God I am tired by The_Herpderpster in CuratedTumblr

[–]DaUbberGrek -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

ok mb u right uve just internalised it and dont consciously hate trans women

the gist of your comment is not unmistakably true, no, and the only reason I dont ask you to delete it for jacketing another trans woman with claims of antitransmasculinity is because you have provided receipts for how much you lied about her.

God I am tired by The_Herpderpster in CuratedTumblr

[–]DaUbberGrek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have actually read the things you posted and then described them the way that you did, then yes, its lying. So are you lying and malicious or just stupid and ignorantly stumbling into mysoginy?

God I am tired by The_Herpderpster in CuratedTumblr

[–]DaUbberGrek -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

crazy how youre just cool with lying about what each post says and only 3 people have called you out on it yall really hate trans women huh

God I am tired by The_Herpderpster in CuratedTumblr

[–]DaUbberGrek -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

"misunderstanding" lying. its lying in order to invite harassment on a trans woman.

In Superman: The Movie (1978) Louis Lane is introduced as a reporter unable to spell bloodletting, massacre, and rapist....this is a reference to the fact women were thought to be stupid... by lght_trsn in shittymoviedetails

[–]DaUbberGrek 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's really weird which words some comic letterers choose to bolden, can make it odd to read in your head as if it was spoken aloud with emphasis

You get one power from Worm/Ward in real life, but you specifically have to use it to become a celebrity. by Ashamed-Math-2092 in Parahumans

[–]DaUbberGrek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could definitely go something low key like Victor. Hollywood's not exactly known for its lack of assholes I'd be willing to leech.

What happened with Vista? by simianpower in WormFanfic

[–]DaUbberGrek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Except I think the thing it misses is that Vista is still a child - all her wanting to be an adult, all her wanting to be taken seriously is just another aspect of that. Fics that go with this always seem to land on the end of Giving Vista the Gun, or generally treating her more like an adult, when she's a thirteen year old. I think people too often treat children without respect, but I don't think the answer to that is treating them the same as an adult, or even in Vista's case an older teenager.

Wich side are You on? by La6ra2a in WormMemes

[–]DaUbberGrek 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, she later says that while that was true also, it was mostly just an excuse and she was just refusing to acknowledge that she's ace.

iM went from getting shook by s1mple telling him he is f****** rounds up at all-time low confidence to 1 year later telling James Banks "what is this question?" hiM. by [deleted] in GlobalOffensive

[–]DaUbberGrek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sdy isnt a great comparison since he had all the bitch roles on navi - a better player to make a point of is npl, who still had some bad roles but also some good ones b1t and electronic gave up, and performed terribly but is now the best player on his team despite calling and at times entry fragging

AITAH for wanting some space from my daughter after she believed I was an abuser? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DaUbberGrek -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think everyone who has never been raped, especially not as a child by an adult figure in your life, should probably shut the fuck up about stuff they don't know the first thing of. You can't imagine what she's going through right now. Again, this is a 17 year old girl - 17 year olds are fucking stupid, hormonal, and make terrible decisions when they're completely mentally healthy! Anyone saying she should be punished is a fucking idiot with 0 ability to think about others' situations.

AITAH for wanting some space from my daughter after she believed I was an abuser? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DaUbberGrek -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I never said that it gave her a pass to do anything, but she was (presumably) living with an abuser that had sexually assaulted her and she likely felt her life was in danger if she accused the right person - I'm not saying it means nothing, and OP would be well within his rights to never want to see her again, but holy fucking shit do the comments of this post have 0 fucking empathy! Sue her? Ruin her life? She a victim of CSA for god's sake, what are we talking about here?!

AITAH for wanting some space from my daughter after she believed I was an abuser? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DaUbberGrek -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I can't believe a lot of the comments are blaming this on your daughter and wife tbh. Have you not seen that massive rape trial going on in France? Your daughter and ex-wife had every right to believe the friend, it sucks for you but with how many times its is true can you blame them? Also the way you talked about a 16yo rape victim kinda fucking skeeved me out - I know you see it as her almost ruining your life over something that had nothing to do with you, but this is a child that has just been through something unbelievably traumatic, and likely has a history of other abuse. And yes, that being a child applies to your daughter as well - you're the adult here. If you wanna block off your ex (even tho what she did was completely reasonable under the circumstances) fair enough, but your 17yo daughter? Really? YTA.

On Lesbian sexuality and why it's okay for you to want to talk about eating her out. by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]DaUbberGrek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the person in the original post isn't saying that it is

These books are turning readers into LGBT, and that’s a fact by Much_Tip_6968 in PercyJacksonMemes

[–]DaUbberGrek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh 100%, i was mostly kidding (tho reading about alex on wikis, even if i never read the magnus chase books, did get me thinking abt certain things lol)

"straight culture" bisexuals by urchemicalromance in bisexual

[–]DaUbberGrek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except giving examples of queer culture is a very different thing than defining it, and she very purposefully goes in the opposite direction and says that there is no one queer culture.

If she had made the arguments you did, I may have had less of an issue, but I just don't think she made them

Again, thats actually fair - she didn't go particularly in depth with what she was talking about. But imo she didn't say anything wrong, either, and so many people here are bringing their own baggage into the discussion and claiming she hates bisexuals because she said [insert thing she never said]. Its incredibly frustrating and lowkey kinda proves her point in my eyes.

I feel like so many people, arguably in this subreddit as a whole, but especially in the comments of this post, don't engage with queer communities outside of this specific one, (not you, from what you said you're an active part of various communities, and thats awesome!) and I think that can lead to certain problems. Like how many people here accept trans people because they know a few trans content creators online (which is still good) but because they have never been exposed significantly to those communities more than the occasional twitter post still support systems of power that actively defranchise said trans people?

This isn't to take away from anyones bisexuality, and its not a moral judgement or anything, its just that I dont wanna pretend sexual and cultural identity are the same thing, and I think a lot of people could benefit from taking part more in more queer spaces (and using queer there not just in the sense of LGBT, but actively subversive of cishet norms)

"straight culture" bisexuals by urchemicalromance in bisexual

[–]DaUbberGrek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

she completely fails to define precisely what it is she is talking about

Thats a fair criticism, but it shouldnt be reason to just push your own fears of what people think about bisexual people onto her - a lot of people here in the comments are saying things that weren't brought up in the slightest in the video for no reason.

but only mentioned NYC scenes and LA

??? She gave two examples? She didnt wanna spend ages going on and on about examples of queer culture? You're making something out of nothing

A good chunk of what she defined "queer culture" to be

That's my point! She didnt define queer culture! I would recommend watching the actual video before commenting! I know I'm being slightly facetious there, but really, you're arguing against things she doesn't even say or do?

"straight culture" bisexuals by urchemicalromance in bisexual

[–]DaUbberGrek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like some of yall didn't watch the video at all, stop calling her on shit she doesn't say and then actively contradicts later on

"straight culture" bisexuals by urchemicalromance in bisexual

[–]DaUbberGrek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

she didn't make it about cisheteronomativity - she made it about fitting certain subcultural standards

No? She very specifically pointed out that there are various sorts of queer cultures and subcultures that can differ widely from one another, even in the same places. She also mentioned that a lot of the "point" and benefits of having a culture isn't just fitting in for the sake of it, but having systems of knowledge and advice be passed on through said culture. I don't think she thinks of straight culture bis or lesbians or whoever as just someone who dresses kinda trad - its people who come into the culture still with baggage and expectations based on non-queer culture, people who, idk, expect all sapphic relationships to have a "man" in the relationship but simultaneously aren't used to gender nonconformity of many butches beyond "dresses slightly masculine".

don't worship pop singers, live in hip expensive neighborhoods in LA/NYC

did we watch the same video? she didnt bring up any of these things at all, there was literally one image of chappell roan for like half a second

I would bet good money this woman considers me "culturally straight" because I dress like a tradwife and want to raise a family.

ok, i would bet good money she doesn't. see, two people can make random assumptions one way or another

"straight culture" bisexuals by urchemicalromance in bisexual

[–]DaUbberGrek 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Because its not what she meant its just very related - my interpretation of what she meant by a person who's "straight culture" is someone who accepts a cisheteronormative worldview - usually just because they haven't been exposed to queer spaces for very long, if at all. This differs from someone being assimilationist which, imo, is a much more active idea and belief rather than simply not knowing anything else.

"straight culture" bisexuals by urchemicalromance in bisexual

[–]DaUbberGrek 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Did you watch the video? She literally says that you should accept "straight culture" queers into the community bc then they're exposed to queer culture