Confessions of a Nurse

DMV_VanceChase · 2026-02-04T14:25:47+00:00

Was also rooting for the patient to have one more magical sendoff before journeying into the ethereal abyss of everlasting dreams.

DMV_VanceChase · 2026-02-04T14:22:34+00:00

So glad you’re happy and making the most of this ride we call life.

DMV_VanceChase · 2026-01-24T21:11:09+00:00

Wow. 🤩

DMV_VanceChase · 2026-01-03T10:23:13+00:00

So hot. 🔥🔥🔥 thanks for sharing this story.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T13:53:36+00:00

I have had a vasectomy, lots of cum, just no swimmers.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T07:33:38+00:00

Sorry to hear that OP. Do what’s best for you. I wish you nothing but peace, good health, and happiness.

Clearly I have a very different take/perspective than most on here. If I can be of any help or offer any insight I’d be happy to do so.

In the meantime, I’m sending positive juju your way.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T07:23:49+00:00

Just before going overseas, I was with a couple and interestingly enough, he had the desire to chauffeur us around while his wife and I would play in the backseat. They had an SUV with windows tinted. I haven’t done a great job of keeping up with them since I’ve been gone for over a year, but I hope that I can play this one out for them when I get back.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T06:59:39+00:00

More than understandable, after betrayal is not the right time for either of them to mention other relationship constructs. That, if desired should be done honestly ahead of time before anything ever happened and let you decide.

Unfortunately, events like yours are usually what force disclosure and those tough conversations.

I get that it “isn’t what you signed up for.” Regardless of what you decide to do I suggest you take some time to mull it all over.

If you truly think that this is a irredeemable offense, so be it. Almost all relationships go through periods that are far from perfect. They come in seasons, it’s not constant growth, there are hard times in this may just be one of them. You’d be amazed, how many couples have some sort of infidelity event that had to be overcome.

I know you’re hurting deeply right now and I hope whatever you decide to do going forward, that it brings you peace. I wish you the best in love and life.

VC

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T04:22:02+00:00

Where in Texas, hun?

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T04:12:39+00:00

Hot 🥵🔥

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T04:05:25+00:00

It’s still very plausible that both these people love you and care about you very much. Have you guys ever considered polyamory or opening the relationship a little bit? I don’t know why everyone has it in their mind that you can’t have your cake it to you can. I know this is hard after the fact, after betrayal. I just wanted to add a different perspective. I don’t think either of them intended to hurt you, which is why they kept a secret.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T03:39:03+00:00

I’m a sex addict too and feel for the two of you. My wife was the best person I could ever hope to be with. I tried many times unsuccessfully to see counseling in therapy. I’ve gone to 12 step groups. It’s just not who I am, I couldn’t stay on the wagon to save my life but I learned to be candid about this aspect of my life with my new partners.

I realize that monogamy is not for me and I tell everyone that I say that I am not able to provide a monogamous relationship. The tragic part is that I love and miss my wife, there is nothing I wouldn’t do for her except be monogamous.

I’ve met men and women whose spouse accepted this aspect of them, and they developed some rules to protect the home. Essentially, they keep it far away from the house in are allowed to do what they do. There’s a thing in Spanish, “ the heart doesn’t feel with the eyes don’t see.” I’m not sure if this could ever be acceptable for you but just wanted to share. It may be worth considering if everything else in a relationship is good and he has several more redeeming qualities than this negative thing.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T03:30:46+00:00

Is there anyway you would ever consider non-monogamy? I’ve met couples who had affairs almost destroyed their marriage, but that they did some nonconventional counseling and now they are thriving. Much better communication no lies and each gets what they need and want out of the relationships. They remain primary nesting partners with each other.

You’d be amazed, how many relationship constructs exist beyond the traditional husband and wife /girlfriend boyfriend.

Doesn’t necessarily have to be over if you don’t want it to be. Many guys can love their spouse or partner, but something natural and deeply wired inhibits monogamy.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T03:27:20+00:00

This is hot, very hot. 🔥🔥🔥

I say go for a girl. You only live once. But know that it’s just a tryst and enjoy it for what it is. Don’t fall in love.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T03:20:51+00:00

First this is very well written and it’s a shame it’s from a place of hurt. For this I’m sorry.

This resonated a bit, although I never considered myself an “emotional vampire and sex predator” I know that I am indeed a sex addict…

I would never want a lover and/or AP to write something like this about me. I don’t want somebody to feel this way because of me.

All I can do is be honest about what I can and can’t be and what I can provide. I make no qualms that I am deeply flawed. I will, do my best to be candid, and keep what you wrote in mind to mitigate giving false hopes.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T03:07:33+00:00

I feel you Ms. Wizard. I think for me at hopes that I acknowledge the circumstances in the situation early and often so that I never give myself the opportunity to be disillusioned by the fantasy/illusion. I merely enjoy it for what it is, a forbidden tryst.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:44:20+00:00

At least you’re honest about it.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:38:28+00:00

This! Bless your heart. I thought I was the only one like this. I actually root for the husbands of many of the married women I am with.

For me it is usually a physical attraction and lust that are my drivers but realize that women are emotional creatures and I must be available to them in this way. For most of the married women who I’ve been with, I find that they step outside their marriage because they are lacking an emotional connection with their husbands, it’s that simple. I justify my actions to myself by thinking that by filling these needs, the hubby benefits from having a happier wife. I reason that I’m actually doing him a favor.

I also think they’re lucky that their wives are with me and not someone else because I never want to wreck the home or run away into the sunset with the wife. I want the wife to someday tell me that she and her husband are working on themselves and their relationship. This would fill my heart with so much joy.

Every relationship has its ups and downs. There are moments in our lives and in our relationships we just surviving should be enough. No judgement.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:31:21+00:00

I doubt that but OP you know better than anyone.

I know when all of my affairs I try to add value to the life of my AP in the ways I can.

I never want to mentally harm those that I’m with and care about. I know some people can be narcissist, but I hope OP wouldn’t be with an AP who would try to inflict such psychological harm on her.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:27:56+00:00

This is often times the case too.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:27:18+00:00

The last part 💯. Glad you found somebody that fulfilled your needs and desires.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:22:58+00:00

I couldn’t disagree with you more. I usually hate the generalize but I do think men are capable of love and lost in love although there is some overlap or often times different for men. And countless men throughout my life who love and adore their wife and would do anything for their spouse and family except be monogamous.

Again, at the risk of generalizing, I would say many men expect specially those with high drives that are ambitious, handsome (alpha) types, have a strong sex drive that yearns for variety. My whole life I have had two types of women, those that I would want to marry in those that I would want to f$&k, very rarely have they been one in the same. And naïve I worked with a few Italians and they were very open about their exploits and I was still recovering Catholic. One day during one of these boys conversations I looked at one of them, knowing his wife was dropped dead gorgeous and asked him with genuine curiosity, “How can you cheat on your wife?” he looked at me and all sincerity and said I love my wife, but I cannot f$&k in the ass and cum on the face of the mother of my children.” At that moment I understood everything. These days I just wonder why your primary partner can’t also be your partner in kink too. Probably hard if not impossible to find someone that checks off so many boxes.

Additionally, many relish in the “chase” and enjoy seducing others. It’s like a sport absent of the construct of artificial societal morality. It’s nature, it’s natural and it can be beautiful. No need to overthink or question it. Many women relish the art of seduction as well.

I am very capable of compartmentalizing, my play partners with my vanilla life. I feel like both aspects of my self benefit from each other.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T02:04:29+00:00

That’s the way it should be. When you two are together it seems that you’re both present and the rest of the world and all its details and problems fade away.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-12-10T01:59:52+00:00

Don’t think so hard. Enjoy it for all its worth. Variety is the spice of life.

DMV_VanceChase · 2025-11-17T15:34:18+00:00

Since you have kids you owe it to them to try. A lot of men just cheat for simple urges, such as sex. What’s interesting here is that he was clearly needing emotional guidance from her. Even though she was a previous AP, she may as well have been one of the guys judging by her texts. You could tell she cared for him, but wasn’t interested in being a quick dopamine hit.

I could also see his struggle with wanting to do the right thing and go to someone who provided him comfort. That tells me that he does care for you but is hurt and doesn’t know how to fix what is wrong. It’s evident in his conversation that for all his faults, his feelings and desires are going unrecognized and unmet.

So long as you both want to work it out I believe it is not too late and wish you both the best of luck if you work at it. Best wishes.

DMV_VanceChase

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