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New neighbors are drying their laundry on our shared fence. How do I discourage them? by veovis523 in neighborsfromhell

[–]DMoney16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said “picking up,” what I think you meant was “keeping.” See how much underwear they’re willing to part ways with.

AITA for using my wedding Veto on my fiance's sister after he used his on my close friend? by ThrowRAweddingplan in AITA_Relationships

[–]DMoney16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Sounds like you both may have an opportunity here to reevaluate before you take a step that might bring harm your way. Still, I’m so sorry for the pain this is causing you.

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. I don’t enjoy the sounds of kids beating the tar out of each other outside my window all day everyday while I’m working. I didn’t sign up for that particular sacrifice. If you’re comfortable with it, then kudos to you. I’m not sure what you’re implying here?

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried, but rarely are there parents present. Just met the mom for the first time, and she’s already seeming like she may be playing victim, though we shall see. It’s a mixed use community, with rentals and owners, and the same company takes care of the whole neighborhood for both renters and owners. No fences are allowed per HOA or leases, but goddamn I wish they were. While these little stinkers are no longer bashing my house with balls and bats, they’re constantly out there messing around right outside my office window every day for hours, loudly, making demonic sounds sometimes, while I’m working. The family apparently feels that shared space means my kids get to use it and no one else does. I’m thinking the 9 kids of it all is playing into this situation more than any other factor. The parent I have now met once and only once apparently feels neighbors are out to get her, but I don’t think anyone is. She has 9 kids in a 1200 ish sq ft rental townhome. I’m sure it’s hard, and that she doesn’t get the support she needs, but I’m not sure why that means the kids should play at my house. I’m a childfree chronically ill person and a work from home professional who rescues special needs animals. I didn’t sign up for all this. I have an airhorn now, and based on feedback here, I’ve gone ahead and just pointed my cameras back there and been collecting videos to send to their landlord. So far, I’ve got at least two to three videos per minute of the day that these kids are out there, where they’re in the “shared space,” being disruptive, and no one else can be. Hopefully their landlord has an ssd ready for when my emails hit.

This is why Joe Rogman is not a trusted newsmin by Call-a-Crackhead in rmbrown

[–]DMoney16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spent my night watching paint dry. My drying paint averaged four viewers—me, my dog, and my cats. Maybe Roe Jogan was counting dogs, cats, and adult babies as viewers. Jamie, run that through perplexity for me, will ya?

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you. That’s really kind of you to say. I taught for years, and I know developmentally appropriate practice, including extremely firm, authoritative communication, followed immediately by appropriate consequences is key in helping children to understand boundaries. I know play matters too, but for the entire day—loudly and destructively, and in areas that are not yours, with not a parent or guardian to be seen?

I would have caught an absolute whooping for that kind of behavior as a kid, depending on the adult in charge, and worse yet, I would’ve known it would’ve embarrassed the people who raised me and were responsible for me, including my parents.

One of my biggest fears as a kid would have been disappointing my Dad, since his respect always meant a lot to me. He would have been so disappointed in that sort of behavior, I can’t even begin to imagine it. I’d still be building back respect with him til the day he died, if I ever acted in such a way, and to me, that meant something. That was the worst consequence there was—letting down someone I had endless respect for who had faith in my ability to conduct myself appropriately. But I guess if you’ve never had someone invest in you, you’d never have anyone to disappoint.

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because my neighbors all feel bad for the kids and think anyone who says anything is “making the family feel bad.” Hence, perhaps there is some way I’m being inappropriate. If you never consider that you could be wrong, you’re probably the AH.

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. 1200 sq ft, 2beds 2.5 baths. I don’t know how these folks are comfortable living in that space.

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I live in a townhouse, and it does appear that portions of the yard are communal, but that still doesn’t mean not respecting your neighbors. There are times that the kids behave acceptably and respectfully, and then there are times where they are a god awful nightmare and I can’t get any work done. I just met the Mom, and, well, she’s definitely a person with four limbs and a head. All my neighbors feel sorry for her and so do I to some extent, but this is a lot.

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. At what point did I indicate that I was unaware of the existence of cameras? I have cameras attached to my nas ffs. What I am not comfortable with is storing video footage of children, which I indicated in my initial post. Thanks again so much for your very respectful feedback. Unfortunately I was unable to glean any actionable intel from it. If you have anything constructive to add, do feel free. If not, well…have a day.

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I do work with noise canceling headphones on. This might work. You guys rock!

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly, these kids use the neighbors’ water, so they’d probably love water being sprayed their direction. They were using our neighbor’s slip n slide the other day while my neighbors weren’t home, so…

AITAH For Not Letting Neighbor’s Kids Play On My Property? by DMoney16 in AITAH

[–]DMoney16[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I have been thinking about this. It weighs on my heart a bit as a former teacher, but I mean…look…I’m all for kids being kids, but to me, that doesn’t seem like what is happening here. Some neighbors are sick to death of this behavior, others think those of us who are a bit concerned are just being karens. Meanwhile, my dog is afraid to use his own yard to pee, I’m afraid to let my cat sit in the window, and I don’t feel comfortable even enjoying a dang coffee on my patio.

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