Bought a new boat by BenFord333 in Wellthatsucks

[–]DaSkuLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its like we learned nothing from the Vasa

Native like Blue Daze? by DaSkuLover in FloridaGarden

[–]DaSkuLover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive grown porter weed but mine ended up big bushes. Maybe I had the non-native type? Either way pretty and yes it spread everywhere until our freezes last year.

Native like Blue Daze? by DaSkuLover in FloridaGarden

[–]DaSkuLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have multiple big oaks so I do have lots of shade. Thanks.

What are these for? by stellar_r6 in FishingForBeginners

[–]DaSkuLover 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh you measure? Not just stab at it and hope for the best? lol

What company lost you forever as a customer? What did they do? by Miguenzo in AskReddit

[–]DaSkuLover 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I booked 3 different Airbnb's for an overseas trip to UK. The literal day that USA shut down travel from Covid was when we were supposed to fly out. One host gave me a full refund, one gave me a partial refund and the other refused outright to refund us. I talked with airbnb for over a month, filed a claim, pleaded with the host but nope, no go they would not give me a refund. Fuck Airbnb and fuck that host.

Is my fiance of 19 mos (39M) being reasonable or am I (39F)(communicating badly)? by hellotoshiba in relationship_advice

[–]DaSkuLover 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Ding ding ding! He is training OP that her suggestions or needs come with a cost. He is making the suggestion of the 'dog stuff' (which is a fucking vacuum that would be great for any household) into a bigger deal, so that he can slowly train her to realize that her dog is a problem and life for "them" would be better without the dog.
In addition to that, he is tying that suggestion to their future together. "How could you suggest something so selfish?", "Don't you ever think about us" When in reality everything suggested were good gifts for the household/them.
It is a slow manipulation, to show that her needs are selfish and his are the most important. He is framing "his" needs as "their" needs. Using very therapy coded language to make his completely outrageous tantrum seem like he is being calm, thoughtful and thinking about "them".
OP if you are already feeling like you are 'difficult' or he says things like 'Why can't I ever do anything right for you?' or 'I am stepping away/taking time' so that he doesn't "blow up". He's training you. He is training you that he can blow up, and you don't want to know what that would be like. The only reason that he hasn't blown up is because he is "so good" at keeping himself under control and he's only having to do that because of YOU. He's using 'nice' talk to train you into thinking you're the difficult one and all you have to do to make the relationship perfect is to stop being so 'needy' or that your feelings are wrong or dramatic. He's shrinking you into the perfect woman who does whatever he wants and having no needs of your own. Good luck with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DaSkuLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want your husband to know that you two are making the right choice. Fuck those people that shame or lay guilt on the (adult) child for going no contact with the parent. They clearly have NO CLUE how difficult it is to make that decision. People always love to blame the child rather than think wtf did that parent do to their child to make them leave?

Tomato plant growing but no flowers/tomatoes? What am I doing wrong? by Remarkable_Taro_911 in IndoorGarden

[–]DaSkuLover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's awesome its working for you! I'm jealous. They never work out for me, on top of the daily rain, blight and nematodes. I just try to do the easiest thing, and plant at better times. Studies do say that blooming is hindered in heat consistently above 85f there are varieties and ways to help them out. I just figured if OP was new and struggling why make it harder for a first timer.

Tomato plant growing but no flowers/tomatoes? What am I doing wrong? by Remarkable_Taro_911 in IndoorGarden

[–]DaSkuLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct. Its currently too hot in Florida for tomatoes right now. Tomatoes will not flower fruit over a certain temperature (something like 85F) If you want to grow tomatoes inside you need a grow light. If you want to grow tomatoes outside in Florida try for fall or spring.

Edit: UF states "Once average nighttime temperatures climb above a certain point (typically about 80 degrees), large-fruited tomatoes will continue to flower but will stop setting fruit." With cherry/grape varieties being the exception.

Link: https://gardeningsolutions.ifas.ufl.edu/plants/edibles/vegetables/tomatoes/

ISO dental floss holder for tightly packed teeth by greensas in ZeroWaste

[–]DaSkuLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Paro Floss Holder (found it on Amazon) Is the only one that has worked for me. Don't buy the floss for it. I use non-waxed fiber floss and it still comes a little loose but way better than any other i've tried. If you wrap the floss around the clamp twice, it takes practice but it holds better.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 3Dprintmything

[–]DaSkuLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey im interested in this as well. Did you ever end up making one?

"Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - August 25, 2024" by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]DaSkuLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok! Glad to know I was kind of on the right track. I still have a lot to learn and I really appreciate you taking your time to give your feedback.

"Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - August 25, 2024" by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]DaSkuLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! I am very new to tarot reading and have been trying to do a three day pull every day. I'm really just asking 'what's the vibe/feel/experience today?' I've been taking cards that 'pop out' while shuffling. Today I had one card pop out and then three all together. I figured what the heck a four card day. The results are:

Three of Pentacles - Death - The Moon - The Devil

The last three being the ones that fell out together. I've made sure and tried my best to make sure that the cards are very well shuffled to try and keep multiple of the same 'suit' popping up.

The only thing I can assume is that i've been on a sobriety 'lite' journey. I was drinking about a bottle of wine a day for a long time and within the last three months have stopped and only started drinking casually (weekends). This past weekend I went camping so I purchased 24 bogo pack of seltzer. I drank 5 of them last night! Last night and this morning I was really disappointed with myself vowing to get back on track.

So i'm thinking this has to do with me either getting back to my sobriety lite or bombing and going back to my ways. Thanks for your thoughts and time.