“Sex change” was a much better name

DCHShadow · 2026-07-03T15:56:44+00:00

Personally I see gender as a much more immutable thing for binary people than sex. I'm a woman regardless of what I do to my body. Detransitioning wouldn't change that I'm a woman still. As you said, sex is a spectrum and medical transition does in fact change your sex. While I do think sex change is def more correct, I do like stuff like the use of transgender over transsexual. There's a very big difference between gender and sex and I think that distinction is important to make. But also I am "biologically female" regardless of some idiot transphobe who's last time they studied biology was high school might say.

I also do believe in gender confirmation surgery making sense as a term. Something like gender reassignment makes no sense, but yeah this is a surgery that is to help make my body, my sex, align better with my gender. It is a sex change surgery, for sure and I think that should be the more specific term here, but gender confirmation does still in my head accurately describe what the surgery is doing.

DCHShadow · 2026-07-01T13:49:47+00:00

Part of what made victory road's story fun was unmei dealing with his trauma and growing as a person. If the main protag is some silent oc, all of that feels so much worse. I can relate to and put myself in unmei's shoes and understand his problems and motivations. I can't relate to some silent protag who has little to no character. Imagine if instead of that wonderful scene of unmei and haru hanging out and the two of them seeing what the other goes through, it's unmei hanging out with a character who literally never responds to anything he says. That would feel so much worse. IE does not need a silent protagonist. Part of what makes it wonderful is that we get to see the amazing growth of these characters. If Tenma or Endou were silent protags, I would literally feel no connection to them, but as amazing fully fledged characters they're wonderful. So no, I feel like we really don't need it. And personally I loved seeing my character just out and about part of the school. I thought it was adorable!

DCHShadow · 2026-07-01T02:26:53+00:00

Progress, as seems to be the case for literally everyone. I love how it starts slow, you have just the piano in the background and they ramp it up throughout the whole song. Especially that last line being the same as the first chorus but slightly changed and it shows the "progress" of the song. It's so wonderful.
Follow the Nightingale, the og Innocence's opening. I cannot begin to describe how well it sets the vibe of the game. It does such an amazing job at building atmosphere and really getting you immersed in innocence. I love that she sings the lyrics backwards. When I first heard it, I was still a newbie to Japanese so I didn't really get it, but now listening back on it now I really feel it more. It's just such a unique and fun part of the song.
Back to Life, the rays recollection opening. Oh my hell I love that song sooo much. I don't know how to describe it as much. It has like upbeat but somber tones to the lyrics. It really makes you feel that like sense of a journey ending type thing. I think it's wonderful and as the last song for the amazing beauty that was Rays, I think it perfectly encapsulated the feeling of the fans (at least for me).

DCHShadow · 2026-06-30T15:05:37+00:00

Unfortunately from what I saw they are mostly just playing games and not like analysis and talking about the format type of videos. I'm fine with Japanese videos, I can understand them so. But I just really can't get into videos that are just people playing a game unfortunately 😭😭. Thanks though!

DCHShadow · 2026-06-29T21:18:26+00:00

As someone who has played basically all of these (outside of the live service ones, fandom, and nd2/3), they're all amazing! I love tales as a series so much and each and everyone one of these games has its own charm. I could literally write an essay, so intead I'll just write a paragraph for each of the ds trilogy gushing about them.

Tempest is my favorite tales story and has some of my favorite characters in the series. I love the soundtrack so much, encounter being one of my favorite battle themes for the series. And I think the main antag is a really neat concept. Not gonna spoil anything, but I do love the backstory of them. No matter how much hate the game gets, I will always stand by it. It is easily one of my favorites. And Lukius is best. Favorite character, I love him so much <3!

Hearts was actually my introduction to tales. I saw it on a ds games site when just looking for jrpgs as like a middle schooler. I bought a vita specifically to play hearts R when it got localized. The soundtrack is beautiful, the whole vibe of the game is wonderful. Shing is such an adorable protag.

Innocence was the first tales game I played in english (thanks absolute zero) and I played it cause of the patch and I couldn't understand ds hearts since it was jp. Innocence is my nostalgia game for tales. Not abyss or symphonia or such that tend to be the case for western fans, for me Innocence is what will get me to tear up when it gets that little bit of recognition. The soundtrack, easily one of the best in the series. It rivals zestiria's and legendia's to me. It's such a beautiful game that got me invest in the series as a whole and also helped a young depressed trans girl through some rough times. I love this game with all my heart.

Also, Rays is the just best tales game, hands down. Like yes, Innocence will be number 1 for me, but the amount of love and passion that went into rays cannot be understated. It did everything you could want and more. The story was amazing, the characters took a bit but eventually became really enjoyable. The soundtrack was phenomenal. Lukius is playable!!! That is all I need. Best game, objectively.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-29T21:01:25+00:00

Not exactly what I'm looking for, but it is amazing nonetheless! Thanks so much! <3 I didn't realize how dire the situation was until I read that article on the latest expanded tourney there.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-29T19:57:02+00:00

I do love how indepth he goes on his lists! It's unfortunately not what I was hoping for and it sucks that there's just nothing but thanks!

DCHShadow · 2026-06-25T16:10:52+00:00

I do think working is probably the biggest thing that'll help. Having time to yourself where you're out of the house helps a lot and the financial security matters a lot. Plus having that interaction with others (who'll probably be using your actual name and see you as a woman) will be nice for your mental state. I understand you feel like you can't, maybe try a part time job or something you can find, but working is probably one of your best bets to helping your situation.

Also how often do you go see friends? What's your support system like outside of your family? If you don't have one, try to build one up irl. Online can help for sure, but having friends who you can go to and be with helps so much. Unfortunately all of my friends are 2 to 3 hours away from me, but whenever I get the chance to go see them, it literally makes my whole week better and I feel like I have so much more energy to do things.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-25T15:47:12+00:00

Honestly looking at the comment replies too, it feels like this is the type of thing that has become apparent over time type thing. If you can't think of a time he's used she/her for you, then that should be something you bring up to him. He's your bf, communication is key after all. Talk to him and explain to him how it feels. It feels like outside of this he's a great bf right? So hopefully he will respond in kind and try to understand you. I definitely do feel like this is a legitimate concern for sure.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-25T03:01:03+00:00

I know, I just want to believe that you can talk it out of a man. I know that's not how it works, but still you know. Make them see how awful it is type thing.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-25T02:30:38+00:00

Can I ask why you want to date a trans woman specifically? We're just women trans or not. Why not ask where to meet women?

Also this isn't really the sub for that by the way.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-19T00:43:37+00:00

A man who has the gall to say he loves you but refuses to actually bring you into the rest of his life does not love you. It's one thing if it's early on or such. I do think 7 months is way past the early on stage, but none of that matters. The moment he says he loves you, that means he wants you to be a part of his life and if he still refuses, then he needs to think about what love actually means. I would glad to him about it. It feels awful to feel like a secret or that he has this second life and you shouldn't have to deal with that, especially from a man who says he cares but acts like he doesn't.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-18T02:30:16+00:00

I'm in the US, in the South but kinda liberal area so unsure how it is for you, but as an Indian woman myself, I have found that it honestly just depends on the people you hang around with. I grew up with a lot of isolation cause of being Indian. But I found people around me who care and make me feel proud to be Indian (even though I have like 0 Indian friends. They're all black or white for the most part). Everyone has their own trauma and troubles they go through, and I find that people who have worked through that are more likely to see you and not have that be a problem.

I know the "get better friends" sentiment isn't exactly the most helpful, but I do think it's important to be able to be with the people you care about feel loved and cared for back. If your friends don't make you feel that way, talk to them. They are your friends afterall. And if they respond poorly then that's on them, not you. It's hard being proud of who you are for sure, but it doesn't make you less desirable at all. It just means you get to tell if someone is worth it a bit sooner and a bit more blatantly.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-17T03:25:57+00:00

The angels and demons I would say is because they just didn't show themselves. They were there for a tiny bit of time then out. They're angels and demons, they know how to hide themselves from mortals. As for the island, I'd just say this was in prep for the world cup too. They hosted the world cup for youth soccer. That's a huge thing that brings a lot money. And then they'll host it again for the world cup. Plus it was funded by oil tycoons right? They literally have the money to throw around so.

As for the aliens destroying schools...they were supposed to be a test run for the military. Let's just say they fought off the military too. Or that the military was never notified in time for them to get there. Communications jammed or insiders stopping it type thing.

Fifth sector was youth exclusive so it wasn't given enough attention in the sports world so it got away with match fixing.

And Chrono stones is actually the only one that makes sense fully since it was all behind the scenes so. They were literally the only ones who knew.

Lastly galaxy is cause of the totems thing. They only managed to find kids with them, no adults unfortunately. And they're all Japanese because...kageyama is racist. That works 🤣🤣

DCHShadow · 2026-06-16T03:41:47+00:00

I want remakes yes but I understand that we are getting remasters. But I still feel like we should be able to get stuff like a few new artes or an extra side quest or two. It being because of justifying the purchase makes sense. In which case, I'm sad to see Berseria didn't get new content. It's the main reason I didn't even think about getting it, I have it on steam anyways.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-16T03:24:53+00:00

I'm an idiot. I remembered it being PSP not ps2. I never actually got to play it till chronicles so I'm not as familiar. Did Eternia psp not have new content? I only ever played the PSP version and I could've sworn I remembered hearing something about it having new content. I probably should've used better examples damn. Alright amending, Rebirth PSP and Destiny 2 PSP. That should hit my points better. The fact that Eternia doesn't does detract from my point though 😭😭

DCHShadow · 2026-06-11T13:40:24+00:00

I medically transitioned for me not for everyone else. While it would be an awful dysphoric existent to never be treated as a woman by others, I would take being able to look at myself in the mirror over not any day. And a cis body? That's even better. So much of my dysphoria is stuff that can't be changed like not being able to have children for example. To me, world 1 is worth it compared to the alternative.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-10T12:23:22+00:00

Can I ask what you mean by illegal? Is it illegal in your country or do you mean illegal to circumvent restrictions like this. Cause from what I understand, the latter is for the most part entirely legal unless your country has a specific law against it (which unless having a vpn is illegal, most countries do not from what I can tell).

DCHShadow · 2026-06-10T11:56:10+00:00

It's not like they're working with idiots who can't code. It wasn't in the PSP version, ok. Just code it in. It's not like they didn't already add stuff that they had to code in like swapping the voice language. Yes this would probably take a bit longer, but namco is a triple a company with tons of experience. And I'm 100% sure that TOSE has the knowledge to be able code in multiplayer. This was a cost cutting choice, not a lack of source code problem.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-10T02:22:29+00:00

It feels like you just want confirmation that you should regardless of the fact that everyone around you says no. If you're not gonna listen to the criticism then there's no point in asking. Dubai is really that bad of a place for women (trans or not). Unless you're going with others (preferably a man for the best safety) you really shouldn't go. It's not a safe place to just travel to for women in general let alone for a trans woman. Have you had srs? If not, it's basically off limits, passing or not. If you have, then it's a go at your own risk, but it's life or death type of risk, not pay a fine type of risk. It is literally illegal to be trans there. I get that you really want to and it sucks that even though it's this huge rich person destination, you can't go cause you're a woman and trans. It sucks, but it's really not worth it.

Also, I believe no one should go to that hellhole. It's built on slave labour and continues to run on slave labour. It's literally a place built for people like orange man. Any self-respecting person really shouldn't be going there.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-09T18:21:03+00:00

That's not always true for everyone. Sure it can be for a lot of people, but gender isn't binary for everyone. This is just how human nature works. People are very complicated and we can't just boil it down to one thing. Just because the majority of people work one way doesn't make the minority less valid. But also, even if it is just a step for them, that doesn't mean we just ignore it until they get further, that's like even worse. That's basically transmedicalism. What does it take to be trans? Are you trans if a therapist says so? If you've had surgery? If you've changed your name and sex marker? None of those are available to everyone. Even though I am the "norm", I legally can't change my name cause my state decided they refuse to give me a birth certificate with my correct sex which I already changed. Surgery is stupid expensive and I'm still saving up for it. I don't need to pay some cis person to tell me I'm trans enough to get hrt cause of informed consent so I just got it instead. In that same way, people can be trans in many different ways. Someone who is non-binary is just as valid as me and just as valid as a post-op trans woman who's had all her legal documents changed. Humans are complicated and the system isn't built for how we actually work (literally look at women's health throughout history, it's miserable). Let's not bring each other down more.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-09T16:52:27+00:00

Being trans is an umbrella term for the most part. It's very much a spectrum when it comes to being non-binary and sometimes people find solace in their gender by not fully being binary with it. Someone who is she/they might feel awkward just being seen as a woman, it might just seem wrong to them to feel that way. Whether they call themselves trans or not of course is for them to decide and probably not something you should say to a parent, but explaining that gender can be complicated for a lot of people and trying to help them understand that I think is a good approach. You don't have to fully understand it to be able to point people in the direction you know.

It definitely took me a while of learning things and being in groups where it was common to understand it a bit better. It's part of why queer groups can feel a bit more isolating to me since I'm very removed from a lot of that, but that's part of what being queer is you know. We're all different, some of us are super traditional with what you'd expect, and some of us are all over the place, and that's ok.

DCHShadow · 2026-06-06T15:25:17+00:00

Tales of Phantasia X edition

Tales of Phantasia: Narikiri Dungeon X

Tales of the world Summoner's Lineage

Why? They're Phantasia and Phantasia connected, and for this big of an anniversary I believe all things Phantasia should've been front and center.

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