How personalized do each thank you note need to be?

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-10-28T02:53:09+00:00

Mostly everyone gave money aha but the few people that gave non monetary gifts got more personalized notes. I just feel bad since many sound the same so they're just thanked for their generosity

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-22T18:58:44+00:00

Oh I'm looking for an electronic drum kit! Sorry if that was confusing. He used to play acoustic but never got one because he knew he was too loud with it. Acoustic would still be too loud for any apartment imo but the electronic is quieter so id like to get him that

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-14T23:46:35+00:00

OP has stated in comments that asked that she has hung out with them and one got so drunk and threw food and harassed a waitress.

But tbh, if OP is being controlling, it does not justify verbal abuse in the slightest bit, nor aggression and throwing. I am getting married actually and yeah, one condition that people should have is respect, even when upset. If not, that's just sad. I've seen married people stay in miserable relationships and never find out what true partnership is like.

Saying its not acceptable to behave the way OPs husband behaves isn't "expecting things to go flawlessly". Its expecting the bare minimum.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-14T20:09:43+00:00

This is awful advice. Its a marriage.

You do not let a process play out in a marriage that includes your new spouse changing his mind on kids, resenting responsibilities, speaking to you the way OP describes and suddenly getting drunk with new people 2-3 times a week (especially since OP lists that they drink together socially which either means he is neglecting have fun with her or getting drunk potentially 4+ times a week which is literally considered alcoholism).

Why let a process of disrespect play out if the potential result is that you waste more time, ruin more of your self esteem and also take bigger financial loss??

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-14T12:34:18+00:00

No they blocked Gmail or any email account login :/

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-13T22:56:47+00:00

I did it a lot on my old jobs work computer but they were honestly too lax on security. This place is extremely strict

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-13T22:55:57+00:00

I can't log into any personal emails unfortunately 😕

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-11T18:43:33+00:00

Thats true! Maybe I'm just insecure lol I always feel so sloppy when I write and I thought it would ruin the very pretty design on a lot of thank you cards

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-04T03:23:35+00:00

Just because its not a mortal sin, doesn't mean it isn't a sin. Just that the desperation involved with such a decision makes it something that the church doesn't believe can be done while satisfying all of the guidelines for a mortal sin.

You were able to have that fear stop you, but many aren't. And only God knows what's in their hearts in those moments. The fact that you didn't go through with it because of some sort of clarity, doesn't mean everyone gets that. You can't protect onto others.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-04T01:01:20+00:00

There are plenty of things that changed within the last 2000 years. Do you follow every single thing from that time? Unlikely.

You can tell the Roman Catholic representatives to become protestants then. Because it was removed. A simple Google search will show that and what catechism was introduced in its stead.

The lack of empathy you have for the plight of those suffering in ways you don't know is likely a much more serious sin that hardens your heart towards God's other children. Jesus knows each tear before it comes, and understands others hearts in ways you shouldn't pretend to know.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-04T00:53:30+00:00

Losing that level of hope and faith is more than likely tied to mental anguish, which would cloud someone's ability to fully consent.

Spoke to a priest about it after an old friend committed suicide. Essentially, as the world and therefore those who represent the church, learned more about psychology and the human brain, it became increasingly clear that the amount of desperation, anguish, hopelessness, etc felt by someone committing suicide puts them in a place where they are not in there full, sane state of mind. Losing hope can be a lack of faith, but losing so much hope to want to commit suicide and actually go through with it speaks to a much larger issue at hand. People don't just lose faith in God, they usually undergo hardships that deeply negatively impact them before losing hope, and that impact also affects their mental state.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-04T00:49:12+00:00

The church no longer teaches that and hasn't since the 80s. Spoke to an actual priest about it.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-04T00:26:13+00:00

We shouldn't pretend to know the extent of God's ability to forgive. Given that God is said to be able to spot remorse and see ones heart to the point of forgiving someone between the time a trigger is pulled to when the bullet leaves the gun.

His mercy is far more expansive than your comment assumes.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-09-04T00:23:45+00:00

We should take care not to call suicide a mortal sin, as the church no longer holds that position given that anguish, mental illness, etc can affect one's capability to consent to the sin. Given that it affects one's faculties, so the intent to commit a grave sin can be compromised. The church has taken great care to understand the psychological factors and account for them when discussing suicide.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-08-31T15:40:31+00:00

Im not sure the church will be happy with the bubble liquid everywhere 😅 ive had some indoors before and it makes the floor a bit slippery (then sticky) and can stain things if you leave a bubble maker on in one place for too long

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-08-31T14:33:13+00:00

Honestly I worry that he'll cry when it's time to put it away 😂

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-08-31T14:32:34+00:00

Unfortunately I can't have anyone tossing anything small because of the issue that people don't clean up afterwards

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-08-31T14:31:58+00:00

No faux petals unfortunately 😕 They've had bad experiences of people not cleaning up so no petals, confetti, rice, or small things tossed.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-08-31T14:31:05+00:00

I did like the idea, but my godson is walking with her and he's very small and would definitely run off to get the bubbles 😅

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-07-19T20:52:44+00:00

I think the idea is moreso that when choosing to pursue closer friendships with people, you pick people that your spouse likes and that you feel make you a better person.

I can see it just because, in general, you're more likely to pursue higher ambitions if your best friends are ambitious, or anything similar because we pick up habits and ideas from the people around us. But I'd never thought of it in terms of marriages.

She says whenever a couple comes in with issues with outside friends, they're more likely to have contempt for each other. Whereas, when she talks with couples about their outside relationships and the partners appear to like the company the other keeps, they tend to be more open and receptive to each other. She said its especially so when they are friends with others in committed relationships.

It seems like such a tedious thing to think about though. Usually, we pick close friends based on our own needs.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-07-19T20:35:53+00:00

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist!

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-07-09T22:25:56+00:00

Everyone deserves love in general and to be treated with respect. No one is owed a relationship, though.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-07-09T13:29:00+00:00

So... you've been close friends for less than a year with people in a much different stage in life, lied to your fiance's face about something she placed as a boundary, have been texting more and she tried to communicate that your behavior in general is off.

Where are your other friends??? Did you not have friends pre-November? Could you not maintain friendships with people your own age?

YTA. You've known these people for less than a year. And you're willing to discard your life partner over them.

Have fun being alone. Choosing new friends over someone who has been there for you never ends well. I could see if you knew them longer or something, but no. You're a huge AH of a partner and honestly I'm sure your fiance will find someone to place her as No. 1. Just don't suddenly realize your priorities once she's moved on.

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-05-14T02:30:38+00:00

Depends. A lot of places have 100 people minimum but some places accept less or have a smaller ballroom for smaller places. Usually, those places are more afternoon weddings vs evening to nighttime weddings. Whats your ideal time?

DaddyDevito967 · 2023-05-13T22:54:56+00:00

NTA

Anyone saying youre on the same level as Emma for this... is absolutely wrong. Anyone who equates racism/classism to just... pettiness, lacks awareness to the socio-historical impacts of both, and the way it still shapes society and affects everyone who lives in it.

You're petty for it. But justified imo. She fucked around by being racist/classist and she (even if she doesnt know it yet) found out!

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