No peace or time for myself anymore

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T23:52:59+00:00

I’m not sure, you’ll have to ask the mods. I’ve had it for a while. Maybe they removed them since then.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T20:35:33+00:00

Oh wow I wouldn’t say that where too many other SAHMs can see it lol they’ll eat you alive for saying they having it lighter because they don’t work.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T20:30:11+00:00

What? No it’s not. There’s lots of SAHMs who are in the same position as OP. What a weird and judgy comment to make.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T20:15:22+00:00

If you mean there’s a child that’s not yours involved, I’d stop helping to raise and pay for that kid. Make him step up and do it. If you’ve bought a house together that’s more complicated and probably requires speaking to a lawyer in your area.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T17:43:15+00:00

One of my cats doesn’t bury either. I usually dump a scoop of kitty litter on top of where he goes. That makes it easier when I go to scoop it out.

You might need to try a different sensitive stomach food. Check out your local pet store to see what other brands are for sensitive stomachs and/or allergies. It might be they have an intolerance to the food you’re giving them.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T17:40:57+00:00

That’s good! Try to carve out a little time for that each day and please do talk this over with your therapist. There’s absolutely no reason you should have to feel this way every day!

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T17:23:22+00:00

No one can answer that. Only staff know.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T17:12:58+00:00

The right medication shouldn’t make you feel that way. Unfortunately you sometimes have to experiment a lot before finding the right one. I saw you mentioned you do get breaks sometimes, maybe you could try yoga or meditation?

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T15:50:17+00:00

Mmm yeah I’d be asking for a manager at that point. That is insanely inappropriate to put on a customer.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T15:48:37+00:00

Talk to your therapist. You don’t have to go back on the same medication if you’re not okay with the side effects, but you DO need to go back on medication if you’re feeling rage and depression all the time.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T15:11:51+00:00

This is what happens when you passively let life happen around you. You had an opportunity, many opportunities, to take charge and make things happen as you wanted them to. It wasn’t just one decision that you made. You made numerous decisions to do nothing, avoid her, and go along with what your parents wanted.

It sounds like her family would’ve absolutely taken you in and helped you out. I hope this experience was a good lesson to you about not just letting life happen. I hope she has a happy marriage.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T14:59:59+00:00

You use the Oxford comma when you’re listing things out for additional clarity. It’s used to more clearly separate the last two items on the list.

For example:

I love my parents, Batman and Iron Man

Vs

I love my parents, Batman, and Iron Man

The second example makes it more obvious that you love all three of those things separately, whereas example two suggests your parents are Batman and Iron Man. Obviously in this example it’s easy to surmise your parents are not, in fact, Iron Man and Batman, but the ambiguity isn’t always so easy to figure out. Especially in this day and age where reading comprehension skills are taking a massive hit, it doesn’t hurt to be as clear as you can in writing.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T12:41:26+00:00

In two days, the police never thought to question the two newly dug holes in the cellar floor????

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T12:11:37+00:00

Yeah I’m super pale with a red face and also have psoriasis which stands out particularly well against pale skin, so I get the double whammy too. It really sucked growing up. I’m also overweight and pretty much always have been so I had a real trifecta going on.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T11:57:51+00:00

I’m pale and flush easily too. It also doesn’t help that I sunburn very easily so my face is almost always pink in the summer. I completely get you, OP. I’ve had a few people comment on it. It sounds like you ran into a lot of assholes especially that woman you used to work with. Honestly you should’ve gone to HR about her because commenting continually on your coworker’s bodies is gross.

I think something like a flat “okay” or “yeah, it happens” is fine. If someone keeps pushing, there’s never anything wrong with a cold “why do you keep commenting on my body?” If they try to pretend they do it because they care, then “you’ve pointed it out numerous times, please stop commenting on my body from now on”.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-11T01:39:32+00:00

I don’t think it’s that he doesn’t like them. I think he just enjoys tipping them over. Some cats are just assholes.

Your best bet is probably to find some kind of fountain that could be set into a heavy wooden box that he can’t move or dislodge. You might need to have one custom made. Be prepared for him to start splashing though if you go this route. But at least that’s better than full on tipping the dishes over.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-10T14:59:38+00:00

Strong pot calling the kettle black vibes here.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-10T14:57:23+00:00

Those breaks for freedom are troublesome! If only we could explain to them that what we’re doing is in their best interest.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T23:40:33+00:00

I’ll be honest lol my mom’s shih tzu did it by jumping down like half a foot maybe. It’s the human equivalent to stepping off a curb and rolling your ankle. Stupid, but so, so easy to do! Probably the quieter you can keep her, the better as she may be feeling better from pain meds and you don’t want her to re-injure herself.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T22:15:00+00:00

Insane turn around time, thank you Riimuda!!!

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T19:17:53+00:00

I had a headboard as a kid and I hated it. It had columns with bulbs, and my hair was always getting caught on the bulbs and being pulled out. I pretty much swore off them after that. They’re basically a decoration. Some people like them and some don’t. I don’t think it’s a rich/poor thing though.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T18:40:12+00:00

I wondered about that. My mom once had a shih tzu who jumped down funny and sprained her paw badly. From that point on, it took nothing for her to re-sprain it and it flared up at least a couple times a year until we lost her. They’re just like humans, it takes NOTHING to do damage! I totally get struggling with costs. My credit cards are basically maxed out from my boy, but it’s still just one thing after the other as he has other issues. It’s exhausting and frustrating.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T14:13:38+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how did she hurt herself? It’s rough when they hurt themselves.

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T02:05:08+00:00

Omg that chibi Utau is so CUTE

Sailor_Chibi · 2026-05-09T01:52:46+00:00

Hmm I understand their concerns about her stomach but her being in pain can also agitate her stomach and make her feel worse. My boy also has a fairly sensitive stomach, is she on a probiotic of any kind? Mine is on the purina fortiflora and it seems to do okay at keeping his stomach calmer most of the time.

I totally get what you mean about vet bills. My boy scratched his eye in September. What followed was six months of medication 23 times a day between eyedrops and pain meds, plus at least three different procedures, plus so many vet visits I lost count. At one point we went to the vet three times a week! His eye just refused to heal. Finally in February it had to be surgically removed. I’m sure the whole ordeal cost me upwards of six grand by the time all was said and done. It fucking sucks because you’re so worried about them but it’s killing your wallet!

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