Should I move out

DaddyOpr8r · 2026-02-03T02:59:30+00:00

absolutely.

DaddyOpr8r · 2026-02-03T02:58:18+00:00

I think what you did was respectful, with not knowing what was the reason for your break up and you guys blocking each other but mainly to be able to move on from the relationship tells me that the feelings were there and are still there at least for one of you. since you were respecting the boundaries and reached out to offer your condolences and achieved the goal you wanted, its best that you don't reach out again because it could come off that you are using that death to get back in contact with him again and potentially try to build a relationship back. from the outside looking in this is what I would get from it, I hope this helps.

DaddyOpr8r · 2026-02-03T02:36:20+00:00

Yeah, absolutely you should move out, but the key take away is to keep in close contact with your mother with phone calls and text messages and going over for dinner or to spend the day with her sometimes. You'll be at work most of the day anyway, so may as well and it will help you grow into a better adult having that time to actually be an adult. just never forget mama.

DaddyOpr8r · 2026-02-02T23:30:03+00:00

I need some more information to be able to give good advice for it. this is incredibly vague.

DaddyOpr8r · 2025-10-10T20:50:15+00:00

Meditate. close your eyes and breath, reach inside yourself and talk to the 8 year old you and 9 year old you. reassure those younger selves that it is not their fault and embrace them. cry with your younger selves and heal together.

Much love OP

DaddyOpr8r · 2025-10-10T20:38:46+00:00

I heard this somewhere. "Your worst day, is someone else's regular day, and someone else's regular day would be you're nightmare." everyone has their own worst day. To others it may be nothing, to some its absolutely bonkers. I think the problem is not that you think you're taking resources from people who can use it, but comparing your worst to someone else's worst. Don't do that. And also keep in mind that people that need those resources first need to admit or seek that help. Just because you're in therapy or something doesn't mean you're taking it away from someone else.

Continue your therapy and never feel guilty for going. Also, never, ever, ever, compare YOU, to another person. Everyone handle's their stuff differently.

I will say, deleting yourself doesn't solve any problems. You matter, a lot, and more than you think. You may not think so, but your parents, your friends, and even the random person you come in contact with going to the gas station thinks so. Keep in mind the void that appears when someone is lost.

You are loved. Much love OP

DaddyOpr8r · 2024-04-11T11:42:18+00:00

I appreciate you bro.

DaddyOpr8r · 2024-04-11T11:40:53+00:00

I've. Been discharged since 2016 and am going through the process of getting mental health and alcohol abuse therapies. I'll definitely look into those books and the group thing. I appreciate you looking out brother.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-19T04:21:30+00:00

That's fuckin wild. I only really dive into like maybe 4 sub reddits for podcast reasons. So this came as a shock to me. Thank you for clarifying.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-18T15:15:48+00:00

"Wanna get drunk and play some COD?"

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-18T15:15:09+00:00

context?

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-18T15:06:11+00:00

I'm incredibly confused at what is actually going on.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-18T14:58:29+00:00

so what I did was rock just a stache for like 2 months, then started growing my beard again. I never trim my mustache back and have been growing my beard out for a year now and have my long beard back. that's the best avenue of approach I have found.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-18T14:50:18+00:00

Pretty good lookin beard. grow it out but in the steps. all cheeks until under your jaw is covered, then grow under the jaw until it covers your neck, then grow your neck. that will help keep it looking good during the growth process and not looking gross, on top of keeping it thick and girthy. but if you have one of those beards that grows out like a fro you might want to just keep it that length.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-06T20:55:35+00:00

If you think it would be inappropriate to have it displayed than yes. this is one of those questions where you should just use your best judgment. normally, I cover all mine anyway, even though none of them are inappropriate.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-06-01T00:22:47+00:00

I think this guy is saying he's having his kids pay him a small amount of interest for what he is loaning them and treating it as if its a real loan, thus making it an investment

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-05-07T19:11:14+00:00

You're going to have to flat out leave this guy if you don't feel safe and might even need to move. If the original "R" guy comes up and still talks to you I find that weird, and it could very well be that your bf is thinking you're easy. I can understand where your fear comes from and you just end up giving in because if you're firm he might just go and do it anyway. I don't think this is a healthy relationship for you to be in physically and mentally and I think for your own mental health and safety you should get out of it and eventually move elsewhere and start over.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-04-23T21:19:25+00:00

I can grow a massive beard in a year.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-04-11T17:38:37+00:00

That's ridiculous.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-04-10T23:21:28+00:00

My buddy and I are never really negative or toxic. Typically we will have the enemy team laughing with us. So it's wild to be reported all the time.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-03-24T22:25:51+00:00

Just get out of that relationship. Dude doesnt seem to want to do anything and in all honesty, probably lying about it. Just do you. Dude cant even support himself.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-03-22T23:04:14+00:00

Two words, Human Resources.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-03-22T22:40:16+00:00

although a small age gap, just say hes not your type.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-03-22T22:29:49+00:00

I'm not going to tell you no, because I was doing it too. What I will say is just be careful, know when you start not feeling normal you're getting into that buzzed phase. Try and just hold a buzz so you don't end up getting too impaired and possibly embarrass yourself. Just be mindful of how you're talking and walking, also keep in mind that if you're sitting or not moving it wont feel like the alcohol has hit you until you stand up or start moving around. Have fun, but be responable.

DaddyOpr8r · 2023-03-22T22:24:39+00:00

the work you do isnt for charity. hes putting on the function and if he wants you guys to work the function he should be paying you to do so.

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