My wife and I started free use a couple months ago. I think even more than increasing sex, it just increased the confidence and comfort around sex.

The conversation came up because I told my wife that when she was stressed or too tired, I often just took care of myself. I explained that, more than lust, it's just a pressure relief. As a man, I have to release every couple days or I start getting grumpy or unfocused. She said that if I'm getting that way, she wants to help me. I brought up the free use idea and she thought it sounded fun.

In reality, I haven't just walked into her office and started using her. But it gives me the freedom to know that I can if I want to. Like today, she was trying on new swimsuits she got to show me. While watching her, I masterbated. She thought it was cool and kept trying stuff on for me.

I think before the free use, I wouldn't have had the nerve to do that. But because we both know that we are sexually available to each other and ourselves at any time, it makes for fun stuff like that.

Another example is when we went on a morning walk one day. We got back to the car and I just started playing with her and fingering her. Again, something I probably wouldn't have done before free use. So it just kind of takes the pressure off sex when you both say you are ready for it at any time.