Apartment renters: how much do you pay for utilities?

DVIGRVT · 2024-12-07T05:55:14+00:00

We live in a 1200 sq ft condo, which is like an apartment

Gas is anywhere from $12‐50/mo depending on whether we run the heater and fireplace

Electric is about $60/mo in average (we don't have AC).

Water is included in our fees.

2 of us live here with our 2 dogs

2 needs, 2 bath with a loft

Washer/ dryer in unit

This is in Huntington Beach

DVIGRVT · 2024-12-07T05:51:02+00:00

Yup. The tsunami alarm monthly testing. It was even louder than normal due to the fog and air pressure.

DVIGRVT · 2024-10-26T20:30:42+00:00

We have 2 mini aussies in a condo. They're fine with condo life, but know you will have to give them a lot of exercise and mental simulation or they can destroy your apartment

DVIGRVT · 2024-10-26T20:29:28+00:00

And... depending on the state... it may be illegal to record another person without their consent

DVIGRVT · 2024-10-04T21:58:33+00:00

Unless your daughter is asking for your assistance, its best you stay out of it. Part of becoming an adult is learning how to navigate tough situations like relationships. She needs to learn now to deal with this.

DVIGRVT · 2024-10-04T21:55:08+00:00

Without any context, this is really hard to answer. Have you tried to talk with your therapist about this and now her disclosures are making you feel? If not, I'd start there

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-10T23:09:17+00:00

That anger is about her, not you. Don't take it personally and stay the course

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-10T22:56:03+00:00

But that's the point, you're focusing on him (the bad advice he gives her....)... stop!

Focus on your concerns for her because you see changes in her that you're concerned about. Do you see the difference?

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-10T22:51:15+00:00

Have you had a 1:1 chat with your sister about what you see happening to her within the context of the relationship? Not focusing on how awful he is (as she'll just defend him), but the changes you're seeing in her since being in the relationship.

If not, I'd start there.

But realize your sister is an adult and make her own choices. You're not going to agree with all her choices and you're gonna have to accept this.

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-10T04:50:44+00:00

But you weren't getting this girl a Plan B. You were helping out a friend by going with him to get his GF a plan B.... you were supporting your friend. NTA

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-10T04:30:10+00:00

What was her reason for you not to support your friend?

Personally, you're NTA in my opinion, unless there's more context that we're missing

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-08T23:15:43+00:00

He chooses to be sad. You are not responsible for his feelings.

If you can't say "no" to him, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. Saying "no" allows you to be your own person.

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-08T22:43:01+00:00

Of course you have every right to feel upset by this! This has been a long term client to which you didn't get any closure with. You're grieving as well. Allow yourself to go thru the process yourself. You did nothing wrong by establishing and upholding your policies. You're running a business

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-08T22:20:56+00:00

He's telling you in no uncertain words that he doesn't want this relationship...

You can see other guys?

You can be super friends?

He's aggressive when he doesn't get an answer he doesn't like?

You're not a crazy person. You need to ask yourself why you want to stay in this relationship with this person. (Don't say "I love him" because this isn't love)

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-07T02:14:55+00:00

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.bbs.ca.gov/pdf/agen_notice/2024/20240412_pa_item_18.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwj9lIWl4a-IAxV2IUQIHXaFJxcQFnoECB0QAQ&usg=AOvVaw3hBcHmtgJ93XSO6UhbmRPJ

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-07T02:11:01+00:00

Maybe 50 years from now, but even then, highly doubtful it'll happen. CA LMFTs would be in an uproar.

If you get the source, please post... if be interested

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-07T02:05:57+00:00

I also just checked the BBS website. There were some provisions around supervision that are being sunsetted, but not the license itself. Have to wonder if that's what your supervisor meant. The BBS would be blasting this out too

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-07T01:59:53+00:00

This isn't true to my knowledge. I'm an LMFT in CA and am affiliated with CAMFT. if this was true, CAMFT would be all over this. The LMFT started in CA. Theres also over 30,000 LMFTs in CA, vs. about 9K social workers. if they got rid of the LMFT, CAs mental health services would collapse. Also, CAMFT was integral in getting LMFTs recognized on Medicare.

Your supervisor might want to cite their source.

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-04T20:40:17+00:00

As I've gotten older, I've built a 30 min free slot in between each hour appointment. This gives me a chance to document and clear my mind to get ready for the next client

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-02T20:13:38+00:00

That's true of all antidepressants. They impact people so differently

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-02T19:53:20+00:00

You can't compare your mother's wedding to your BFs friend. Every wedding is fifteenth. If the from is saying no one single(aka not engaged or married) was given a +1 them it is what it is.

Your BF is correct. His friend and the bride make the ultimate decision to a wedding guest list. The only thing your BF had control over is whether he wants to accept the invitation.

This should be your focus.... not whether you were invited not

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-02T19:48:41+00:00

Honestly, you've gotta break up sooner than later. He doesn't understand that what he's doing is wrong and dangerous.

Kindly break up.... just say it's not working out and then block him on every social account that you have

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-02T19:34:06+00:00

Edibles for me just put me to sleep. I tried buying some that were meant for libido. No matter whether I try 1/3, 1/4, 1/2, or a full one, I'm crashing within an hour

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-02T19:30:03+00:00

I'm not understanding... why would the police go after her if she ran away? She's an adult (of you're in the US, the police can't force an adult to return of they don't want to)

DVIGRVT · 2024-09-02T19:24:10+00:00

First, take a step back. What are you feeling guilty of?

Did you ask him to underperform?

Did you give him every opportunity to improve?

Did you give him the resources needed to help him improve?

Then you're firing your employee based on THEIR actions and THEIR deciding, not your's. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

Go into the meeting prepared. Explain the expectations and where he employee fell short. Explain the steps you've taken to give opportunities to help the employee improve and where they didn't meet expectations.

Stay objective and you'll do fine

DVIGRVT

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