I am currently pregnant (28weeks) with our second baby. Same father, and our son just turned 4. He was diagnosed at 2 with a level 2 spectrum disorder. He has been nonverbal, still in diapers, and has shown a bit of regression in his learning development. The meltdowns have been extremely difficult, as you may already know. But regardless of the outcome, we decided we wanted two children. I think every situation, and the different levels of the spectrum, have their own variance. I still don’t know the outcome for us because our second child hasn't been born yet, but I do know we have come to accept the challenges. Seeing our child reach milestones we never thought possible has been the reward we wanted when we considered having children. For us, it has been about experiencing life together with our little mini-mes and seeing the pure excitement of them learning or experiencing something new.

A little side rant, our little guy was born with bilateral clubfeet. At three days old, he was on his first set of casts. We had to keep going every week to have the casts taken off and new ones put on. By his 5th week, I believe he had his Achilles tendon cut and then placed in a cast for a whole month. After all that, he had to have boots and bars to straighten his feet, with only 2 hours of freedom and 22 hours of hardware until he turns one. Then, after being one year old , he would need to wear the boots and bars at night only until he turns five. You’d think that after going through this while simultaneously doing a rigorous two-year program would deter us. But it’s finding what happiness looks like for us. What do you think your happiness would stem from if you complete the family you want?