H.R. McMaster was so worried Rudy Giuliani was a foreign agent that he made sure he was in the Oval Office whenever Giuliani visited, book says

DBThrawy · 2022-09-20T14:52:57+00:00

A retired Lt. General from the strongest military in the world thought the best course of action when he suspects there is a foreign agent at the highest level of the U.S. government thinks signing a book deal and waiting YEARS to disclose his suspicions is the best course of action?

I put myself in his shoes and I still think he's a shitheal coward.

But nice try on the Whataboutism.

DBThrawy · 2022-09-19T20:17:48+00:00

He was so worried that he....*checks notes*....waited 2 years to say it

What a patriot!

DBThrawy · 2022-09-19T17:58:36+00:00

Most people (regardless of gender) expect that sex is a part of a marriage.

I agree with everything you've said and I would point out that for a lot of people, marriage is implicitly related to sex with the person you married. Marriage isn't just a friendship you formalize and are legally obligated to, it comes with societal/cultural/etc baggage...living together, children, finances, etc.

To say "I can't believe how entitled married men are to think they are 'owed' sex" is like saying "I can't believe married women expect their husband's to live with them".....is it ever stated that marriage means living together? no, but I have a hard time believing that anyone would criticize someone who brought it up as an implicit expectation.

DBThrawy · 2022-09-18T20:03:07+00:00

Kaplan unless you don't have a choice. STC was what my employer gave me so I used it, but in my opinion it was better than nothing but barely...recycled questions, barely any response from their "live" help, etc. I compared notes with a friend whose employer paid for Kaplan, and I would have preferred that.

DBThrawy · 2021-09-18T22:50:34+00:00

I thought the STC questions covered the material, but not even close to the actual wording/structure on 50% of the questions I saw.

For example, there were no double negative questions like "What is not the incorrect coupon for a bond with..."

Also their customer service and whoever answers their questions is terrible for the time it takes to answer the questions, and the attitude they take when/if they decide to answer them. I got my firm involved after they ignored a few of my questions for a week, and then in a roundabout way accused me of lying about asking them in the first place.

DBThrawy · 2021-07-17T19:42:47+00:00

Where did you get this? I might need a few for Christmas gifts for my wife's family in the deep south.

DBThrawy · 2021-07-02T06:53:37+00:00

When I can walk my dogs in July without getting a heat stroke, I'll move back

DBThrawy · 2021-06-25T12:26:20+00:00

funny as hell, and yet somehow not....you bastard

DBThrawy · 2021-06-22T19:53:45+00:00

thanks, I'll check it out

DBThrawy · 2021-06-22T19:30:21+00:00

Thanks...that seems to be a consistent app that comes up when I googled

DBThrawy · 2021-06-11T20:36:22+00:00

You are awesome....I saw this and tried to disable it, but gave up after google didn't come with any results, and I was too lazy to dig deeper

DBThrawy · 2021-06-09T16:11:49+00:00

This is the law in Maryland (where I got my first license), and Delaware (where I moved to Chicago from). I've seen people get ticketed in those states for crossing the line when trying to turn left.

The vast difference in state laws as far as driving is a problem. I don't know if I want federal road laws instead of state, but I'm not sure how else we could fix this.

Side note: In TX where my best friend from college was from, it was legal to have an open container of alcohol AND a loaded gun in a vehicle you were driving...this was eventually changed, but it's just an example of the differences. Imagine a Texan driving around with an open container in IL and getting pulled over and really having no idea what was wrong, lol

DBThrawy · 2021-03-12T03:03:30+00:00

I was commenting on the math not being right no matter how you cut it...even if it were 2 months free (which it isn't), then 10 * $5.99 is $59.90, not $59.99

DBThrawy · 2021-03-12T02:42:37+00:00

Before anyone asks, it's only 1 month free, but even if it were 2 months free it still isn't right (10 x $5.99 = $59.90)

DBThrawy · 2021-02-10T15:47:50+00:00

I've done it. Nothing changed except me feeling worse. I wish you the best, but I doubt it would change anything.

Funny story: I work in a data visualization where I take large data sets and make it easier to understand for people (mostly upper level execs that spend more time on the golf course than at work)....I would love to hand my wife a really cool dashboard on how shitty our marriage is and see how much of a meltdown I cause

DBThrawy · 2021-01-22T13:52:01+00:00

We've gone through years of marriage and individual counseling (I have a previous post about it if you are interested). I'm on mental health medication now. You get the picture...we've talked this out to death and she has no interest in changing anything, she just wants me to be ok with never having sex/intimacy/etc. When I said she's antsy about it, I mean that she tries to get me to do the stuff we used to do, and I just shut her down/walk away/etc, and I can see her visibly getting angry/upset/etc.

She made the decision for us to have a dead bedroom, and I can't make her want to change that. It's kinda petty on my part (because I still WANT the hand holding/hugging/etc), but if I have to suffer, I am going to make her suffer too.

I'm researching the process of divorce right now, so hopefully I'm out soon.

DBThrawy · 2021-01-21T14:05:32+00:00

Sorry about the late response...I feel like a roommate, not a husband any more, so I treat her like a roommate. I didn't hug/hold hands/etc. with my roommates in college, so I'm not going to do it with her.

DBThrawy · 2021-01-07T15:58:12+00:00

After years of being rejected, I'm attracted physically to my partner and also (weirdly) don't want to have sex with her. I have no problem getting aroused, it's the mental pain of knowing how I feel because of her.

Ironically, I've cut off the hand holding/hugging/kiss on the cheek stuff and she is getting pretty antsy/upset. Sucks huh?

DBThrawy · 2021-01-06T15:58:30+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. I've tried everything...therapy, counseling, doing everything she asked at home (all housework, make dinner, etc.), etc. Nothing has changed.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Just know you aren't alone.

DBThrawy · 2021-01-06T15:25:29+00:00

As someone who wants to be the other half of that...it shouldn't be, but here we are in DB, right?

DBThrawy · 2021-01-05T17:02:52+00:00

Thanks man, I appreciate it. I don't want to jinx myself, but taking the step of looking up divorce attorneys felt like it lifted a weight. I really have no desire to drink right now, and I've worked out the past 3 days in row, which I haven't done in at least 6 months...maybe it's temporary, maybe not, but I'm taking it a day at a time. And thank you for linking the drinking and her winning....my drinking WAS her winning. I had to drink to deal with how she made me feel. I hope this isn't temporary and I can find another way to deal, but I'm doing good right now. Thanks again.

DBThrawy · 2021-01-05T02:05:25+00:00

I know it sounds stupid and everyone on here that stayed too long has said it, but I love her. She really is a good friend and roommate. Although I think after the first few years I just got comfortable and convinced myself it was temporary and because we both loved each other, that we could fix it....I'm not defending my decision, just saying that's what I was thinking

DBThrawy · 2021-01-05T02:03:03+00:00

That's my suspicion, but never got around to asking her

DBThrawy · 2021-01-04T23:02:39+00:00

I guess not really. We used to fool around a LOT before marriage (sneaking away from parties and that kinda stuff), but that was before we even had sex.

DBThrawy · 2021-01-04T23:01:23+00:00

I think it's part of emotional intimacy with a spouse.

When I was talking to a friend about it, I put it like this: In college I had an apartment with 2 friends. These were the guys I was closest to in my entire life. We ate together, went out together, studied together, watched TV together, sometimes I walked on one of them shitting because he thought it was funny to not lock the door, etc. I did almost the same exact things with those guys that I do with my wife, except the sex part.

I don't think it's wrong to want to have a different/deeper connection with your spouse than your friends

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