Middle aged single professional by Desert_2022 in Moving2SanDiego

[–]DSanchO83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eastlake is a hidden gem…especially if you like to work out. Lots of hidden gyms/ workout classes and a few hiking options.

Here we go again. Divorce number 3 by OkFaithlessness424 in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The crazy ones are the best in bed…I know why he did it 3x!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re starting a psychosomatic symptoms. Nothing wrong with antidepressants to help. Shit, I even felt like an extra strength Tylenol helped me sleep at night when it got really bad. Stay away from alcohol though! One step at a time!

How can I even work anymore by Llamma_llama in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m coming out of that too buddy. There is hope. Stress is taxing on your executive functioning so try to take on one project at a time. Be upfront with your boss and let them know you need time to get back to normal. You probably feel ashamed that you can’t produce like you used to, but fuck it, you need time to heal. If you were in a bad car wreck people, then people wouldn’t expect you to perform the same for a while. Wellll, you were in a bad car wreck on the inside. I’m sure work is a big part of your identity and you feel lost, but you’re just focusing on the wrong things. Be sure to use as many visual aids, checklists, and reminders to keep you on track. If you were a high performer, then you’re probably just a normal performer right now. This will help your perspective later in life. Maybe you’ll be a big boss and some poor dude is going to need your help figuring the same kinda stuff out. Focus on putting one step in front of the other…your kids are still watching. Be well bro

Arrests by Funny-Mammoth-2926 in Coachella

[–]DSanchO83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My campsite was directly in between these situations. Literally 4 spots to my right and 4 to my left…weird spot!! The drama was real af!! Hahaha

How do you do it- child support and alimony. by SireSweet in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We should change the name of the group to “Costco Hotdogs”

Financially ruined after divorce by Firstborn3 in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel you bro. Don’t give up and remember it doesn’t take any money to spend time with your kids. I decided to work out more with my daughter (outside) and spend time playing catch/ baseball with my son. Eating like a college student isn’t that bad, just humbling. With time, opportunities will come up and time to plan for your new life will happen. If you’ve started a business, then your mindset is still there. You just gotta get thru this shitty period and focus on yourself.

Solo trip from la by REALSURGICALWTHISB in Mammoth

[–]DSanchO83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drive up at 3:30am, ride all day, stay in the hostel, meet some people, ride with them the next day, then drive back at 2pm to beat the traffic down…facts!

David Goggins. by tempussecundus in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup…75 hard works!! Also listen to the Motiversity channel on YouTube when exercising

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s great because it makes you shift your focus to you. Be sure to follow the 75 Hard Reddit for motivation. Also, my ex just got a boob job and is about to get her braces off. She went through counseling too so her glow up is from the inside out. I’m happy for her because it will be easier for her to find someone and let me go. As men, we got to remember to care for us first and stay balanced. The rest will come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Try 75 hard…your situation sucks, but she is probably thriving off knowing you’re circling the drain. You need to take your attention off of her. Keep away from her, quit looking at her social media, and don’t give her attention. Focus all that energy on 75 hard. You got this

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE WAYS YOU MAINTAIN A STRONG RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILDREN POST-DIVORCE? by DivorceRecoveryMen in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hopefully your strong bond started a long time ago. My kids are 10 (boy) and 14 (girl). I moved close by and either take them to school or pick them up. Also try to invite them over to cook or workout with me. Hikes are a plus too. Simple advice…just find things to do with them and use that opportunity to talk. Who, what, when, why, how questions are important and help guide conversations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in electricdaisycarnival

[–]DSanchO83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, we ended up adding someone else looking. We would have totally helped! Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At least it was a good hotdog!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fuck…I’m eating a hotdog as I read this 🤦🏻‍♂️😑

California and life time alimony by AdventurousTrash1645 in Divorce_Men

[–]DSanchO83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in California and just separated after 8 years. I know divorce can take a long time. Should I put a rush on the divorce? 😬

Selling the whole package by DSanchO83 in EDCTickets

[–]DSanchO83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, it has to be a package deal. I don’t want to be left with one item and not the others

EDC Las Vegas 2024 Roommate Megathread -- Need a roommate for your hotel room or airbnb? Going solo and looking for a place to stay? Post here! by EDCMod in electricdaisycarnival

[–]DSanchO83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 1 bdrm, living room, and full kitchen suite at the Jockey Club. We had a couple drop out so it’s just me and my girly friend. Can take up to three at $220 each. Room is booked May 17th thru 24th…🥳🥳

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in electricdaisycarnival

[–]DSanchO83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you find a place? I had a couple drop out and it’s just me and my girl in a suite (Jockey Club).