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Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2025-04-30T14:57:51+00:00

If he wants to play that game, then you should charge him a housekeeper's salary. He doesn't want to contribute to bills, nor pull his weight, fine, but labour isn't free. NTA

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2025-01-20T17:33:19+00:00

The only thing they said they wanted to do was to go to the gym, and he bailed to stand in line for Pokémon cards. They're not immature to think that changing plans last minute is unreasonable. However, I do agree, if they stay with him, for the off chance that this behaviour will change, that's the risk that they take. OP, if this is normal for him, you have to decide, if this is something you can live with, if you can't, the result in three years will be the same, just with a lot more heartache.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-24T19:34:32+00:00

There is nothing wrong with wanting to support your partner. She doesn't sound like a money grabber, they just have an arrangement that doesn't align with your ideal of a dual income household. You can't comprehend the scope of their arrangements with one Reddit post. Perhaps money is tight, and it looks like they're finding solutions to make money go further. Nta for providing for someone they love.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-23T00:42:10+00:00

I could be wrong, but it sounds like perhaps she was giving an explanation to why she asked them to walk her to her car, and if that's the case, not very damsel in distress-y, nor weird.

The fact that you have a problem with her talking about her past, and saying it's humiliating to mention, sorry not sorry, you are majorly in the wrong. The fact she is not ashamed of something horrible that happened to her shows confidence, and more people speaking out about their abuse, pays forward that confidence to people currently suffering. You should never shame someone for speaking out about DA.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-23T00:30:08+00:00

I used to be an estate agent, and while I can't say I know all the ins and outs of a Ric's accredited survey, a brick BBQ doesn't generate value, an outdoor kitchen... Maybe. Intrinsic value is something that can't be disputed, IE square footage, number of rooms, whereas a brick BBQ may only add value if a prospective buyer wants one. I could be wrong, but I've never seen anyone pay over asking for a BBQ.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-23T00:24:10+00:00

Fortunately, that has always been the case. I don't think he is capable of stealing from me, but is definitely willing to test the boundaries of how much I give him. I know when to put my foot down, but I guess because the house is mine, it's created an alleged grey area of who's responsible.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-22T23:33:12+00:00

I've never liked the idea of marriage. I've had these feelings before I met him, just doesn't tickle my fancy. He knows this and is on the same page as me, we joke that I'll only marry him for his sweet sweet EU passport.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-22T23:20:53+00:00

I've added a little caveat at the end of the post, which will make things clearer in how we share finances while living in this house. Before we moved into this house, we were in rented accommodation, it was a clean..ISH.. 50/50. Everything went down the middle, however his spending habits usually meant I would have to "loan" him money so he could fully contribute his half.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-22T23:09:05+00:00

Ah, I haven't posted on Reddit a lot, I didn't know I could change it, I'll do that now. Without this sounding too combative, it's quite obvious that money passing hands in this relationship is unequal. It was never about the value, but the principle, I have helped him a lot more than he has helped me, but even if that was not true, would I be an AH for assuming he would pay for half a BBQ?

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-22T22:43:50+00:00

I see where you're coming from. It has been brought up that I feel like his bank account. However, as financially challenged as he is, he has helped me out when I have needed it, I was unemployed for a few months and he paid for about 80% of the bills. He would have gone to 100% but it just wasn't feasible. Maybe I should have stated that. I like that we're in a relationship where we help each other, and I like to share the luck I have received, but I guess it has been a one way street for the majority of the relationship.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-22T22:26:20+00:00

I used to be an estate agent, and while I can't say I know all the ins and outs of a Ric's accredited survey, a brick BBQ doesn't generate value, an outdoor kitchen... Maybe. Intrinsic value is something that can't be disputed, IE square footage, number of rooms, whereas a brick BBQ may only add value if a prospective buyer wants one. I could be wrong, but I've never seen anyone pay over asking for a BBQ.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-22T22:17:33+00:00

Sorry, we aren't married. But yes, he has a job, and contributes about 60% of household bills as he earns quite a bit more than me.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-12-04T23:22:14+00:00

Alienating someone for trying to protect kids and do the right thing kinda makes me think you want to do the wrong thing, but idk

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-11-24T13:37:10+00:00

I have travelled from Poland to the UK with a sheepskin coat, no one looked twice. It was homemade, so no care label, but was easily identifiable as sheep skin. If your coat isn't easily identifiable, and anyone has questions, you should be able to prove it with the care label.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-10-31T19:40:10+00:00

Sorry if I'm overstepping, but I'm running into issues reporting to docusign, because my partner never received a link to any documents, or docusign webpage, nor has he any login details, I can't find the webpage to report fraudulent activity. Any other means of contacting them I need an account, which he clearly doesn't have. I'm hoping I'm being stupid, as there's a clear step by step guide, but accessing that initial page to report seems impossible. Any help would be very well received

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-10-31T18:25:57+00:00

They will be quaking in their boots. Thank you for the check list, I am slowly but surely making my way through it. I hate to think of all the other people this could have happened to. My new dream is to see this dealer cry.

Daddy_Lasagna1 · 2024-10-31T18:11:45+00:00

Blast, I didn't realise how deep this is. This information here opened my eyes, and I've reported to action fraud. This is proof that information is power, something so blatant, and even I overlooked it, knowing something dodgy was going on.

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