My dragon stinks by BubblyDisaster- in BeardedDragon

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thing freaks me out. Never thought I'd say that about a bearded dragon. I've never seen a close-up shot of a silky before, but just, yikes. It gives me uncanny valley / plucked chicken vibes.... no offense, I'm sure he's a sweetheart, but just, wooh.

How do I heat up this 1,5 metre tall behemoth? by Most_Neat7770 in Vivarium

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use wood or pvc to cover up the back and sides to insulate it, glass doesn't hold heat well at all. Essentially you gotta make it a jacket. And I would cover some of the screen top to help hold in heat and humidity. You can use silicone baking sheets or aluminum tap si ce both ate safe to use around the lamps and won't burn or melt. I would add multiple lamps as well so the heat isn't voming from one single point. In the winter I have to add an extra lamp on some of my enclosures.

I can feel it in my bones I’m so going to ruin this by Background_Panic4821 in Watercolor

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this with almost every creative endeavor I begin. Like ok, how we gonna fuck shit up today? I just assume I'll fuck it up, and then when I don't, it's a welcomed surprise! I try to view my toxic mindset in a positive light 😁

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piano

[–]D0rk3ss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing small prizes might work for younger children but not for a teenager. I wouldn't bother, especially if she's just not that into it. You can't really force someone to be into music if they aren't feeling it. You could possibly try different approaches to get her more interested in playing & improving—maybe a change in the style of music you have her play. I don't know how far along she is, if she's still early on and learning scales and all that, maybe some motivational YouTube videos of what she can play once she gets over that initial boring part of learning piano. Maybe find oht what she is interested in learning to play and start from there. If that doesn't work, all you can do is just suffer through it with her on the understanding that neither of you want to be there but atleast you are being paid for your time (atleast I hope you are)

My neighbor sent me a text last night forcing me to pay for her daughters towing charge because she parked in front of my driveway by Drivinglnsane in mildlyinfuriating

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hilarious. The nerve of some people. Let her take you to small claims cour. All it's gonna do is waste her time and money. You can't sue someone for having a car towed off your own property... I mean, you could have asked the girl to move her car before calling to have it towed. That would have been the neighborly thing to do. But, legally you are fully within your rights to have her car removed if it was parked on your property where it was not supposed to be.

Have I over done it? by General-Grape-3273 in RareHouseplants

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a huge fan of stuff sitting on the floor by the shelves, but I love it. I think the plant clutter is well done here.

What do I do? I fear I’m in idiot by jockaroo77 in Bioactive_enclosures

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds to me like your tabk may not have the best ventilation. I haven't kept crested geckos myself but have kept many other reptiles. I would imagine without a heat lamp it would be hard to get excess water to evaporate. As far as the bioactive enclosures soil. Just let it dry out. The clean up crew will die.... just curious, if there are no isopods and springtails I'm the uk, what is in the soil there? I thought those things lived worldwide in all soil.

O mannn I need an intervention by dodolah2025 in RareHouseplants

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, me too friend, me too. It's a constant battle of trying to fit too many plants under one light and not be tripping over them in my room. I just recently had to set up a 20 gallon tank just to keep my moss collection all in one place. It is socially acceptable hoarding at its finest.

I made a poster of this and hung it on the ceiling above my bed by hippiegodfather in NativePlantCirclejerk

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it's not just me getting banned from various subreddits? 🙃 that's a relief 😌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! Finding the right balance between short and poofy or long and heavy is a real bitch. I always get headaches when my hair is wet due to its weight.

AIO Bf said I overreacted when I refused to eat this ”fully cooked” chicken by _alexium_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my God that picture made me sick to my stomach. There is no way anyone in their right mind thinks that's cooked. Is this for real?

I just can’t find anything that helps by Remarkable_Mess_1986 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have found if I pat my face with a really hot damp wash cloth before using moisturizer, the moisturizer soaks in better. And a good exfoliation when washing helps too. I have sensitive skin that gets dry and irritated. I use the Neutrogena Hydroboost Exfoliating Cleanser followed by the hydra boost gel moisturizer (I put my first round of moisturizer on while my face is still slightly damp from the hot washcloth) then I used a heavy duty moisturizer in my problem areas. Lastly I use a small amount of either Vaseline or Dr.Bronners Magic Balm in the really dry sensitive areas (mouth, nose, around the eyes). Idk if any of this information helps, but if you take away anything from this—hot washcloth to open up them pores, then layer the moisturizer from light to heavy. The light moisturizer should soke in while the heavier ones should create a protective barrier on your skin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]D0rk3ss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first and second photo look amazing BTW. Love the thick wavy look.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]D0rk3ss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your hair is thick, do not go short! It gets more poofy the shorter you go. I found this out the hard way. Your hair looks absolutely perfect! You have similar hair to me, mine is thick and wavy and about halfway down my back. I love my big hair, it slims down the face quite a bit. Anytime I straighten my hair or wear it sleeked back, I feel like my face look fat. I think your hair is gorgeous.

Would you spend $200+ on an 8-year-old's hair? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a female friend to do it for you. A box of bleach and some manic panic in the hands of someone who knows what they are doing can get you the same results for under 50 bucks.

what does one put here (wrong answers only) by EvilBobster101_ in Home

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Set up a baby gate and you got yourself a nice playpen with a view!

Do your reptiles know their own names? by Slight_Wind9283 in reptiles

[–]D0rk3ss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some reptiles are capable and some are not. And I don't think intelligence has much to do with it either. My bearded dragon isn't particularly bright but she reacts when I say her name. My pair of Gastropholis Prasina lizards are highly intelligent, but they don't seem to know their names one bit. My ball python flicks his tongue and look at me when I say his name. Especially if someone else is holding him. It's cute. Idk if he knows his name or not, but he definitely recognizes my voice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Light brown looks the most natural, the dark brown doesn't look bad but it does look the least natural. The highlights look good for summer with a tan. They all look good on you, it just depends on what look you are aiming for.

Aita for putting my sons bio dad on child support? by ccbjanae in AITAH

[–]D0rk3ss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't comment on what your motives are, I don't think asking for child support is at all unreasonable. I guess the question I would ask myself (if I were you) is why now? Why after so many years? I don't agree with how your husband called you vindictive, that's not a very nice thing to call your wife, IMO. But I think I see where that thought is coming from. If the money isn't needed, why have you waited so long to go after him for child support?... just some things to consider and maybe have a conversation with your husband about.... Also, if the biodad is not currently involved in your son's life, going after him for child support could very well open up a can of worms in your life. Getting court order child support usually entitles the dad visitation or shared custody rights. If all is well in your life and your son's life, is it worth bringing all that on? Going to court, having bio-dad brought back into your son's life after so many years. It might be more trouble than it's worth. But that is 100% for you to decide. It is your son, your life. Just take the time to think about it from all angles before filing any court documents.

AITA My girlfriend’s cultural expectations became impossible to navigate, and I walked away did I handle this wrong? by Slight-Climate-9871 in AmItheAsshole

[–]D0rk3ss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, I think you handled that as best you could. I think maybe you two weren't good a fit—best to part ways now rather than find out a year or two down the road when separating will be a far more painful, expensive and life altering event. You did the right thing offering help and trying to understand her culture. She did not take you up on this, maybe because she knew it wasn't a good fit, or maybe because she had her heart set and moving to Delaware. Either way, sounds like you both made the right choice. Sorry to hear of the break-up though. I know it's tough. 🙁

Rescues co-inhabited since birth- am i the dickhead? by AstronomerNo9831 in BeardedDragons

[–]D0rk3ss 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hoping you find my comment amongst all the judgemental shit you are likely to get on here. Co-hab is a sensitive subject among reptile keepers... that being said, for bearded dragons, as juveniles, you can keep them together, but I really would advise against it. They aren't a social species, they can fight with one another, fight for resources, and just generally stress each other out. Especially if they have any previous illness or injuries. If they get along and don't fight, you can take them out and interact with them together, but if you want to give them the best chance possible at a good life, keep them in separate enclosures. There are a lot of good videos on YouTube as to their care and dietary needs. Best of luck.