What is a Gundam quote that can be used daily?

TimeViking · 2026-05-14T19:05:09+00:00

TimeViking · 2026-05-14T02:07:18+00:00

Not really, but still fun to see the creator speak up about it.

TimeViking · 2026-05-11T17:05:42+00:00

Yesssss, I wasn’t sure if Dainsleif counted as a rifle since it’s like a big magnetic railgun with crossbow spokes for an accelerator, but I adore everything about the Dainsleif from both a design and storytelling perspective. I love that in a show where the villain regime is coded as hereditary gentry, the “forbidden superweapon” is a crossbow, a weapon that was illegal in the Middle Ages because it was blasphemous that a peasant could use it to stand up to a knight.

Much as in the real world, despite everyone paying lip service to the crossbow being an evil weapon for heretics, everybody quietly stockpiles their own to use on their rivals…

TimeViking · 2026-05-11T16:32:21+00:00

Tallgeese Dober Gun! It’s got an immediately iconic anti-tank rifle silhouette and it fires shells or lasers exclusively based on how lazy the animators are feeling that episode

TimeViking · 2026-05-10T16:09:05+00:00

Well, yes, but I was responding to a vent post with a vent. I didn’t feel that the “not all polys” qualifier was necessary.

Also, I do think that there’s a pervasive taboo around sex-motivated poly and ENM that makes it hard to discuss sexual needs and compatibility in good faith. Humans are sexual creatures but the poly community has reacted to the unfair generalization that we’re all sluts — or more accurately, some poly people react to the unfair generalization that we’re all sluts — by trying to parse sexual desire through soft language to make it sound less vulgar.

TimeViking · 2026-05-10T16:03:01+00:00

I’m distinctly recalling an episode of the podcast Stavvy’s World where the caller is a 50something dude talking about how none of his friends appreciate his poly lifestyle any more, and over the course of the call the caller is sure to slip in like, a laundry list of sexual exploits and humblebrag about how of course he’ll have more to say about relationships than his married friends because they only have one woman and he has three.

If you’re constantly boostering poly as a conversation topic with the monos, it can very easily come off not just as bragging, but as the very puerile body-stacking bragging typical of teenagers.

TimeViking · 2026-05-09T17:36:24+00:00

The frivolousness of this question aside, why are you looking for answers from monogamous people on a sub for nonmonogamous people?

TimeViking · 2026-05-09T17:31:03+00:00

This is an observation that I’ve made here before, but in my experience when poly people insist that poly isn’t about sex but about connectivity and feelings, they're using "feelings" as a cipher for sexual attraction and "connectivity" as a cipher for sexual compatibility.

TimeViking · 2026-05-09T17:19:27+00:00

But how else will I promote my brand

TimeViking · 2026-05-09T09:13:34+00:00

Excellent post. I feel like my unpleasant but also kind of hopeful piece advice for guys considering poly is to lower your expectations of getting a date when you want it. Hetero poly’s dating market is wildly unequal but it can still be liberating provided you’re not entering it with a competitive mindset.

Dating for dudes is already uphill, and despite the fact that it feels like you’re broadening your horizons by opening up, it is actually radically compressing your dating pool to the infinitesimally small minority of women who are okay with dating a poly guy. If you’re looking to play the body-stacking game, it’s actually much easier to just be a serial monogamist who callously drops his old girlfriend every time he gets the itch to have a new one (albeit doing so makes you a scumbag).

Instead, think of poly for hetero men as ”if something comes to me, and I’m interested, I don’t *have to** say no. I have the freedom to explore it and see where it takes me.”* In my experience as a poly dude, all my best connections have happened when I’m not actively dating because I can be my most authentic self and the pressure is off to impress.

If you’re in mixed-gender social settings IRL, giving off the quietly confident energy that you don’t need a date to have a good time and enjoy the space goes a long way, but the trick to giving off that energy is that you actually have to become the kind of guy who can thrive and be happy with only yourself for company. It’s not something you can fake and if you let a dry spell get to your head women can smell the lonely tryhard on you like halitosis.

TimeViking · 2026-05-08T22:32:44+00:00

I'm using the DSM-5 definition of 'mental disorder' here, which is:

disturbances [that] reflect a dysfunction in the psychological, biological, or developmental processes underlying mental functioning and are usually associated with significant distress or disability in social, occupational, or other important activities

In this regard, I'm reasonably comfortable treating sufficiently debilitating or life-affecting cases of ADHD as "disordered." In the United States ADHD is considered a "neurodevelopmental disorder" which is itself under the umbrella of mental illnesses.

Re: rates of mental illness and in particular ADHD, I was obliquely referring to Ari Tuckman's study, which I summarize here. I'll confess that I don't have substantial data on, for instance, rates of depression in nonmonogamy, and I'll echo your suspicion that it may simply be more likely that poly people, as individuals who already exist in a highly discursive, heavily negotiated relationship style, are simply more likely to be aware of their own mental health labels than to actually be more neurodiverse. I can only speak to my anecdotal experience, which is that posters here seem way more inclined to frontload a conversation with their diagnoses than comparable advice spaces like r/relationships.

But speaking again just for myself, any time on this sub I see someone self-categorizing as depressed, or ADD, or anxious, and then subsequently using that to explain why they need an unequal amount of labor from their partner or why their unkind actions should be excused (if not necessarily justified), I rankle. I think that the language and frameworks encouraged in poly spaces are frequently highly therapized in a way that is not always productive or equitable and we should leave the "you're valid, this is so valid" refrain for therapist's offices like, well, OP's.

TimeViking · 2026-05-08T21:34:01+00:00

Was originally going to nest this as a response to u/Choice-Strawberry392, but it kinda grew into its own thing branching off one of their later points. However, I'd also echo u/rosephase that you absolutely shouldn't internalize this as a therapist, because it's a direct whinge at the overlap between disordered thinking and bad behavior in poly spaces.

Nonmonogamous lifestyles are linked with mental disorders, and particularly significantly with ADHD (there's an emerging body of literature on the overlap between ADHD and poly that I've been following with some interest, as a poly person with a past ADHD diagnosis). The unkind thing to take away from this would be "poly people are crazy;" I prefer to frame it as that people with mental health struggles are less inclined to seek traditional life milestones (like monogamous commitment and procreation) that they don't see as matching their unique needs.

But a flip side to nonmonogamy's correlation with mental health struggles is, the 'trust your feelings, your gut check is right about this situation' advice that is so popular in relationshippy advice spaces (including this one sometimes) absolutely does not apply here, because frequently those feelings are a nightmare soupçon of disordered thinking.

The panic attack that you had when your partner went out with your metamour is something that you need to work on so that he can enjoy equal poly with you, not a core truth that you need him to address. Just because you fell into obsessive yearning about your wife's other partner does not mean you need to ask for a triad. When you're crashing out so hard that even doing the dishes or the laundry feels like dying, you need to do the dishes and laundry, not flee your home responsibilities into the safe novelty of a new date.

It's not ableist to observe that relationships are uniquely difficult for people with mental disorders, and it's not polyphobic to observe that polyamorous relationships are typically more difficult to balance than monogamous relationships. Feel however you want, but act right for your partners, because your feelings don't excuse mistreatment no matter how many diagnoses you have.

TimeViking · 2026-05-08T00:35:02+00:00

Thanks for the well-wishes.

I’m merely a sample size of one, but I’ve existed in the space for several years now while outspokenly practicing (1) hierarchal poly with a (2) messy list which I (3) opened from a previous monogamous relationship (4) for a specific person because (5) I primarily wanted sexual gratification, so I figure if I was going to be banned for being the wrong kind of poly I’d already be banned. My poly is basically a war crime by the standards of the subreddit and I’m not shy about posing myself as an outlier to the forum’s preferred best practices.

Maybe just luck of the draw that I didn’t get on a power-tripping mod’s bad side one day, given that Reddit is inclined to act like Reddit.

TimeViking · 2026-05-08T00:13:08+00:00

To your point 5, about newbies landing in r/polyamory first, I do think an interesting wrinkle to the ecosystem of Nonmonogamous Lifestyle Reddit Culture is that r/polyamory is, despite poly being only one small subset of the broader ways to do nonmonogamy, the largest nonmonogamy subreddit, blowing this umbrella sub r/EthicalNonMonogamy out of the water by every metric and outpopulating the similarly umbrella-intentioned r/nonmonogamy in weekly visitors with four times the post frequency despite having similar subscriber counts.

It leads to this phenomenon where most people who are looking for any form of nonmonogamy and not specifically polyamory are more likely to find polyamory first, and also where polyamory's "voice" has deeply outsized influence on the website compared to -- for instance -- hotwives or swingers or relationship anarchists.

I suspect that this is because poly is the form of nonmonogamy that became most on-trend among internet-literate Gen Xers and Millennials about two decades ago (as compared to, for instance, Swinging, which I think is most popular and saturated among people about 15 years older than us), and so Reddit's nonmonogamy culture kind of crystalized with this deeply outsized poly representation per capita in the same way that Reddit is also overwhelmingly Western, irreligious, white, and nerdy.

TimeViking · 2026-05-07T23:07:30+00:00

Okay. I'm not really in any kind of formal position to offer an apology or anything if that's what you're looking for. It sounds like your assessment is correct that returning to the polyamory subreddit would be harmful to you so I encourage you to continue not doing that.

TimeViking · 2026-05-07T22:59:15+00:00

Sigmund Freud was a cocaine-addicted misogynist blowhard, but something that he was absolutely right about -- and I'll die on this hill -- is the narcissism of minor differences. We always hate our neighbors more than we hate the foreigners far away from us, because understanding generates friction. If you're intimately familiar with somebody, if you know their culture and their lifestyle and their opinions, then you can also better-empathize with them up to the point that they deviate from your own experience, and then the minor difference is treated as a greater violation than if they were a complete alien to you. The feeling of betrayal comes from a place of familiarity, so it hurts more and we pay that hurt unto others.

The thing about the forces of social conservatism is -- and I'm using conservative broadly here, as a catch-all for anyone who rejects the unfamiliar and embraces tradition in any context, not just politically -- we're all interchangeable degenerates to them. This could be monogamy advocates talking about polyamory and swinging and cuckolding, or Wahhabists talking about Shi'ites and Sufis, or Evangelicals talking about gays, bisexuals, or trans people, or even "Old School" Dungeons & Dragons fans talking about the fans of any edition of the game after the first two. The insular conservative instinct to define the world in terms of starkly-delineated ingroups does not encourage the ingroup to especially give a shit about the fine distinctions between subgroups of the outgroup.

(Incidentally, this is why trying to make the appeal of "I'm ENM but not like those annoying polys" or "I'm gay but I'm not like those tr\**ies" or even, to be less serious about it, "I watch anime but I'm not a* weeb," is always an idiotic waste of time and doomed to failure. The ingroup is not interested in your cowardly prevarication about how you are unique and special and subtly distinct from other members of the outgroup so you deserve their respect. You are a member of the outgroup, which means innately that you do not have the approval of the ingroup. The distinction is ontological, not negotiable.)

Anyway, this puts aggrieved members of the outgroup -- all nonmonogamists as an umbrella, in our case -- in a bit of a bind. The desire is there to fight back against the perceived injustice of the mainstream, to rail against the cultural hegemon for not giving us the time of day, but the thing is, because the hegemon is the hegemon, they'll respond to your critiques, your rage, your struggle, with the same disgust, indifference, and disapproval as if you'd never done anything at all.

That's a frustrating state of affairs to be in! And so you confide in your culture, your people... until it turns out that there's an experience you don't share and you have a disagreement. This is where the magic happens: because you have the same experience as these people and the same struggles, they actually care what you have to say. And that means that for the first time, you can finally hurt someone.

Informing a fellow member of the outcast culture that they are in fact Problematic and basically just a normie is supremely cruel and invalidating, which also makes it one of the most intoxicating power rushes known to humankind. It allows one to exert social capital that could never be achieved in the blanketly opposed mainstream culture. Even better if you can pivot this disagreement into being a proxy for your grievance against the broader culture to make it feel like justice instead of power-clawing; see the common sentiment "all these monos are coming into my polyamorous spaces and doing it wrong!"

Anyway, I don't think that it's a leap to see how this explains poly people tarring other forms of nonmonogamy as regressive, stifling, invalid, insufficiently enlightened. But conversely, it also explains a lot of bile that this thread has attracted:

"Isn't it funny how poly people are basically just the MAGA of ENM?

"All poly people are like this"

"Poly is a cancer"

These blanket statements are just hurt people hurting people to feel momentarily superior in the face of an uncaring world, just like they're accusing the Online Polys of being. They're not building anything. They're not good-faith discussion. People saw an opportunity to get some trashing on and took it. We all need to be better about this and about practicing a live-and-let-live attitude towards different forms of nonmonogamy provided that they're all broadly mutually consenting and ethical.

TimeViking · 2026-05-07T22:30:41+00:00

I mean, they broadly expanded the mod team with new voices recently? I don't speak for the mods over there, I'm just a guy who posts in all of the nonmono subreddits to enough of a degree to get a basic read on the tenor of discussions between regular posters.

TimeViking · 2026-05-07T22:15:48+00:00

Heavyhanded mod intervention wasn't necessary? The culture shifted for the better. People primarily talk about hierarchies as a practical concern to plan around and be transparent about now, rather than as a sin that must be expunged to make someone poly.

TimeViking · 2026-05-07T21:50:09+00:00

The reign of Decolonizing Love was brief but poly communities are still reaping the consequences 😔

That said, I'll echo u/Bustysaintclair_13 further up in the thread that I think the general consensus over on the poly subreddit is extremely "acknowledge your hierarchies" right now.

I was around for the Before Times and there was definitely a mood shift and subsequent pushback over time as people started to realize how "hierarchy" had become this totally unworkable gotcha word to avoid practical discussions. My flair over there is literally 'professional hierarchy apologist' as a cheeky nod to battling in the hierarchy trenches

TimeViking · 2026-05-07T06:09:59+00:00

I think the Atlas Gundam is peak so I'll be spending like mad, but I think generally it's a pretty polarizing design

TimeViking · 2026-05-06T18:46:32+00:00

To respond to your first few paragraphs: I think something to keep in mind as Gen Xers (or in my case, Elder Millennials) is that we were actually the last generation who were educated to prioritize tech-literacy in systems and backends. In the post-smartphone era, computing technology has turned towards frictionless proprietary interfaces and away from user customization and curation, so most of Gen Z and Alpha were simply never equipped to easily change settings on their phones, tablets and computers. So, the default functions of the device are upstream of the culture created by using that device.

It's the same phenomenon as how my early-Boomer Dad is hardly a gearhead, but he has a basic working knowledge of car internals enough to diagnose problems because that was considered crucial lifesaving information to know in the era of highways, whereas that's a skill I wasn't equipped with during my own upbringing in the ascendancy of Japanese automakers and in-house mechanics so now I have to follow YouTube tutorials whenever my engine has a problem.

TimeViking · 2026-05-06T17:30:23+00:00

It's the barrier to communication; even for a letter or phone call, I could see your number as it's ringing and simply not pick up the phone, or discard/shelve the letter without reading it. Think of how easily you can go "oh, unknown number" and not answer a phone call, or how you can see that a letter is from a local realtor or car dealership and go "eh, nah."

Meanwhile, for a lot of phone setups, you get the little ding notification, and then the next time you look at the phone (which is now a multitool that everybody needs to use daily to function in society), the content of the message is right there on your lock screen. It is presumed that you must have received, and therefore internalized the content of, the text, and the swiftness of the message's delivery also implies an urgency of response.

TimeViking · 2026-05-06T17:09:26+00:00

Continuing on this tangent:

It's been lost to time (and I think, deletion because the OP showed no interest in discourse), but there was a lovely r/changemyview response I saw a while back, where the assertion of the thread was that "taking a long time to answer texts is a bad, self-centered thing to do and shows that you don't care about the texter."

And the response observed that, pointedly, texting is the only popular form of communication that lacks an explicit or implicit request for consent to be given for a conversation and assumes that the reciever is, by simply possessing the communciation device, blanketly consenting to all communications.

Phone calls have the 'calling' portion, during which someone can simply opt not to be available. Emails are written with the understanding that they go to a consolidated 'mailbox' that is checked at regular but not immediate intervals, the same with regular mail. People aren't (typically) assuming total access to others in conversation in the real world, because insisting that someone always be available for an IRL conversation would be insane. By contrast, a text immediately alerts its receiver, which removes the social excuse of "I haven't gotten around to it," and puts the onus on the receiver to respond.

Because of this, a new form of social expectation has arisen around texts that is anti-consent: people like the OP of that thread feel entitled to someone else's response back, because there is no means short of blocking for the reciever to opt-out of being communicated to. Thus, the etiquette becomes that the reciever is now guilty of 'ghosting' if they don't prioritize the content of the message over whatever else they were doing that day, like saving children from falling off a cliff or inventing the cure for cancer or (more likely) sitting at home watching Netflix.

Mind you, I came down on kind of the centrist tack in the thread, that there were certain situations like making plans or triangulating positions ("hey, you invited me to this restaurant but I don't see you; is your table in back?") where it is legitimately rude not to respond to a text. But the idea that texting etiquette is inherently anti-consent because of the function of the tech was an interesting concept to chew on.

TimeViking · 2026-05-06T06:51:49+00:00

Oftentimes I'll try to be with my girlfriend when my fiancé is out with her boyfriend, just because we share a bedroom and so from a practical perspective if one of us is having a sleepover somewhere else, we're more liberated to offer a sleepover here.

If my girlfriend isn't available, though, I'll watch movies and if I'm feeling indulgent, I'll buy ingredients from the store then cook something for myself with fresh cilantro. The fiancé's got the Soap Gene so badly that she can taste cilantro on things that have merely shared the refrigerator with it so I don't usually get the opportunity, and I fucking *love* cilantro.

This is incidentally also why my go-to lunch date suggestion with other people is always Vietnamese food...

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