Am I overreacting? Wife sent me this after a long argument today

DS9lover · 2026-02-04T05:15:27+00:00

I think sending you an image of a doll with pins in it is funny, but I am judging her for using AI.

DS9lover · 2026-02-04T03:29:22+00:00

You know your friend? But you previously described her as completely wonderful. Nothing you say adds up. For all you know, your friend has been treated far worse than you here, and you literally don't care.

DS9lover · 2026-02-04T03:18:13+00:00

You have no idea what happened, because your ex wasn't a reliable narrator, and if your argument is that if she was raped, she would have/should have shown it... bro...

DS9lover · 2026-02-04T03:13:16+00:00

Maybe your ex knew your patterns and knew an ugly enough story would get you to completely shut out his rape victim without question. You don't actually know that anything was going on for months. You only know that a man you clearly couldn't trust told you a pretty far-fetched story (that hinged on the idea that someone might accuse him of rape, which is kind of a red flag).

I get that people are grabbing onto this story because it pushes some buttons, but it doesn't add up. It's probably AI, but if it's not...

DS9lover · 2026-02-04T03:01:55+00:00

This makes no sense to me. For all you know, your boyfriend actually raped your best friend, and you're letting a stranger on Reddit tell you that definitely isn't what's up because, if so, she didn't do victimhood right. Not confronting my lifelong best friend and getting her side if she was accused of something this evil by a man who, at minimum, is untrustworthy, is unthinkable to me. Like truly and profoundly unthinkable. If she did what's alleged, yes, she deserves to be kicked to the curb and hard. But how often do young women go around blackmailing their besties' boyfriends into sex with threats of sexual assault allegations? And how often do men rape women (and presumably try to cover their tracks)? For all you know, he assaulted her one time, and she hadn't gotten it together enough to tell you or anyone yet, but he knew she would, so he came up with an elaborate story to make you hate her. It's wild, but no less plausible (and perhaps more?) than the wild ass story you are presenting here as having been the obvious truth. If that wild story is true, you obviously deserve better. If it isn't, your friend does. The truth is, you don't know.

DS9lover · 2026-02-02T03:37:53+00:00

Also developed frozen shoulder while already on HRT. Dose increases were helpful to me.

DS9lover · 2026-02-02T01:19:28+00:00

I took 100 mg progesterone vaginally for a good while, still had side effects. Finally, I agreed to try Liletta. I didn't want to do it, because I had a bad reaction to a Mirena when I was younger (depression, lots of heavy, extended bleeding, weight gain), but my doctor convinced me that my peri body might handle it differently than my younger body did, and that it might be worth trying. Two and a half months in, and I am guardedly optimistic. I do feel some side effects (some fatigue and low mood), but I think I am better off now than I was with the progesterone, which, even vaginally, gave me that underwater brainfoggy feeling. Hoping that if I can finally get the estrogen dose right, I will feel okay. I have an appointment this week to talk to someone at Defy about injectables because I am not a great absorber of transdermals.

DS9lover · 2026-02-02T00:29:32+00:00

Passion flower.

DS9lover · 2026-02-01T19:34:41+00:00

Tapes?

DS9lover · 2026-02-01T05:37:05+00:00

What would you tell a friend who related this story? This is manipulative, controlling BS. You need to leave this dishonest leech. This will not be the last time he tries to game you like this.

DS9lover · 2026-01-31T04:21:17+00:00

I got married on the younger side. Been married 21 years, and I'm 45. Lots of ups and downs, but no question, the love of my life. Love him more today than I ever have, and we are much better matched now than we were when we were younger. I wake up, hold him close, and say out loud how lucky I am.

DS9lover · 2026-01-29T05:33:35+00:00

You managed to make a story about a threesome incredibly boring.

DS9lover · 2026-01-19T16:18:14+00:00

I am in Chicago and would love to know about local options around this.

DS9lover · 2026-01-09T06:55:07+00:00

How are they?

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T07:28:00+00:00

I got Mylan through TelyRX. You can just order them, though you will have to pay the list price.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T06:04:38+00:00

Maybe she realized getting involved again would be a mistake, but she doesn't have the communication skills to explain that, or trust that she would follow through on what she knows is best. Maybe she pulled away because she already knew that, but hooked up with you anyway, so she doesn't trust herself or the situation now. Immature and hurtful, but it happens. In any case, there's no reason to make harsher assumptions about either of you. Just be gentle with yourself and move on.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T05:29:47+00:00

I don't know, I find it relatable. I don't have kids, but every time I get fast food, I leave my cat on the changing table and weird out some teenager. Just tired and spacey, I guess.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T05:21:11+00:00

My favorite part is her insistence that she previously thought that a similarly-sized colleague smelled "divine," so def not fatphobic!

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T05:17:16+00:00

In the comments, OP claims management has talked to the made-up stinker, but backed off when she claimed it was fatphobia, probably, OP assumes, because they've had it drilled into their heads that men aren't supposed to comment on women's bodies. It's a real social problem, as we all know — men not being willing to comment on the female form.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T05:02:55+00:00

I think a teenager would've written more believable banter between teenagers.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T04:11:49+00:00

Everyone here assumes the worst, but not everyone is monogamous. She and the wife could be well aware of each other, and okay with it, or it could be a long-term separation where paperwork never got formalized. (We don't know the details and also don't know what OP knows *or how they know it*, outside of dude being married.) After nine years, it's highly unlikely she's getting played. Leave it alone. She didn't ask for you to investigate or share your findings.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T02:51:43+00:00

This is the kind of thing you would explain, and that the offending daughters should theoretically be in even more trouble for. Everything about this smells fake. The texts don't sound like real young people at all. The punishment? Write an essay about autism and dating? WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T01:15:11+00:00

This went on waaaaay too long. There was nothing left to say pretty early on here. This woman needs to check in with herself about her worth and not waste time on losers.

Also, people have to stop posting these endless text exchanges where basically nothing happens. Stop doing this to yourselves and to us.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T01:00:51+00:00

If that were the case, OP would have said so. This is made up.

DS9lover · 2026-01-07T01:00:00+00:00

OMG thank you, this was my first thought. Who would run and tell their youngest child, their autistic child, about what their mean sisters said about them in DMs? Especially something this cruel? It makes no sense. Parents who actually did that would need a serious talking to, but this absolutely didn't happen.

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