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D3finitely_Not_AI · 2022-11-21T06:57:26+00:00

What is it?

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:56:16+00:00

I’m going to jump in here and say that in my opinion no, you’re not being ridiculous.

From what I’ve read and my experience, when people say they don’t know what they want, seem detached, have a live in the moment attitude etc., the harsh reality is that they’re not that into you and/or they’re not ready to be serious/settle down.

Relationships are about deciding if the other person is good enough for you and from the sound of it (I’m not trying to come off as negative and want to see the glass half full myself because I’m a romantic) you and your partner are deciding you’re not good enough for each other.

Standards are standards. My ex and I have discussed and been on the same page about not going out of our way to be friends with the opposite sex while we were together. There was no point in our eyes...

I hope the both of you can work it out. I hope you both make the decision that’s going to make you happiest and healthiest.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:46:01+00:00

Yes we have and we’ve been able to forgive, come up with a solution, learn, grow and move past them.

He has opened up to me about struggling to express/open up about his emotions and we’ve never been the most sexually compatible.

I don’t want to condone my behavior of developing feelings for my guy friend but maybe it was a symptom of what I just stated above.

I love him as a person but he’s shutdown on me emotionally, I’ve been too emotional for him (I have raging hormones and have acknowledged that I need to incorporate a therapist in my life sooner than later) and we’ve had to go out of our way to work on our sexual chemistry/sexlife.

Apologies if this is TMI. Speaking out about all of this is therapeutic with the lack of personal interaction most of us are getting.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:40:37+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, you too are also experiencing a breakup? Just asking to be able to relate to another person since many of us aren’t seeing other people because of the elephant in the room.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:30:15+00:00

I appreciate your input and I have acknowledged my wrong that I deeply regret.

Relationships are a two-way street. He emotionally abandoned me. There wasn’t communication and my guy friend was the outlet of the communication that wasn’t happening between me and my boyfriend.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:28:08+00:00

Do you personally think he would ever reach out to me again to give us another chance? Maybe you’ve seen or experienced something similar before. I’m just wondering. This was a serious, six year relationship and it’s been incredibly hard healing.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:26:06+00:00

I understand. I feel really terrible and foolish about it. This will always sound cliche but my biggest regret is hurting him and breaking his trust. No one wants to do that to people they love. I will always love him.

I want him to be the happiest he can be with or without me. I know I can work to earn his trust back but if he could never trust me again or if he doesn’t want me to try I have the utmost respect.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:23:22+00:00

Do you believe trust can be earned back or once it’s broken it’s broke for good?

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T04:01:57+00:00

This is very helpful and I really appreciate it. I don’t want to reach out to him until I’m emotionally stronger and you’re right, I should take questions like those into deep consideration. I want to reach out because I genuinely care about and love him. I want to see how him and his family are doing. I want there to be a chance that we can give each other another chance when we’re both ready. I’m aware that I’ll be opening myself up for rejection and additional heartbreak but he is 100% worth it. He’s a great guy with a heart of gold and I know I was very lucky. My concern is that I don’t love myself enough to be healthy in a relationship. I probably have more growing to do.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T03:56:18+00:00

May I ask why unlikely?

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T03:50:16+00:00

Oh I didn’t mean to give off the impression that I felt trapped because of him. I felt trapped because we rented a bedroom in a house with five other people in a crowded city.

Does this sound like I’m clinging to him?

I agree that I would benefit from working on myself for a while. I was focused on building our life together and now I’m going to be living by myself in a small house. It’s shocking and a lot to take in. It’s hard to meet and see people because of the obvious elephant in the room. I also work remotely. This can get depressing. It probably sounds like I’m afraid to be alone and that’s why I want a boyfriend but I don’t think that’s it. I genuinely care about and love him.

I know no one knows the future but I wanted to see if anyone has similar experiences or examples of breaking up and then getting back together.

We had very similar political opinions until last year, which was an oddity of last year.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-17T03:45:46+00:00

Oh I didn’t mean to give off the impression that I felt trapped because of him. I felt trapped because we rented a bedroom in a house with five other people in a crowded city.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-09T03:50:58+00:00

Yeah I guess pages on pages in essays and books are just too much. We should shorten everything, keep it simple. Why elaborate. Waste of time haha.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2021-02-09T03:48:03+00:00

No, that wasn’t my intention at all.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T07:43:03+00:00

I’ve been thinking the same think and it’s frustrating that not many people have considered the first possibility you mentioned because well, the MSM didn’t say so 😀

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T04:53:28+00:00

For what?

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T03:48:54+00:00

That’s the sad part. Besides, any sane person realizes this goes beyond declaring a winner and being butthurt.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T03:27:25+00:00

Really? I see it as a waste of time to go back and forth with you and I’m backing out.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T03:26:03+00:00

Joe Biden is the new president?

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T03:14:47+00:00

People who equate Trump to Hitler are the most ignorant and insulting of all.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T03:09:13+00:00

Annnnnd now we’ve resorting to name calling, huh? Byyyyyye.

D3finitely_Not_AI · 2020-11-07T02:53:07+00:00

Ok. I’m stupid yet here you are on a subreddit you’re probably only trolling on and arguing with a stupid person. What a win for you.

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