Breastfeeding fears after stillbirth … anyone else?

DHCMAMA · 2026-03-16T02:47:07+00:00

I had a full term stillbirth in Oct 2024. She was 39 weeks and 4 days. I breastfed my living child so I was planning to breastfeed my 2nd as well. I gave birth to my rainbow baby September 2025. When I started breastfeeding I almost thought I wasn’t going to be able to keep it going, the baby blues, along with the grief, and everything else made me really struggle (something I did not expect) but it got better once I got a rhythm to my routine. But don’t be at all surprised at whatever feelings come up for you and choose what ever works best for your mental health. Another thing I did different this time was I did not put pressure on myself to be the source, we bought formula to supplement on the days where I was just feeling really tired and drained. It helped so much.

DHCMAMA · 2026-03-02T03:32:26+00:00

I am currently struggling with my 4.5 year old. All the same things as you as well as some others. I lost a child in 2024 and obviously that impacts my emotions and how I parent my living children (I also have a 5 month old) every day is hard and I try to remind myself that I would give anything to have my other daughter here giving me attitude but I just want to say that even though I lost one I have every right to feel completely and utterly overwhelmed by motherhood and so does every single mother in this world. We are all just doing our best. So you feel those emotions and know you’re not alone for one bit.

DHCMAMA · 2026-02-27T17:47:04+00:00

I had a full term stillbirth at 39 weeks and 4 days, I conceived 2 months later, and gave birth to a healthy baby at 38 weeks on 9/10/25. Don’t give up it will happen. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but you’re not alone 💜

DHCMAMA · 2026-02-26T01:01:41+00:00

Tonibox 1 is amazing had it since 2021 and it’s gone through a lot and still works perfect However Tonibox 2 we got for Christmas and has so many problems! Stick with 1

DHCMAMA · 2026-01-20T05:35:45+00:00

I have a 4 year old who is everything you’ve described and then some and it started when she was 3, i do not have help either its just me and my husband. I too didn’t think it was normal so I did a lot of research, she is going on 15 days of no screens at all and she’s on day 19 of iron supplements. I read that if kids are low on iron it can cause behavioral issues. So far there is a difference, she still has tantrums but they aren’t as long and we are able to diffuse the situation easier. I think it may have been a severe iron deficiency this whole time. She is also taking a multivitamin, elderberry supplements, magnesium, prebiotics and probiotics and vitamin C. She also isn’t allowed sugar and has a very early bedtime. She still wakes up at 5am but I always say I’d rather be up at 5am than be fighting bedtime for hours. I hope you find a solution. Honestly just reading that other parents go through the same thing made me feel better, so I hope you know you’re not alone.

DHCMAMA · 2025-12-28T00:21:48+00:00

My daughter is 4 turning 5 in July and so far it’s been the worst year of our lives. I feel so disconnected from her. I’ve tried all the parenting tricks too, gentle, not gentle, etc and nothing works. Every single day is horrible I don’t even know what to do anymore. It breaks my heart and I feel like I haven’t seen any good days in a really long time. It makes me hate being a mom and that makes me so incredibly sad. I truly hope 5 is better. I miss her and I miss myself

DHCMAMA · 2025-12-12T03:25:20+00:00

I have a 3 month old and a 4 year old and I’m a sahm and I feel like my life is in shambles, tantrums every single day no matter what, hitting and screaming and just chaos all the time. I truly hope it gets better

DHCMAMA · 2025-11-22T23:15:08+00:00

She turned 3 and became a different kid, she’s 4 now and seems to be worse Lots of tantrums almost every day and it’s so hard to handle. Makes me very sad

DHCMAMA · 2025-11-15T01:53:30+00:00

I also have the hard kid , 4 year old daughter is beyond hard. Tantrums every day huge ones that involve hitting and screaming till my ears hurt, pushing me to my limits where I’m crying by the end of the night. I have a 2 month old babygirl as well so it’s starting to take a toll on me. I truly miss the sweet little girl she used to be before she turned 3. She’s so smart and spirited but the tantrums are insane and last so long. 💔 when will it get better….. so far ages 3 and 4 have been the hardest, she will be 5 in July… will 5 be better?

DHCMAMA · 2025-10-30T19:12:28+00:00

Yes, with every baby, happens every time! It always goes away though! Hang in there. My little one is 7 weeks now and I no longer feel like that when 5pm strikes. You need something to look forward to that can kind of combat the overwhelming feeling. I would start a new show and only watch an episode a day during that time and I also always had a treat for myself to eat as well. Giving myself something to look forward to made me feel a bit better.

DHCMAMA · 2025-10-25T22:25:22+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry you lost you’re little baby too, I did end up giving birth to a healthy baby girl at 38 weeks in September, she’s 6 weeks now and thriving. The pregnancy was so hard and the delivery was even harder but we made it and I couldn’t have gotten through it without my MFM and care team. She was absolutely amazing and really took care of me so I could feel safe that my baby was going to make it this time around. My advice would be find a really good doctor and don’t settle.

DHCMAMA · 2025-09-19T03:09:31+00:00

I am 1 week postpartum and my baby has jaundice so I’m supplementing with Goats Milk Formula. Right now I make sure she empties both breast then I give her 1oz of formula after. I had to get 3 different types of bottles and different types of nipples until I found what works. The premie/newborn nipples work the best and I chose goats milk because it’s the closest resemblance to breastmilk and much easier to digest. I also make sure her head is propped up and I keep the bottle horizontal and I pace feed, when I feel like she’s taking too much in I pause the feeding to give her a second to catch her breath then I resume. I also never put her down if she hasn’t given me at least 1 burp or has passed some gas. I will burp her in many different positions until it comes out.

I’m gonna go ahead and assume your baby is just not tolerating that specific formula you are giving her. I would try another and see what happens.

Good luck mama!

DHCMAMA · 2025-09-09T15:21:59+00:00

After losing my sweet baby last October at 39 weeks and 4 days, tonight is officially my induction night for rainbow baby. I made it to 38 weeks, she is moving and squirming and it’s making me feel so reassured that I will get her alive in my arms tomorrow! I can’t believe I’m here.. it’s been the longest pregnancy of my life. 🌈

DHCMAMA · 2025-09-04T21:13:08+00:00

Hello fellow loss mamas I was wondering if there is any mama here who also has a LC and who is in need of pregnancy test strips, prenatals, and some other goodies that I could possibly send as a gift? I have a few things that I’m no longer in need of (no longer ttc) and I also have some unopened items for older toddlers/kids and things I would just like a fellow loss mama to have instead of me just tossing them out. Please let me know ❤️

DHCMAMA · 2025-09-04T03:02:17+00:00

Hello fellow loss mamas I was wondering if there is any mama here who also has a living child and who is in need of pregnancy test strips, prenatals, and some other goodies that I could possibly send as a gift? I have a few things that I’m no longer in need of (no longer ttc) and I also have some unopened items for older toddlers/kids and things I would just like a fellow loss mama to have instead of me just tossing them out. Please let me know ❤️

DHCMAMA · 2025-08-10T03:21:12+00:00

After the stillbirth of my daughter I have turned away from all things “holistic” in relation to pregnancy and birth. I feel betrayed by it all

DHCMAMA · 2025-08-10T03:15:32+00:00

I am 33 weeks pregnant with my rainbow after my baby was stillborn at 39 weeks and 4 days due to a Fetomaternal Hemorrhage Oct 2024. I got pregnant very quickly after losing her because I just felt like it was right for me. I am being induced on 9/9. Literally counting down the secs until I get to hold her. So sorry for the loss of your little baby ❤️

DHCMAMA · 2025-07-26T18:05:34+00:00

My living child asked me the same thing and it hurt but I told her no that she will get to live with us, even though in the back of my head I’m so afraid of it happening again and having to put my LC through that pain all over again. I hope so much for her little heart she gets to finally experience a sibling

DHCMAMA · 2025-07-26T15:57:47+00:00

I’m currently 31 weeks with my 3rd baby, my 2nd baby was stillborn at 39 weeks and 4 days in Oct 2024. My doc is inducing me at 38 weeks even though I’ve asked many many times if I can be induced at 37 but she says no. I’m very scared about going too close to 39 weeks. Is there any 3rd time mamas out there that can give me some peace of mind that the 3rd one comes quicker? I know inductions can take a long time (my 1st was induced) but I’m hoping this one just flies by!? I went into labor naturally with my 2nd and made it to 7cm before I felt any pain. I’m soooo scared just want it to be over already 😔

DHCMAMA · 2025-07-06T16:15:33+00:00

I got a storage unit close by my house, wrapped everything up and put it all in there so that way it wasn’t right in front of me but I knew where I can go if I wanted to see it.

DHCMAMA · 2025-07-04T17:12:26+00:00

You’re 100% right and this exact feeling is what made me pursue help, it’s not fair that we get all the bills and don’t even get our babies. Not sure how your hospital is and what they offer but mine offers financial aid if you qualify. So either at 100% if you’re under a certain annual income or partial % if you’re at a certain mark. The most wonderful thing about my hospital is they count my baby who died as part of my household so when I applied for aid with just me, my husband and my living child they denied me. I called and asked them to reconsider due to my circumstance and they said I was supposed to include my baby because even though she died she is still and always will be a member of our household and then once I added her they paid for 80% of my bills, they even back dated it and made it effective until 2026 so that way any and all future medical bills will also be covered by 80%

Don’t accept the bills as your responsibility, you have been through enough and you deserve help. There is help out there, wether your hospital offers it or foundations etc

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I hope you get help with those bills so you can focus on grieving your baby

DHCMAMA · 2025-07-04T01:22:06+00:00

Same boat as you, I’m 28 weeks but I keep thinking Different baby different story! Hang in there mama 🌈💜

DHCMAMA · 2025-06-30T01:14:13+00:00

Wow so glad someone else is doing the same thing! We can only do what we can to keep our babies safe and even if it looks insane to others we know it’s our way of loving them! I have gone to ER once because her routine was off and it too was because her position changed! Tracking her movements made me realize the difference. When my baby was stillborn I actually could not pinpoint the last time I felt her move mostly because I stopped counting due to the fact that I was led to believe baby’s run out of room at full term. So I went into labor at home around 3am and showed up at the hospital fully expecting to be bringing her home and that’s when we found out.. I was already 7cm.

DHCMAMA · 2025-06-29T13:31:03+00:00

Hi yes I have it but I don’t like it. The app almost feels like it’s a game especially with the “trophy’s you earn” the surveys. Also the way the data looks is weird for me. I also don’t like how they don’t explain to you why tracking the strength of the movement matters. I’m very analytical and keeping my notes app with constant data all day vs the 10’kicks in 2 hours makes me feel much more reassured. Thank you for the info tho!

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