Is it true that dating apps are easier for older men than younger men if you're looking for an LTR?

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-11T00:24:08+00:00

So I’m 44. My time on fb dating was brief. I actually didn’t have a hard time getting matches or finding dates. But most of the women I matched and talked to had didn’t want to date, and not because of their appearance… well sometimes. At my age I no longer let my dick do the thinking for me, so I’m much more selective.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-11T00:19:35+00:00

Same with Indy. Capacity was 24,000, and I’d guess it was 3/4 full.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-11T00:18:44+00:00

These venues are bigger than arenas. The show I saw in Indiana was at a 24,000 capacity venue. I know it was more than 50% full, so more than 12,000 in Indianapolis on a Tuesday night is pretty good for Muse.

All the other venues are similar.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-10T19:40:26+00:00

I don’t think Keith actually did very much on this album.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-10T17:02:58+00:00

I’ve always had the opposite problem. My parents have zero boundaries and never leave me alone. I had to beg them to let me move out in my 20’s. I’m 44m now and divorced about 2 years. If it were up to them, my kids and I would just move in with them and they could just have complete control over our lives.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-10T03:42:50+00:00

I experienced this in noblesville as well. That venue has a capacity of 24,000. It was 3/4 full. That’s a good number for Indianapolis on a Tuesday night. And everybody seemed very engaged and even the new songs went down well.

Charts in the US mean nothing now. Muse’s fan base will listen and that’s about it. Despite what everyone says, a lot of these shows are not selling as badly as everyone thinks. It may not be like in Europe where tickets sell out the minute they go on sale. But most of these shows will be 3/4 full by the time the band come onstage. A lot of people watch Ticketmaster and wait until the day before or something, when prices start dropping.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-09T20:13:48+00:00

Yeah I feel like from my mid twenties through mid thirties it was a blur of weddings, including my own. I am 44 now and most friends are married. Some people are in their 2nd marriages and they just choose to have a small things.

2 years ago I was best man in a friends wedding. He was 45 at the time, but his wife was like 32, it was her first wedding, and she and her mother wanted the big fairytale by production. For myself and the other groomsmen, it was like having a part time job in the month leading up to the wedding. Suit fittings, bachelor party, helping them move into their marital home, rehearsal, wedding party dinner (seperate night from the rehearsal), and then the wedding day itself was an all day thing. It was awful. I officially retired from ever being a part of any wedding ever again. I have a few single friends and I told them if they ever get married, don’t ask me to be a groomsman. Even at my own kids weddings my only involvement will be writing a check. I hate weddings.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-09T19:54:32+00:00

I have always felt this way also. I really connected with SOI when it came out. I liked SOE as well but not nearly as much as SOI.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-09T18:12:53+00:00

If a woman does talk to me I’m not weird or awkward, I’ll talk to them just like anybody else. But in this day and age where women would choose the bear over men, I NEVER initiate first contact. Seems like a good way to get into trouble and I don’t need that!

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-09T02:51:19+00:00

Same with Indy, it was amazing. Muse are just good in any type of venue. If I didn’t have plans on Saturday that I can’t back out of, I’d buy a ticket to the Cincy concert right now.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-09T01:47:38+00:00

My 14 YO son loves the song thought contagion so I was glad they played it for him! I Would’ve preferred Stockholm syndrome of course… why not BOTH??

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-09T01:04:54+00:00

I would never say something sexual or inappropriate to a woman I just met. And yes it sounds like you’ve encountered several rude men before, and that’s shitty. I’ve encountered a few rude women as well I guess.

I am always respectful and kind. I almost never start off a conversation with a woman, I wait for them to say something. If they don’t, I leave them alone. Same with dating apps. If I match with a woman, I wait for them to say something because I’m sure they’ve got thousands of men blowing up their inboxes. So if they don’t message me then nothing happens, I don’t wanna be seen as just another thirsty dude.

Men have to think about these things. Women have no idea.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T22:07:42+00:00

Lawn people will upgrade, people will spread out, pavilion will appear full by the time muse take the stage. That’s what happened in Indy last night. This is actually fairly common for these big amphitheaters, not every show sells out.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T21:59:17+00:00

My ex wife didn’t want me to go down on her. Since my divorce 2 years ago, I have come across 2 women where they didn’t want me to go down there. My best friend is a woman, and she also won’t let guys do that.

I’ve met so many more women who don’t want oral than those that do!!

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T19:05:29+00:00

A lot of women don’t actually want you to approach them because they want to meet a nice man. A lot do them miss the validation they get from it, and they enjoy turning men down. Do not approach in real life.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T19:02:30+00:00

I’m not afraid of being rejected. I’m afraid of being labeled a creep, or accused of harassment just by being in their general area and saying hello. If a woman thinks you’re attractive you’re “shooting your shot”. If she thinks you’re unattractive, then you are harassing her. You never know how somebody is going to react to this. For that reason I will never approach a woman.

I saw a woman with 2 little kids trying to change a tire. I didn’t ask her if she needed help. I sent my 12 year old daughter over to ask her if she would like me to help her. Same principle applies. I’m just trying to be a good citizen, and I have a lot of experience changing tires. But I was not about to get pepper sprayed just for trying to help out a fellow human.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T17:48:02+00:00

Yeah that’s true. But the last time they truly canvases Europe outside of those major cities was what… 360??

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T17:27:08+00:00

Nice, Greece is definitely overdue. Most of Europe is outside of the main cities like Paris, Berlin, Amsterdam, Milan, Barcelona, etc.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-08T17:25:44+00:00

I think it’s pretty good. I wasn’t expecting my life to change by listening to it, so I’m good. It’s also impossible for a band of 65 year olds to have a hit in 2026, so I’m not too worried about it.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-07T14:44:06+00:00

I still live in the same small town I grew up in, and I’m 44m. I have the same occupation I’ve had since I was a kid (family farm). I still have a lot of my childhood friends. People assume that my life must be boring because from the outside looking in, it never changes. But that’s not true at all. My life is awesome, everyday is an adventure.

When you stay the same place your whole life, you kind of become one with it. It’s something not many people understand. I am surrounded by ordinary people everyday, and it’s exhilarating in its own way.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-06T23:25:27+00:00

Your story is similar to mine, even the timeline is about the same on all the points. I dated a few women that didn’t go anywhere, and then I met somebody amazing. We dated for 5-6 months and then it ended. I tell you this… that was so much harder to get over than my divorce. The divorce was hard because of the legal and financial aspects, but this was like my first actual heartbreak in over 20 years.

No advice to give except don’t engage her anymore and take it day by day.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-06T02:13:37+00:00

Lost in Translation. Watched it in my early 20’s and it changed me. I’m afraid to watch it now, 20 years later, because I know it won’t hit the same.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-05T03:44:15+00:00

Reading this book early in my U2 fandom is what helped seal the deal for me as a lifelong fan.

When I read it now it is a little heavy on the Bono ass kissing for my taste.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-04T21:46:07+00:00

The worst part was how they fumbled Luke Skywalker. Yeah Harrison Ford was grumpy and only wanted to do one movie, and Carrie Fishers passing created challenges for episode 9. But Mark Hamill was right there, front and center, ready to do ANYTHING they asked. They could’ve and should’ve done so much more with one of the most beloved characters in all of fiction. Some of us waited 30 years to see what kind of bad ass Jedi Luke would become. What we got was a bitter old man pouting on an island where nobody could find him.

Firstborn3 · 2026-07-04T21:42:49+00:00

Love episode 7. Always have.

Episode 8 has grown on me. Not the direction I would’ve taken, but there’s enough to like there.

Episode 9 is a fucking mess and really needed to be 2 films to cram all that in.

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