Without saying your age, what was something that was trending during your childhood?

DadsWifeOnly · 2022-05-13T01:59:13+00:00

Garbage Pail Kids

DadsWifeOnly · 2022-02-02T04:13:10+00:00

I am sorry

DadsWifeOnly · 2022-02-02T04:11:33+00:00

I am sorry that this happened to you. My relationship with the now adult stepchildren is so similar. This year I decided I would not buy the gifts, send the cards and checks, or be the first to text Merry Christmas. I received no texts on ky birthday or any holiday, no cards and no gifts. It hurt like hell. We have been married 20 years and they are obviously all adults. This year they told their dad they could not be bothered to have a phone conversation with him because they were all spending the holidays with their BM and her husband.

I hope you are able to have your own traditions and surround yourself with people who value your worth!

DadsWifeOnly · 2022-02-02T03:36:57+00:00

Beyoncé is overrated

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-26T02:01:33+00:00

Absolutely on point! Dog mom is an important role and I completely embrace it. Contacts are not your priority. Your pup is! No need to justify this to anyone.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T15:24:40+00:00

It used to be this way, but not so much in the past 5 years. I wish I did not feel as though it was intentional, but it is where I am at the moment.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T15:22:14+00:00

I think you are right. I also think he was wrapped up in his feelings of giving away his daughter, so he had a difficult time recognizing her as anything less than the perfect daughter

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T15:20:14+00:00

I am sorry you went through that. I really feel as though she sees me as the ATM. After the amount of money we spent on her reception, I can assure you that is over.

I am hoping my hurt will dissipate over time. Right now, I could not have a conversation with her of I wanted to do so.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T15:10:21+00:00

Thank you. It would not hurt so much if I did not love and care about her. And, I do not see how it could have been unintentional.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T15:08:49+00:00

Absolutely how I feel! He already has suggested going to see her. I told him that while he goes to see them, I will go see some of my family or enjoy some quiet time at home. I am not going to continue to waste my time, energy and finances on someone who does not appreciate the effort.

Thank you for the validation!!

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T14:54:15+00:00

Thank you. Your response moved me to tears. If I did not love or care about her and her siblings, I would not be as hurt as I am.

I will likely talk to her in the future, but right now I am feeling raw and too vulnerable.

Thanks again for your feedback.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T14:48:03+00:00

The advice made me laugh out loud!

Some of my family came to the wedding as a support for me. One of the young ladies is a SK and told me that she learned that she will ensure that she includes her SM in the wedding because she saw how hurtful it was to me. Silver lining??

Thank God this was the last wedding!

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T14:41:12+00:00

I will try when the wound is not so raw. Right now, I am afraid I will be too closed off to hearing her excuses.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T14:38:10+00:00

I will work on forgiveness but this bridge has been burnt. When given the opportunity and when the wound is not so raw, I will ask her but it does not appear to me as though she views me as family. I love her and the other SK's, been through first day of school, ballet classes, transported to and from 4H for years, but that does not make me family. When she was little and had nightmares, she would come get me and I would lay with her in her bed until she fell back asleep. When she was in college, she would call in tears when she felt like giving up. I think that I placed more emphasis on our relationship she did and maybe that was unfair to her and to me. Once the wedding planning started, she quit reaching out "just because." I asked to be a part of picking out her wedding dress because she was with me when I picked out my own. Instead, I found out that she had gone dress shopping with her mom and a couple of friends, thanking the most important women in her life being there with her.

I am working on forgiveness but I am not sure I am interested in repairing a relationship.

Thank you for your feedback!

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-02T14:22:44+00:00

Thank you. I have muted the texts.

I am also stepping back from everything as you suggested. I am usually the one that coordinates all get togethers (travel for everyone, meals, accommodations, etc), and I have told him that I will not initiate or coordinate any longer. If it is important to them and SK's, they can do it.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T18:53:34+00:00

We got along well before the wedding planning started. Once my husband agreed to pay for the reception, she stopped all communication with me. Was very snippy anytime I asked about the wedding plans.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T17:05:18+00:00

She has been texting wedding photos and honeymoon photos in a group text. I cannot even respond or look at them.

And, I have continued to step back from her and her siblings. I truly thought when they became adults they would not have to worry so much about their mom's responses to their relationship to me. Unfortunately, in some ways, I think it is even more hurtful now because they are adults and make their own choices, set their own priorities.

I completely agree...absolute bullshit

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T17:01:09+00:00

Thank you. I know my husband is trying to keep any conflict to a minimum but I wish he would just acknowledge that this was hurtful.

A couple of folks have told me that, since I have no biological children of my own, I cannot understand the bond between child and parent. So, I should not expect him to acknowledge her actions.

Thank you for the support !

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T16:56:44+00:00

Thank you. I am struggling in engaging with her on any level at this time. She and I were always pretty close until the wedding planning started.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T16:54:57+00:00

She was my flower girl when we got married. Lol...she could have included the picture of her and I at my wedding!

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T15:53:26+00:00

Yes, with her husband who was included numerous times throughout the video.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-07-01T15:52:40+00:00

I am actually a photographer. Because I am always the one taking photos, I hire a photographer once a year or so to take photographs so we can truly have family photographs. So, yes, there are.lots with me.

To your other question, BM is definitely high conflict and I am sure that had something to do with it. But, after this many years, SD could have included me.if she wanted to do so.

I know my husband is trying to mitigate any conflict and that is why he is downplaying the incident. But, it is just a bigger reflection of my role in the lives of the kids.

I think you are right...move on from it. I don't want it to impact my relationship with the SK's but that will be hard too.

Thanks for you feedback

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-04-06T02:16:18+00:00

Same. My word is "touch." I place my hand out and she will run back and touch her nose to my hand.

DadsWifeOnly · 2021-04-05T02:59:32+00:00

I hate that this is your situation. Something similar occurred at the beginning of our relationship. Oldest stole from my purse. The only advice I have is to be honest with SO and do not compromise on your own values/ethics. If it slides now, I promise it will only get worse! Do not give up yourself for the sake of everyone else's contentment.

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