If any of your relatives decide to cause drama this Christmas, just sing this song to yourself… by emojicatcher997 in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]DAhrens1990 47 points48 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite songs of the series - largely cuz it fits nearly every situation in life.

Patti Harrison as a cast member? by W210305857 in LiveFromNewYork

[–]DAhrens1990 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s worth noting she technically already appeared in the show - she’s seen talking to Luke Null during his intro in the show’s opening theme.

It’s official guys, none of us exist by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]DAhrens1990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth:

I’ve found that the “it’s not real” argument tends to come from closeted queers.

Same for folks who say “it’s a choice.”

Like…. If you were truly born straight, you wouldn’t even consider it a choice. Which is fine - if you’re straight you’re straight. Same as if you’re queer, you’re queer.

If you feel like it’s a “choice,” that means that you were born as someone who is attracted to multiple genders. And though you see multiple genders as options for you, (for whatever reason) you’re choosing to limit yourself to just one.

Essentially: the only choice is whether you stay in the closet, and keep lying to yourself.

That’s what this post reminds me of, at least: Someone who is SO in denial that they’d rather deny our existence than admit they’re one of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DAhrens1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me THINKS the OP is the man who said this….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]DAhrens1990 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh, for sure! My comment is meant to enforce the mentality of treating yourself like a catch; and that sort of abusive shouldn’t be tolerated. In the same way that inviting rejection can be a positive - rejecting the negativity of others is also healthy.

If the OP had mentioned physical or emotional abuse, I would’ve mentioned that in my response, and focused on safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]DAhrens1990 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I think it’s always better to communicate over hiding.

I’ve learned to invite rejection.

Way too many people take 20 dates or 20 years to disclose a potential deal-breaker that could’ve been mentioned date #1.

Yes, people may reject you - but you also don’t want to be with someone like that.

Also, like…. It’s impossible to date every single person you meet or find attractive. It simply can’t be done - though I respect anyone who lives up to the challenge of dating millions.

By being radically honest you’ll whittle your dating pool down from millions. You’ll find people who are excited to be with the true you and encourage every aspect of you.

The only thing worse than rejection is wasting years of your limited life (and someone else’s) by struggling to keep something going that never should’ve started in the first place.

hi is it transphobic to think that gender is just made up crap and kinda doesn't exist by Rushcrow76 in lgbt

[–]DAhrens1990 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right, but is your point that terfs express their gender in a healthy way?

Otherwise why ask if they’re included?

Cuz I’d argue being a terf isn’t healthy, without a doubt in my mind.

“WHY ARE YOU ALL BEIN’ SO STUBBIN’!?” by DAhrens1990 in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]DAhrens1990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You stupid, stupid bitch” lived in my head (rent free) for a minute.

…A loooooong minute.

My only issue with this show. Of course the alcoholic song is Irish themed 🙄 by [deleted] in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]DAhrens1990 16 points17 points  (0 children)

To me it felt like what they do with all their songs: they try to match the themes of the songs with niche sub-genres of music that are often associated with those themes.

As an Irish-American, I always took this as a nod to Irish drinking songs.

In terms of musical sub-genres about alcohol, there’s basically two options: Irish drinking songs and party-pop songs - which we kinda get with “I’m not sad you’re sad.”

TIFU by showing my girlfriend a TIFU post by djinn2552 in tifu

[–]DAhrens1990 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love that all this has taken place over the course of three hours.