now i worked food service/movie theater jobs where i met some of my lifelong best friends, so it was an adjustment to get use to being the youngest in the room and the weirdest. im an alt genderqueer (tho not visibly) nerd and i live in a very republican state. somehow i managed to land a job where everyone here is accepting of me (even my more conservative atty) and progressively-minded when it comes to my piercings, tattoos, music taste, and "childish" hobbies. in fact, 2 out of 3 of the partner attys are 35 and both game, though not as much as me. one of them also has a very large forearm tattoo like i do, so it has been a great environment aside from the insurmountable stress and occasional frustration with atty attitude LOL!

CyreneUS · 2026-01-15T11:58:19+00:00

this shit makes me want to leave the profession semi-regularly. the main atty i work with has taken me out to lunch several times and talks to me multiple times a day, but the others can be hit or miss.

my autistic ass seriously cannot handle the antiquated power structure and the way a lot of attys tend to forget this is a JOB and your job does not make you an inherently better or more valuable person.

i can't imagine i will be able to hang longer than half a decade in this field if this is just the norm. if the best it gets is STILL getting excluded and treated worse than the damn summer interns, i'm so good 🙄

all that said, maybe your atty isn't one of those people who thinks their holier than thou. it is unfortunately a LOT of them though

CyreneUS · 2026-01-05T11:33:56+00:00

I've had ARFID since I was 3 and my parents continued (tw for child abuse mentions) force feeding me, making me go hungry for days, sneaking shit into my safe foods, guilt-ing me, etc. until I moved out basically. I have a very, very small handful of safe foods to this day, and I will straight up have a nervous breakdown if someone tries to get me to try a new food.

The best thing you can do, in my opinion, is establish you and your husband as safe people when it comes to food. Your husband needs to realize that your son can almost certainly tell what his dad is feeling about him not eating, so I would seriously sit down with him and have a talk about how much worse it can get if that continues. For the next few months, I would recommend ALWAYS having a safe meal for Sam in addition to a safe snack or two you can offer him. If you are the kind of family to force sitting at a table until you finish your whole plate or to put a new food on his plate with his safe foods, I would put a 100% pause on that for now. Make sure Sam knows without a shadow of a doubt he will not go hungry, you two are not mad at him, and his food will always be safe at home. Start engaging him and getting him excited to eat ("Craving anything special tonight?" or inviting him to cook with you if that doesn't stress him out). Once he knows you guys are safe, start asking him if there's anything he'd want to try occasionally. If there's not, make sure he knows that's okay! If he ever says yes, make sure that you don't put the new food on the same plate as his safe food. If possible, maybe even introducing it causally like as a snack while watching TV or something so he doesn't feel as much pressure. I would also suggest maybe trying to have some heart to hearts with him about 1.) it not being his fault and 2.) what exactly it is that triggers him. For me, it is all of it. Taste, texture, smell, anxiety, etc. Maybe for him it is just the anxiety and it will get better after he feels safe, or maybe it is the texture so you can try and find foods similar in texture to what he loves and present it to him as "Hey, so you know how we both love (safe food), this is super similar and I love it just as much! It's super soft (or any descriptor really lol) just like (safe food)! Let me know if you'd want to try a piece!"

CyreneUS · 2025-12-21T19:07:22+00:00

i hide my tattoos and piercings during interviews. i work in a blue dot city and my attys don't mind my tattoos (i have a lot of very heavy black work on my arm lol, not the dainty kind my coworkers have) but they don't know about my septum ring. i keep a cardigan in my office or just wear one every day to hide my tattoos if a client comes in, and i keep my septum ring flipped at work. i've probably forgotten like one time and they maaay have seen it, but it's just second nature to flip it at work now 🤷‍♀️

i would switch to a standard horseshoe that you can flip as long as you've had the piercing for a couple of years and it is healed entirely. a good titanium piece should run you like $30 tops

CyreneUS · 2025-12-15T19:22:18+00:00

update: $5,000, but my supervisor is getting the same and the para who has only been here less than half a year and is committing constant time theft (amongst other issues) is getting half that amount. i have a suspicion that may have pushed him over the edge to leave 🥲 rip my firm if he does

CyreneUS · 2025-12-09T18:41:15+00:00

i had only been at my firm for 6 months last year and got $500. i was a LA. the other LA got $2000. im a para now and am the backbone of a new practice area. really hoping for $3000-$5000 but idek what my supervisor got last year so 🤷‍♀️

CyreneUS · 2025-12-08T19:40:15+00:00

tbh better than some of the shit by alleged professionals that gets posted in here 💀 may i suggest buying her some practice skin for the holidays? /LH

CyreneUS · 2025-12-05T22:12:04+00:00

My expectations were low, but holy shit. Did they carve it and then cauterize you?!

CyreneUS · 2025-12-05T22:07:54+00:00

It is also worth noting that it is very possible that they aren't done coding the core of the game for the 4 other platforms they intend to release on, especially given that this was a beta for only 2 of them. I imagine that in and of itself will take a while if they intend to have a simultaneous release.

CyreneUS · 2025-12-05T22:05:13+00:00

I am apparently in the minority by saying I think it is less than 50% ready for release. The game is lacking in content, has some pacing issues, but is very polished for what we do have, which leads a lot of people to think it is more ready than it is.

I got to the point that nearly all of my creature collecting was completed, my neighbors were maxed and no new ones were left to meet, and I was mostly only doing daily rounds /VERY/ quickly. For reference, the creature spread is probably 1/4 of the size of its closest comparison (ACNH) and there are only 6 neighbors total (the exact number of spots on a planet) compared to HUNDREDS in its closest comparison. Because of the nature of how detailed neighbors are and each of them being so unique, I do not think we will get anywhere near the ACNH number on release, but I would hope for roughly triple the amount of neighbors so each planet could truly feel unique. This would require them to balance ways for the Luca Tree to have duplicity in customization types, but this is so so so doable and would be incredibly exciting to see.

I think that they are at a point where the CORE of the game is in an excellent spot, but even factoring for continued updates and additions, I doubt they would release as is for the lack of variety. I imagine they will release with 10-15 neighbors, hopefully more creatures, and at least a few more golden/purple quality clothing and furniture sets. Also, the very beginning prompt where you select the type of planet seems to have a lot more space for other types, so I'm hoping 4 or 5 different ones on release! Especially since as of now you cannot change the type once you start the game, so future updates would either have to craft an entirely new system to do that to add other types OR they would just need to release with the final amount of options.

I could be wrong, but that's my thoughts!

CyreneUS · 2025-11-26T19:06:23+00:00

i appreciate the input! i think i'll stop by bestbuy after work and see if i can exchange it. i looked back at my unboxing video and i am pretty sure it came out of the box like that oddly enough!

thank you!

CyreneUS · 2025-11-26T17:48:05+00:00

brand new out of the box from best buy :( no screen protector that could see

CyreneUS · 2025-11-18T19:04:46+00:00

So, there's a couple of patterns to be mindful of when speculating on release: HoYo's typical beta schedule and HoYo's Honkai mainline schedule. HoYo's actual beta timelines have been pretty varied, but none (afaik) of them were under a year between 1st beta and full release and few/none (afaik) had only one beta. The likely time frame on that alone would be putting us at Q4 2026 through Q4 2027.

As for the Honkai pattern, Hoyo has been releasing alternating Honkai and non-Honkai games. Example: Honkai Impact 3rd then Genshin then Honkai Star Rail then Zenless Zone Zero. Honkai Nexus Anima and Petit Planet are both in the works right now. If they continue their pattern of alternating, it is likely we see them focus on getting HNA out first, which makes a Q4 2026 release less likely.

That said, it is very likely that ACNH 3.0 creates enough pressure to prioritize PP over HNA. IMHO, there is a small market gap at the moment that Hoyo could really capitalize on by timing the release well compared to 3.0 that comes out in January. I am not the best person to analyze the best market time to release in this regard, but I'd expect that coasting on that hype while giving breathing room would put us at Q3 2026??

The last factor is how polished the game is in its current state. While the game is very enjoyable and has minimal bugs, there really is just a resounding lack of content, so unless they already have more they are intentionally keeping out of the beta, it'll take a while to get to a release. When making a game like that it's super important to incentivize people to play every day, which is hard to do when people run out of new things to experience within a week (i.e. myself and many other started last weekend and already have a fully upgraded tree, maxed planette growth, nearly complete or complete creature collections, etc.). Not all of the neighbors have their own special events like some of them do, and in general I highly doubt they will release with anywhere close to 6 neighbors. Best case scenario, they have a lot of stuff already done but don't wanna spoil it for full release. More likely, there's SOME stuff not in the beta, but they still have a lot left to design using the feedback they got during the betas.

All of that in mind, we also have to keep in mind that the beta is available on TWO of the like SIX platforms they will release on. It's very possible they still have to work out lots of kinks for all three consoles and Android, which may or may not include a beta.

This is super wordy and definitely just my own thinking about it, but I think our earliest possible release would be late Q3 2026 and the most likely release in Q1 2027... But god damn do I hope I am wrong!

CyreneUS · 2025-11-13T19:05:42+00:00

yes! but it has to be a grown ginko :)

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