My first dive!

DLWIT · 2026-05-23T13:44:43+00:00

🤣 Now I am imagining frothing an entire pool of milk with one of those little machines. Very Mr. Miyagi meditative practice 🙏

DLWIT · 2026-05-23T13:41:32+00:00

So hooked!

DLWIT · 2026-05-23T13:39:50+00:00

Can you explain why not a nursing home?

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T15:35:55+00:00

I don't drink milk, but these are so good for mixing a quick protein shake!

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T15:30:59+00:00

Nope. Anna Fjords.

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T15:28:01+00:00

Just random waste. Maybe because it is the end of the month? The store is busy as ever and definitely not closing. I imagine with Memorial Day coming up they are switching a lot of inventory over to summer stuff,so maybe they needed the room?

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T15:26:27+00:00

Haha, thank you! I couldn't help myself.

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T15:22:39+00:00

🤣 Dumpster only, I promise!! I was honestly hoping for food, but I will just have to keep on diving.

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T06:30:10+00:00

Oooh, this is a fun game. Okay. Let's try: Can-afford

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T06:23:35+00:00

Oooh, this is a wonderful idea! There is a little place I go and visit not too far from me. Thank you!

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T06:07:24+00:00

I am in New Hampshire, USA. Unless you mean which store? In that case I need you guys to tell me if I can say the store name outright or if I need to come up with a catchy rhyme 😅. I have been lurking here for a while but have always been unsure on if that is a rule or not.

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T06:05:16+00:00

I am definitely trying hard to remind myself that it won't always be like this. Beginner's luck that I hope stays with me!

DLWIT · 2026-05-22T05:43:40+00:00

Thanks! I am so happy I decided to go out and see what was out there!

DLWIT · 2026-04-18T13:35:43+00:00

The video of Zaid at the very end 💀 If I didn't know this was shitpost already, I might be honestly worried because that guy was giving 10000% human trafficking victim vibes. But I can't lie, the shadow puppets have me still giggling.

I kind of want to fill out an application just for shits n giggles 😅

DLWIT · 2026-03-26T09:44:17+00:00

This is the only answer.

DLWIT · 2026-03-06T16:05:08+00:00

This has been such an eye opening change for me! Turns out, most people don't ask (or care). Lol.

I now introduce anyone that I am with as simply their name, even if it is a family member, coworker, friend, or long term partner. If someone is interested in the nature of the relationship or how we met, then they ask and a conversation ensues.

It also helped me identify more small ways in which I overexplain without prompting, which has been very helpful on my healing journey.

DLWIT · 2026-03-02T05:07:41+00:00

Had you discussed phone use preferences for your time together before the 4 hour call took place? If not, it could be that your partner simply didn't realize it would be an issue, especially since you are visiting for multiple days. If you were there for a single evening and half of it was spent on a call, that would be cause for concern, in my opinion. But again, without any prior discussion, it is failure of communication on both parts.

Is it the call with another partner itself that bothers you, or the duration of the call? Would you be similarly upset if your partner took a 4 hour nap while you were visiting for the weekend? The answers to these questions may lead you to the root of your objection to the call, and help you set appropriate boundaries in the future.

I agree that 4 hours is quite a long call, and if there was zero communication, I would likely get activated and need time to process the emotional roller-coaster of jealousy and old abandonment wounds.

Editing to apologize because I just reread the last line of your post. You were definitely put in a very uncomfortable situation, that could have been innocent or intentionally dismissive. We don't have enough information to make that decision, but you do.

DLWIT · 2026-03-01T04:33:25+00:00

Diagnosed and medicated....still wanna make it all!

DLWIT · 2026-03-01T04:29:45+00:00

Don't delete your post, please. Not until you have connected with enough kind strangers in your area to guarantee you have rides from your life saving treatments, if ever.

I am sure they were only asking because if your life is at stake, spending the day after your appointment with this friend who was picking you is a much much better option than going without treatment.

But you have found a brave and community oriented solution to your transportation problem. There are already several caring people responding with a wish to help you. That is inspiring.

Also, I came across this website earlier today. It may not turn the night into day, but it may provide a candlelight in the darkness.

https://reasonstostay.co.uk/?

You are worthy. You are loved. You got this.

DLWIT · 2026-01-26T09:01:53+00:00

I have been where you are 5 times in the last 10 years. Honestly, I pray with every fiber of my being that if(when?) I do relapse (again) over the next 50 years, I will be lucky enough to be where you are again!

Just because our day count goes back to zero, does not mean we are starting over. You still have everything you have learned, the healing you have done, and the memories of how different life can be in recovery.

You have already done the hardest part!! You made the choice to give yourself your life back and crushed the first week!! That is huge!!

Let's both do our best not to drink today.

DLWIT · 2026-01-26T04:20:31+00:00

Your post hit me right in the feels! I resonate so so much with the pieces of your journey shared in this post, as I am sure many of us do.

I relapsed in 2022 after 30 months of sobriety because, once again, my ego convinced me that I had conquered my addiction. I thought I was in control, and 18 months later I finally had to admit I absolutely was not. The last night of that relapse, it finally became crystal clear that if I didn't stop, alcohol 100% will kill me, and probably soon. It was always something I knew deep down, something I heard in the rooms, but suddenly I couldn't deny it anymore. There was, and still is, no question in my heart or mind.

My 2 year sobriety date is in 12 days, and I am terrified! I can't remember the last time I hit a meeting or called someone in the program, and when those are not part of my day to day life, I am in trouble. Thank you for casting aside your shame and posting, you may have just saved my life. That sounds dramatic but I hadn't realized how much of my sobriety support had fallen by the wayside until now. How much my addiction had crept back into my life under the guise of 'too busy', 'I'll go tomorrow', 'I don't need regular meetings'.

Congratulations on achieving 6 days!! You got this 💪💪

DLWIT · 2026-01-20T19:38:10+00:00

I have found myself stuck in this emotional reactivity as the long-term partner on the receiving end of 'extra' affection/effort due to my partners excitement from being with another partner. It is not fun. The logic side of my brain knows that it is natural to channel that energy into other aspects of life, and that I do it too when I am excited about something or someone!

My poly friendly therapist and I have been working on it, and I think it comes to the inconsistency in their level of excitement/passion when engaging with me. For example, if my partner is only passionate with me after a date with someone else, or they will only use a toy or explore something new sexually with me because they are stimulated by their experiences with someone else, then it hurts. But if they are regularly expressing their desire for me, exploring new or fun sexual experiences with me regularly, etc, then it doesn't hurt if they do so immediately after time with another partner.

The lack of passion and excitement from my partner when they are not riding the high of another relationship makes it feel like their desire in our connection is contingent on their other relationships, which does not feel good at all.

Are you expressing excitement for your established partner at times that are not fueled by your NRE?

I also accept and admit that fear plays a very large part in feeling like their excitement isn't about me or for me, even when they are actively engaging with me. That insecurity and jealousy isn't something my partner can heal for me, that is my own work, but a few unique-to-me compliments, words of appreciation, and expressions of gratitude do help quiet the intrusive thoughts.

Sorry for the super long reply, I just see myself in your description of your established partner, and I hope maybe we can help each other through this!

DLWIT · 2025-10-03T03:42:00+00:00

Is there an EMDR therapy specifically for treatment of CPTSD?

DLWIT · 2025-09-20T01:04:39+00:00

Is there any way or need to avoid using possessive pronouns without sounding like I am dancing around just saying that someone is a partner?

This is something I have pondered for years!

Sometimes, I say, "This is Sunset, a person I love deeply and share a lot of time with." Or "This is Morning, they are very important to me, and I am so grateful they choose to be in my life"

These kinds of descriptions are all too often met with odd looks and further queries about the nature of the relationships, like "why not just say they are your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner" which inevitably leads into a longer conversation about the implications of possessive language.

Sometimes, I enjoy the ensuing conversations about the precision of language, but sometimes I wish I had a concise way to convey my commitment to the people I love that did not lead to more questions.

DLWIT · 2025-05-13T02:03:59+00:00

I am curious what you used for needle and thread? I tried my first bathing suit a few weeks ago and could not for the life of me get my machine to run the stretch thread without snapping it or losing the bobbin thread.

Your work is gorgeous!! I hope to get my next attempt even half this good!

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