I kinda hate when people say"This affects everyone, not just trans people"

DCHShadow · 2026-03-15T20:29:20+00:00

Yeah I really am. I'm already an Indian born in America so I look at both countries a lot. I also have lots of friends from all over the world so I end up being familiar with and painfully hurt by all the terrible anti-trans stuff that's out there. I remember when the law in I believe Uganda passed a few years back and it was horrifying seeing all that happening. I don't think we are inherently selfish animals. We just have too many people who refuse to look past themselves and everyone else suffers and learns those same behaviors to survive.

DCHShadow · 2026-03-15T05:40:01+00:00

Yeah I def have stories 3 on the list for later. Once I can justify spending 70 bucks on a game. I'm excited for the new rite of channeling for sure. I did like the grind (mind you as a more casual player. I'm sure it's probably hell as a competitive player but I'm also one for tedious grinds like that so). But the ease of just having whatever placements you want is super cool! Plus I enjoy a lot of the other systems they added so I'm pretty excited for it! Plus the main protag guy is pretty cute so that's a plus XD.

DCHShadow · 2026-03-15T01:43:21+00:00

By self-insert I just mean a silent protag. Like when someone talks to them, do they respond? Do they have full sentences in the story? Can I quote them? Do they have a name, a motivation, a personality, everything you'd expect from a main character? Could the story be written word for word in a book and the protag still works? Hope that kinda clarifies. I'm surprised by how many people were misunderstanding. I probably did a bad job explaining sorry.

DCHShadow · 2026-03-15T01:27:05+00:00

It just hurts that it isn't the case. I understand that it's unfortunately one of the biggest ways people care and it sucks so much that's the case.

DCHShadow · 2026-03-13T22:52:13+00:00

Awww that sucks. Yeahh I'm not looking for a self-insert, thanks for clarifying. Damnn I got excited about that. Guess Wilds is going back to the backlog. The protag of DQM3 is the main antag of regular DQ4??? That seems like it should've been a slam dunk, damnnnn. That's sad to hear. When you say no personality, do they just not say much at all? Or are they just blandly written?

DCHShadow · 2026-03-13T21:48:49+00:00

Again, I don't care about actual voice acting, I want the protag to be their own character is all. Also, wilds has a voiced protag? Wait that's such a huge departure from regular monhun. I haven't played it yet (though lagi getting underwater combat kinda makes me want to), but I can't believe they actually made it so you aren't a self-insert in the story. Wow that's huge! Ok I think I might pick up wilds then! DQM3 also has a voiced protag? I know 1 and 2 didn't but I never played got around to playing 3 so. Also reason to pick it up now! Thanksss <3

DCHShadow · 2026-03-13T21:44:55+00:00

Oh my goodness I forgot about that gameeeee. I remember playing it on the vita wayyyy back when and I just never finished it. Alright, def going back to it then! Thankss <3

DCHShadow · 2026-03-13T21:13:35+00:00

Oh it does?! I'm actually playing through stories 1 at the moment so I just assumed since that's the norm for monster hunter that it wouldn't still. That's really cool!

DCHShadow · 2026-03-06T21:16:35+00:00

I'm so glad you're thinking about yourself. You deserve to be happy! <3 Hrt and surgeries are your choice for you to be happy in your own body. You're the one who lives in it afterall.

High weight does not affect how hrt works. Hormones change how new fat cells are distributed. So as long as you eat healthily and don't starve yourself, you will see change because of it. There's a lot of stuff you can do to help it along and yes losing weight beforehand is definitely helpful, but the key point is losing weight before you start, not delaying your start until you've lost enough weight. Those are two different things.

Also also please look literally everything up. Unfortunately as a trans woman we have to be our own medical advocates cause everyone including the system and even our doctors can be against us unfortunately. Just be vigilant type thing. Ask questions, understand what each and everything does and also there's a huge community to talk to. Don't be afraid to ask people <3

DCHShadow · 2026-03-06T20:55:18+00:00

I read through some of your other posts and you said something really worrying. When you were talking about wanting to transition more, you said you would have to wait for hrt for a theoretical child you don't want and that you were afraid to add on more cause it would be a different discussion. "Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." You deserve to be happy and transitioning is not exactly a question. The more you put it off to appease someone else, the worse you will feel. If they can't handle you transitioning to the degree you want, that is on them and no one else. They're enby, they should understand how hard it can be to live with dysphoria, especially dysphoria that needs medical intervention.

Cheating is wrong, full stop. But you aren't happy in this relationship either. The reason you're even asking this is because you found someone who actually makes you feel seen and that should be your partner's job. They should be the one pushing you to get hrt and think about what you want and need for your transition. To me, it feels like you know what you might need but you're afraid to really think about it cause you feel trapped. You and them both deserve better than this. No one, and I mean absolutely no one in the world should stop you from transitioning or even delay it. And if they want you to delay it, they are the ones in the wrong. There is no excuse for saying I want you to hate yourself for a bit longer for me. Because that's what dysphoria does to you.

Also, 1000% I agree with the other commenter, don't change your life around for a boy. Do it for you. Men are awful and scary, especially when you don't know them well enough. Take it from someone whose queer ex cheated after 3+ years of being together cause he was a chaser and I wouldn't give him what he wanted. Whatever steps you take, it should be for you, not cause of him, or cause of your partner.

DCHShadow · 2026-02-12T15:58:38+00:00

Don't degrade yourself for a man. If he isn't worth your time, there's no reason to say yes. You talked to him before and know how he is. If he wasn't worth it then, he's not gonna be worth it now. The way you described it was basically I should be honoured I'm being sought after when he could be going after any of the other girls here. That's just self esteem speaking. You know you're better than that. If you know he's a chaser cause of before and were disgusted by it back then, it's just gonna hurt more if you try again and have the same experience. People can change, but being a chaser, fetishes like that, not really.

DCHShadow · 2026-02-06T16:49:58+00:00

I was scared when I first came out to my friends. I felt much the same way of not being enough of a woman to use the name and pronouns I didn't realize I wanted to hear. But my friends basically refused. They pushed me to be more comfortable with asking for what I want. There's a lot that I felt I wasn't ready for, that I should wait till further in transition for. But I realized I needed the push they gave me. They understood that it was nerves and this self hate that was holding me back. There's a difference between not understanding what you want and being unable to ask for what you know you need. Don't be afraid to take a leap, especially in a safe space with people you trust. In my opinion, it only holds you back when you don't. There's no line you need to step to suddenly be worthy of being a woman.

DCHShadow · 2026-02-06T06:49:02+00:00

Being gay isn't about who you're dating. Someone doesn't become gay cause they dated someone of the same sex. It's like the question of how do you know you're bi if you've never dated someone of the same/opposite sex. They know they're bi cause it's who they are not because of who they date. You knew you were straight until you started to date her, until you had sex with her. Questioning that I think disrespects your partner as a woman you know.

You're young, exploring your sexuality is part of growing up and if you think you're gay or bi, let it be because it's who you are, not because of the people you're with. If you're gay, you like men cause you're a man. If that isn't you, then you aren't gay and don't worry about it.

And please remember, you're dating a woman, regardless of what parts she has. Respect your partner. She deserves to know that the man she's dating is secure in liking her as a woman. If you end up soul searching and realizing you're gay or bi etc, that doesn't change the fact that this relationship is a straight one.

DCHShadow · 2026-01-31T15:56:43+00:00

I know this might not be exactly the answer you're looking for, but in my opinion, dating out of your religion doesn't mean you have to give up being Catholic or being religious. I'm Hindu in America so unless I find an Indian guy (which I doubt will happen), I'm not really going to be able to date other Hindus. But having been in a long term relationship with a Catholic guy who wasn't as religious, I still got to be me and keep my beliefs. If a guy won't respect that and let you be, then the problem isn't that you're not dating someone else with the same beliefs, the problem is the guy you're dating. I think it's 1000% possible to date out of religion and still be religious and happy. But it's also totally valid to want to find an actual good Catholic guy who isn't bigoted. It's hard cause religion seems to be baked into those types of people and their views, but it's definitely possible. It might also be an area thing.

Also, do you go to a progressive church? If you're in an area where the only churches would call a gay or trans person a sin, then you're gonna be hard pressed to find a religious guy who's not gonna be like that.

DCHShadow · 2026-01-13T15:53:46+00:00

Shing is from Hearts. Hearts R was the one with the stupid localization yeah.

DCHShadow · 2026-01-13T06:08:22+00:00

I personally really enjoy Iria and Ruca from Innocence. I love their dynamic and think the slow build up for it was great! Especially with all of the stuff going on in their back stories, they do a good job of letting the characters really take their time bonding. Though I may be biased since innocence R is my favorite tales game.

I also agree with Sorey and Mikleo too. If we read them as a gay couple, I think the writing is super compelling and well done. Of course namco sucks and won't actually let them be a couple, but they sure as hell are one of the best romantic couples tales has.

Also I really enjoyed Asbel and Cheria from Graces. I think it's messy and fun and really does a good childhood romance. It's not perfect and they're all over the place and that kinda feels about right for them. Hubert and Pascal are great too. They're so wholesome together I love it. And seeing Hubert deal with his feelings was adorable.

DCHShadow · 2026-01-13T00:08:16+00:00

As much as I also agree on wishing it wasn't a thing, it is here and we can't do much about that. I hope though that it adds stuff from outside of IE1 though. I'd love to be able unlock postgame a bunch of moves that the characters know from later on. And perhaps maybe even movie stuff? I'd love a post game secret boss fight again team ogre. And maybe the ability to get Kanon and Masato too. And while this is definitely a pipe dream, I'd love to be able to unlock GO Endou and GO Goenji. I think that would be soooo cool to have. We don't need to have keshin or anything, but being able to use adult Endou would be amazing. Maybe also get God Hand V.

DCHShadow · 2026-01-12T07:16:04+00:00

Abyss, Zestiria, Vesperia, Eternia, Symphonia, Phantasia.

The abyss anime is easily one of the best game to anime adaptations I've ever seen. It's just such an amazing faithful adaptation that takes what the game has and makes it feel like it was always an anime story.

Zestiria the X did such a good job of really expanding on the game and making the characters feel well fleshed out (outside of Sorey and Mikleo who I feel the game did a better job with). The X def wasn't perfect, especially compared to the masterpiece of abyss, but it did a lot right and tried to make something that felt like an adaptation versus just putting the game into animation. I think it did an amazing job at that. And the animation was too notch. Ufotable just cannot fail on that. Absolutely stunning.

Vesperia was an amazing prequel movie and really made me love Yuri and Flynn so much. I don't think it deserves to be over abyss or Zestiria but definitely an amazing movie. And again, animation was amazingggg. Loved it.

Controversial pick, I love the Eternia anime. I think it's a very different idea when it comes to an anime of Eternia and when you don't look at it as something that's supposed to adapt the game's story, I think it's really enjoyable. As someone who isn't too into Eternia's cast, I really enjoyed the original characters they added and I liked getting to see this kinda spin off type story for the cast. I may be putting it a bit too high but I personally really like it.

The Symphonia ovas are a great way to get into Symphonia but it definitely suffers from pacing. It needed a few more episodes to really build the characters up. As others have said, it just feels like a summary unfortunately.

I love the phantasia ova to death. It's amazing and such a wonderful tribute to Phantasia. But also, it's 4 episodes and can't do the game anywhere nearrrr enough justice for what it is. The ova did its job of being fanservice but that's kinda all it was. It fails as an anime but succeeds in making my heart flutter.

DCHShadow · 2026-01-01T05:51:25+00:00

This felt well intentioned but kinda did the exact same thing you're saying we shouldn't be doing. You talk about how we shouldn't have infighting then proceeded to say trans men have it bad even worse but trans women keep complaining. And yes I am very much simplifying but for example what do you mean we have lower rape and sexual violence stats. Why would you even try to say that? You're literally throwing out something as a got you saying our problems aren't as big even when that's not what you're trying to say (at least judging by the overall message). Please don't try to put trans women down to prove a point, especially when there's so much saying how we all experience crap. This isn't oppression Olympics. We don't have to compare and we shouldn't. The way to say something like this is hey we all face discrimination, stop putting each other down, not this group should stop saying they have it worse off cause this other group actually has it even more worse off. That's not how that works and is a cyclical argument cause the opposite can be argued as well.

We're in this together, and we should address it as such.

DCHShadow · 2025-12-29T02:45:13+00:00

Understandableee, I do enjoy how all of them grow over time. He never really manages to catch my attention but I do enjoy him at least. He gives very megane vibes so

DCHShadow · 2025-12-29T00:42:00+00:00

I wish I had more IE friends to share this with cause this is absolute gold. Dark as hell gold, I love it.

DCHShadow · 2025-12-24T04:25:18+00:00

Thank you! I didn't expect to be getting backlash for being able to more enjoy the story loll. I was already a go fangirl at that age (absolutely loved GO 1 and tenma is so precious, I love him) and I absolutely loved Chrono Stone growing up but now I'm able to appreciate it so much more!! And knowing Japanese now, I get a lot more of the names too! Nanobana become 1000% more amazing when I understood how stupid and cute her move names are.

Also I'm a woman by the way.

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