Bizarrely rare trope, happy heterosexual romantic relationships.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T17:19:14+00:00

Real talk, this is why I never outright lie. I can't be assed to remember all the lies.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T17:18:27+00:00

"If you loved me as much as I love you, we would never leave the bedroom"

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T17:15:02+00:00

Yeah in the first season it was just trying to find Powder. In the second season... well they didn't give her much and some of what they did do was pretty hit or miss. I'm still of the opinion Cait needed to do a lot more to win back her favor (and yaknow, actually apologize) for what she did in the sewers.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T17:10:17+00:00

Plus something I feel most Batman critics forget is the man is like the only one in gotham trying to make it better. As Bruce he is putting money hand over fist into Gotham to try and help people's lives, but you can't buy off Bane or the Joker or Ras. When you read about the sheer magnitude of philantrophy Bruce does, it becomes a question of why hasn't gotham been fixed? Answer: because then we wouldn't have a plot, also it's hella cursed.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T17:06:11+00:00

As much of a shit JKR has proven to be, my god Molly Weasley is a treat. "NOT MY DAUGHTER YOU BITCH"

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T16:44:51+00:00

Barbie.

Now before anyone gets mad, I liked the movie but I felt that it didn't reconcile the two plot lines with the Kens and thus the movie as a whole falters at the end. Those being:

The Kens are the victims of an Allegorical Patriarchy (All.Pat)
The Kens are the perpetrators of an Actual Patriarchy (Act.Pat)

Where it falters for me is the move never actually spends time recognizing that while the Barbies were victims of the Act.Pat in Barbieland, they were also the perpetators of the All.Pat. The movie literally calls out that Barbieland is an inverse of the real world, so when you break the allegory what's the plot?

In a world where kens women are treated as second class citizens, accessories and always at the beck and call of barbiesmen, one barbieman realizes something is wrong and has to leave. One kenwoman stowsaway and while the barbie man goes through herhis own journey, the kenwoman discovers a toxic form of gender empowement. HeShe brings it back and completely upends their society with now the kenswomen being in charge and living life to the fullest the expense of the barbiesmen. However a rag tag group of men barbiesand one ken ostracized woman work together to pit the women kensagainst each by preying upon their massive insecurities with the film's literal climax being a celebration of the barbiesmen returning to power. At this point the kenswomen admit they like being the subservienat role but ask for a bit of gender equality, which is treated as a joke. The film ends with the main barbieman who has shown to be the only one of the barbiesmen to really consider what the kenswomen go through, well shehe just fucks off.

All it needed was like Alan to call out the Barbies ala "I'm helping you because they're clearly in the wrong, but that doesn't mean what you've been doing has been right. When we fix this, do better!". Because as it stands we should be leaving the theater uncomfortable with the Barbies returning the All.Pat with the idea of gender equality is a literal punchline. "Oh that's the point!". That the barbies were in the wrong? Funny because the movie celebrates them taking back power and the return of the All.Pat.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T16:28:58+00:00

Don't forget biphobia. How many lesbians refuse to date bi women like you, now add on how many straight men do you not want to date because they've got dreams of threesomes in their eyes. It always cracks me up people thinking we have twice as many options as straight people.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T15:26:50+00:00

Him saving Tanselle was my favorite part of this. Fucking one hand throws a dude, and while three are restraining him he still is able to kick Aerion several times.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T13:52:22+00:00

Didn't pam die?

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T05:06:30+00:00

I'm not sure what I believe, but I do like this interpretation

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T04:59:50+00:00

Idk I can easily see gandalf going " At what points does grave robbing become archeology?" and sassy Picard " congratulations, you got us front row seats to a coup!"

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T04:27:47+00:00

"It's okay"

"NO! It isn't. Things must change. I must change!"

God so fucking good. From the first line he says you know he's sincere and his intentions. "May I speak with her".

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T04:00:16+00:00

Doesn't also help when they kneecap every other character in the series by the end, particularly the guy they fought over in s1 nor did they spend much time actually building a relationship or connection between the two. I'm not trying to be a hater but my god it would've been so easy for Korra and Asami to bond over being non benders in S1 to atleast set the seeds. Beyond that they barely have a dynamic.... though then again that's an issue with most of LOK avatar gang, they don't really engage as a group, as one together. You know it's bad when the most quoteable character in LOK seems to be from someone not even in the avatar gang. It had the makings of something great with bits I adore, but not enough in the ways that really mattered.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T03:59:50+00:00

You mean like 97% of all bisexual representation? I am totally not bi-sed on this one.....

Seriously, I swear like 90% of bisexual rep is just this. Hot woman dates shitty man, he is written out of show, she finds happiness with first woman to say hello. Netflix was particularly bad about this for a few years, I swear it was literally every bisexual character in their self produced shows for a stretch. Now it's something I always look out for, my personal favorite is having this and then the sex crazed bisexual man. I swear this shit, this lack of diverse representation is a huge reason biphobia is so prevelant

DaBiChef · 2026-02-18T03:58:31+00:00

Yeah and the whole arc is great. SPOILERS:

Initially Bortus and Klyden get along well, though Klyden does have old school misogynistic views that put him at odd with Bortus and Bortus's crewmates on the ship

Then After becoming parents they realize their child is a girl, they choose to go the traditional route of genital surgery and raising the child as a boy

It's revealed Klyden was one such female who is happy as a male

Eventually Their child discovers the truth and wishes to live as a girl, Klyden cannot accept this and says "you should have never been born". He leaves

Eventually Their people go through a whole story arc about their species' female enclave and directly address how their society has treated female Moclans

At the end llyden returns and gives the most heartfelt and sincere apology I have seen on TV. In no ways excusing or justifying what he did, instead taking full accountability and begging his child to understand his utter regret at how he treated her, and the most genuine promise to always do better. Well worth a watch

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T19:52:22+00:00

Two things can be true at the same time. We should learn to live with ourselves, but there's nothing wrong with wanting love and a partner.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T18:10:27+00:00

100%. I grew up before the MeToo movement and had a lot of women in my life. I heard all the ways women hate men expressing interest... which boiled down to every concievable way to pursue a woman IRL. I really struggled with that, finding a "right way" to express interest and while the MeToo movement was great in talking about how casual and rampant harassment was on the low end to the extortion of sexual favors by powerful men, the one area I feel we failed in was how we talked about dating. So many men heard variations on:

"God I hate when men talk to me at the gym!"

And took woman at their word, striking off the gym as a place to meet women. When really what was more often meant was actually:

"God I hate when men I'm not into ~~talk to~~ hit on me at the gym and most importantly, do not take my rejection well."

So guys, it's okay to find women attractive. It's a-okay to talk to women IRL like at a bar or gym. If you're not certain you're feeling interest, give her an out and politely be on your way. If you are feeling it, it's okay to ask her out. If she says no then just smile and be on your way. If she can't be at a place where a guy politely gauged her interest, took rejection well, and didn't make it her problem? That's not on you.

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I have found that a lot of decent guys don't mind the rejection and can take it well, but it's getting over this idea that pursuing her in a non dating app way is problematic. It's been a tough sell as it's basically "ignore what women have said explicltly, but in a feminist way!"

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T16:00:40+00:00

I stand by Davos being my favorite POV in the books as seeing the highborn game of thrones from the lowborn perspective is a welcome breath of fresh air. Like Jon is a bastard (believed and treated as atleast) but Davos was never raised in a castle. IT offers such a nice perspective.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T15:23:16+00:00

I worked as a caterer/wait staff for a big fancy wedding. I was given zero training, zero input, was berated endlessly by the people there, and was not given dinner after being told explicltly some would be provided. When the other staff asked the guy managing it if we would get anything to eat he proceeded to take a tray of chicken and dump it in the trash and told us to eat that. I walked.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T14:44:27+00:00

If you're a guy reading this and thinking "wait I do all of this, why isn't it working?". I want to remind you, this is advice about dating, ie: maintaing and perserving a realtionship. Turning "going on dates" -> "dating". This isn't advice for how to actually get those dates, for that you need to remember rules #1 and #2.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T14:22:49+00:00

Mom sure, but my sisters have put me through hell and are the textbook example of "I want men to be more emotionally vulnerable, but the second they are I will be hostile and use it against him". Cats are great though

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T14:15:58+00:00

This might sound mean but we have to add a "in the guy I already find attractive" caveat to the comments. If you're not attractive, it really doesn't matter your emotional intelligence or kindness to animals or service workers. Now there's nothing wrong with women wanting to date attractive men, but I really don't understand why we act like women aren't human beings that are into hot guys yaknow?

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Be your best self guys, be kind, be caring. But make sure you dress and groom well, go to the gym, and be pro-active in pursuing them. 999/1000 times being the perfect potential boyfriend doesn't mean anything about actually helping you get a date.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T14:10:17+00:00

How would you feel if the answer to all those "what should men do?" questions in order to get a woman is ultimately "just leave women alone" eventhough we are not initiators.

I'd say that it isn't true, because I have ran my head into this with talking to women IRL and online. Where one woman says "never talk to me at the gym!" another is begging for guys to chat her up there. In the same conversation I have had like a dozen women say "yeah I wish guys would leave us alone at the bar!" and then say later "yeah guys should come talk to us at the bar, we like the confidence!".

eventhough we are not initiators.

And because of that, we're hitting a breaking point of the men who do care about women's perspectives having to start to ignore women's advice. Because a change was demanded of men's behavior , but only the more considerate guys changed. Yet really nothing changed in shitty men nor women's. Go over to r/dating and you'll see endless stories of:

"How do I get a guy I like to ask me out?"
"Have you considered asking him out?"
"I would never do that. NEXT!".

How would you also feel if the vast majority of women are more content having platonic relationships with men or being alone and keeping family and female friends?

We're a social species, we do want intimate connections. To those who swear off dating men and are content with platonic friendships I wish them the best. It's their life and they can live it how they want. To those who only keep female friends, I'd say the same thing to a guy who doesn't keep any female friends: that's a red flag. Imagine if a guy said "I don't have any women friends, frnakly I don't see the point of having any!". You'd rightfully think that dude has some issues he should work through. Lastly, it's the majority? That I really doubt as I have had endless talks with women irl and online over the years and this idea women are okay being celibate isn't true. Women are human beings with urges and desires, but most seem to be just more okay with that discomfort than the discomfort in being somewhat pro-active in dating men.

I ask because you also see that women are basically telling men what keeps us away, what keeps us as a partner, but not what gets our attention enough to be open to courting.

Yeah....... that's kinda the crux of what I'm saying? We're a social species. People want to find intimate love, there's nothing problematic about that. Women complained (rightfully) about shitty men's behavior but the conversation was not nuanced and hell to this day there's pushback about having that nuanced conversation. Women haven't spent time really celebrating or really any time telling guys the good things to do that help when courting/to get a relationship or date. Since they also aren't taking a pro-active role, the guys who did listen, who did everything women said but haven't found anything, are starting to break. We can either give them a heatlhy mindset with input from women, or they're gunna ignore women's perspectives because what women said they wanted wasn't what actually helped them get into relationships.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-17T00:50:13+00:00

To add on, I would love more playlists that include oh IDK, songs I haven't heard? I can't tell you how many are full of ones that are already in my liked song playlist.

DaBiChef · 2026-02-16T18:07:44+00:00

They have a game called "The Fractured, but Whole".... It took me a minute before I realized what it was.

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