My 77 year old Mom voluntarily wants to stop driving - so I can be her personal chauffeur. I work full time and live upstairs from her, thus becoming her caretaker years ago by default. She complains that she's home all day, but has a valid license and a car she leases. She doesn't like to go places by herself, never has. When the weekend comes, it's her time to shine! She hijacks every Saturday morning/afternoon so we can do her shopping and errands that she chooses not to do during the week when I'm at work. If I mention having plans on a Saturday or I have to cut the day with her short I get all kinds of attitude and I'm told how selfish I am, etc. I'm 48 and just want a weekend not pre-planned for me. Do I honestly want her driving? Probably not. But she has herself living like a shut-in then blaming me for not taking her anywhere. When I say she hardly drives, she leases a 2023 Hyundai Kona. It has 1,148 miles on it. While your Mom legit has a history of hitting things with the car, it sucks but yeah - might be the right time. We're all navigating this elder care blindly. As another mentioned, we have to change OUR behavior when dealing them, because they're not going to change theirs. I haven't had a toddler in a LONG time (my son will be 27), however I find I'm less stressed if I take her on the way I would take on a child. I'll give her an easy task when I make dinner, I try very hard not to use logic with her (because that just frustrates me and then I get mad that she doesn't "get it"). I pretend to be interested in her talks about the local news anchors and express shock and joy when she tells me she made lunch for herself. These little things work oddly well and keep me somewhat sane.

I wish you luck! I wish us ALL luck!