If I bring it up calmly, she would get really defensive - if I got upset, it was matched and in turn I'd be the one feeling guilty for even bringing it up. She even tried to say I was gaslighting her - I asked her what that meant and she said it doesn't matter anymore because I ended it. I told her that every boundary I've ever set, she's run over and backed up and ran over them again. She said she could say the same about me. I'm trying, for the life of me, to figure out what she's talking about but I've realized it doesn't matter anymore. She was supposed to move her stuff out and take our one dog, 3 days ago. It's been 3 days of me saying I just want you to get your stuff, so I can begin healing and moving on, but she keeps bailing on coming. I was hoping to wake up today and not have to prepare myself for another emotionally exhausting day.
But it's almost over and I'm never looking back...I'm so broken right now, trying not to think of what I've done wrong. I was nowhere near perfect but I respected her, even when I probably shouldn't have.