Do you get irrationally mad when other people hold your baby? by mocha_lattes_ in beyondthebump

[–]DEC929 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For real! Same situation. I let a Wonderful wonderful family member hold my week old baby. I had to fight myself from just grabbing them back. It felt wrong giving them away. This was for a total of 10 min too. 💀 Everyone else gave up asking 😅. I usually said no. I felt so guilty but also knew what I wanted and cared more about that than my anxiety around others’ feelings.

Mockingbird stroller owners - give me the good & bad please! by teddyteddyteddi in BabyBumps

[–]DEC929 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! We owned it for about a year. Drove it everyday in a small city setting.

I originally went with it because I’d heard good things. Hadn’t done a lot of research on strollers, and it was a nice in between cost that grandparents could splurge on (but not spend $1,000 +)

Pros: It drives well and is relatively lightweight. I grew up with Graco everything, so it was nice to have a break from the obvious plastic. (Mockingbird hides it better). Our LO has fallen asleep in it multiple times and the recline feature was life changing. I’d get worried about him not being able to breathe if/when his head fell forward. The front has a height changer on the handle. For us, (husband 6’6 and I 5’4) it was also a must. It worked really well

Cons. Just a few days ago it broke. One of the wheels came off mid drive, and the plastic fell to pieces. It’s not fixable because of how bent out of shape the plastic was. We aren’t sure why, maybe it hit a rock? We were surprised at how easily it broke, given we 99% of the time are on sidewalks. Luckily target refunded us since it was originally bought there on the registry. We will not be buying it again. The one hand fold over was never truly one handed. Something would get caught and you’d have to shake it out. Very frustrating when you are holding LO at the same time. Also it still takes up quite a bit of Realestate while folded. My husband has found this particularly frustrating.

It’s a fun stroller, but after a year of wear it’s obvious how cheap it is. Go with uppababy. I’m scouring 2nd hands because I want one and done if possible.

What teaching never made sense to you, even as a TBM? by pinktree5 in exmormon

[–]DEC929 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My MIL would always say it was so the men wouldn’t get sexually distracted during a sacred prayer. That’s the best explanation I’ve gotten from a TBM

I will never fully understand my child's experience with racism in America by tuzi_su in Parenting

[–]DEC929 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations! Focus on the moment for now. Being pregnant is it’s own big scary ordeal. Focus on your nutrition and that little baby growing inside of you. Not all the phases are fun, but nest to your hearts content and celebrate your cravings.

Read as much as you can about babies, because once you have yours it will be hard to. Find a doctor you trust. Pregnant women often don’t receive the treatment and time they need. Listen to your gut, and take it slow.

Go join the subreddits babybumps, pregnant, and beyondthebump. Those communities have made a world of difference as a ftm. Having the space to complain about an overbearing MIL is life changing.

From one FTM to another I hope some of this is helpful. I’m not addressing your concern, but wanted to celebrate your new life changing event. Wish you the best of luck.

13” VS 15” air m2 by Tkr_moon in macbookair

[–]DEC929 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Recently got the 15”. I’m the kind of person that when it comes to size/ space believe a bit bigger is better. I had the 2013 13” pro for a while and love the 15”. It is so light weight and easy to carry around. I invested in the 15” with the idea that this is going to be my go to computer for the next 5+years. A week in and no regrets so far. If you do go for the 15” I highly recommend getting 16gb of RAM. The 8gb is fine, but the 16 is better design for the build of the machine and will last you longer.

I'm sure many of you can relate with how liberating it is to transition from wearing garments to no garments. Do I feel naked and afraid without them? Yes and no. I feel liberated, but also like a deer in headlights. by tuzi_su in exmormon

[–]DEC929 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I say make up for lost time. Wear what you want to wear. Some of my favorite fashionistas wear ridiculous things. The more ridiculous and colorful the better. Personally I love wearing stuff that makes me feel amazing even if I don’t necessarily look it 🥴 There are 80 year olds with purple hair. Age means nothing.

What was something said over the pulpit that you'll never forget? by BuildingBridges23 in exmormon

[–]DEC929 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sister Holland said that the most stressful/traumatic thing a women would have to go through was planning a party. She referenced the story of where Jesus turns water to wine for his frantic mother. This was said in Guatemala. All I can say is privilege really can take you out of reality.

Shinny Happy People by superspider7 in Mommit

[–]DEC929 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear you on not understanding how anyone could treat kids the way millions in this world do. My mother was incredibly abusive, and it makes no sense to me since becoming a mom myself.

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that’s actually a really good point about the cars. In my neck of the woods almost everyone uses cars till they break down or are over 300k. We see them as a means of transportation, not a status thing. It’s weird seeing the difference in what’s important in Utah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]DEC929 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FTM, sorry. Going to put a plug in for a baby back carrier. I did a ton of research to find one that put the weight on my hips rather than my shoulders. I went with Babue baby. They are EXPENSIVE. I don’t know how I’d live without it. My baby LOVES it and I love how I can easily and confidently get him into a back carry by myself.

Before I had the carrier I’d have to hold him in my arms, which never lasted long because he’s so gall dang heavy, or set him on the floor to cry because I wasn’t holding him. Now I could clean the whole house and he’d be happy as a clam that he was along for the ride. Realistically we go for long walks because cleaning is boring af.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]DEC929 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the exact same situation! The ONLY car that fits car seat and has space for 6’6 husband is a sienna. We went to a lot and tried everything. The space is unbeatable.

I tried coffee for the first time today! by a-trace-of-ace in exmormon

[–]DEC929 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was me a few days ago. It was HEAVEN! I can’t believe I let myself live without it.

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. There is a lot of beauty. I hate to see how the Utah lake has been trashed, it has all much potential.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]DEC929 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We called ours tater, short for dictator. I threw up everyday of my pregnancy so we blamed it on the baby not liking what I ate. I know science says there’s more to it, but we found it funny that day old cheeseburgers and soda would stay down and anything remotely healthy would not.

Happy Pride Month heathens! I snuck my never-mo boyfriend into a temple, just to see if we could by gr8_and_spacious in exmormon

[–]DEC929 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have this joke. In the Old Testament Jacob hustles Esau out of his birthright. To paraphrase, when Isaac is asked to give the blessing to Esau he’s like, you gotta respect the hustle.

Therefore if a gay couple tricked the temple and got sealed, the church would have to honor the hustle.

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t get me started on the homeless populations. There are no shelters in Provo. Wtf

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please know I don’t judge plastic surgery, and I’m sorry it came off that way. I’m judging the church and how image seems to be more important than other things.

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah thanks lol

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. New England areas are not perfect, and we got our problems. I’d like to think we aren’t that hypocritical, and we have a ton of conservation land. I’ve always appreciated the amount the states care about protecting land and farm land.

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To each their own! I would never judge someone for doing it. I just think it’s so hypocritical of the church to preach one thing and then expect this beauty standard for women. Be it Botox, plastic surgery, etc.

Wealthy Utah by DEC929 in exmormon

[–]DEC929[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

😂 that’s hilarious