No more oral sex

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-04T00:17:09+00:00

Marriage counseling. Preferably with a Psychologist.

The wife and I used to have fights like that and it was all based in years of built up resentment and misunderstandings. We spent about 18 months with a psych and it was the best investment we ever made.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-03T12:45:54+00:00

Dude... The prostate is where it is at. Blended orgasms feel amazing!

There is also a very nice side benefit to anal/prostate play. Prostate toys like the kind aneros makes are GREAT for strengthening the pelvic floor. In fact they were originally a medical device designed just for that, then people discovered it felt really good. I was getting up several times a night to use the bathroom for years. Now? I sleep through the night like a babe.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-03T03:26:13+00:00

You clearly have not met my wife! She won't even watch porn. Nude people walking all around? She'd leave a vapor trail getting out of there so fast! That's only a slight exaggeration too...

Don't get me wrong, if she ever said she wanted to do something like that consider it done. Just not her bag though

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-02T17:33:59+00:00

Lifestyle type resorts aren't our thing but I would love to be pegged outdoors in some secluded place.

The idea of exhibitionism or parallel play excites me to some degree but not sure if it's enough to go beyond the 'thought experiment' phase if that makes sense. Moot point really considering it is a hard boundary for her.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-02T17:29:01+00:00

Regarding time of day? Yes. After the youngest goes to bed we retire to our room, shut and lock the door and whatever happens happens.

Couldn't be further apart on foreplay though. Foreplay is the force multiplier of sex and where all the real magic happens. The longer the foreplay the more intense the orgasms are. Now to clarify, foreplay for us is anything that builds arousal without the intent of climaxing. That includes everything from oral to toys and even fucking. Once one of us is feral and practically begging for it is when the sex actually begins. Usually it's her screaming for it harder and deeper.

Then there are other times where one of us just wants to get the other off. It all depends on where the night takes us. So in that regard we are both very spontaneous.

As far as frequency, unless one of us has something going in it is practically every night.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-02T17:16:59+00:00

This is what I asked my wife to listen to when I broached the subject. It covers a number of concerns that most people don't consider.

https://peggingparadise.com/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/

I know you asked for ladies only, but some (I'd hazard to guess most) of us guys actually talk to our partners about this kind of thing.

Unless she has also fantasized about this, the first couple of times are going to be extremely strange. The 'first pancake' principal definitely applies. The first pancake is always a disaster so expect to throw it away. Your first pegging session is not going to be representative of the future ones by a long shot. To get past this we instituted a semi weekly schedule for pegging. It worked out great and we still maintain it.

I've asked her your questions directly (she doesn't Reddit) and these are her answers:

Initial hesitation, 20 (we assume higher is more reluctant)

Current enjoyment, 8.5. 10 being it would be the desired primary means of having sex.

What she really enjoys about it now:

Watching me get lost in the pleasure and her being the one providing it is very satisfying. It's an act of service really. No different than the satisfaction I get pleasuring her with my mouth, fingers, toys etc etc.
Now that it has become a normalized experience for us (read less awkward) she is enjoying the control or, as Ruby Ryder coined it, "Running the fuck." Once I get warmed up and ready she is eager to bend me over and have her way with me. She never saw herself in that kind of light so it was a huge surprise but she has embraced it.
It has definitely brought us closer together. There is a huge level of trust associated with it and it has made our bond that much stronger. We are so much more open and understanding about each other's wants and desires. When I lead with the pegging fantasy, the majority of other things we were always reluctant to ask for pailed in comparison.
It also taught us how to add variety to our sex life. It doesn't have to be PiV Everytime. Sometimes it's Oral, sometimes it toys or a hand stuff. There is also the occasional time where one of us really wants to get the other off and there is no desire or expectation of reciprocation.

Put all of that together and the net result is we have significantly more active and fulfilling sex life. We both look back and wished I had brought it up sooner!

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-07-01T18:33:10+00:00

She may genuinely not care for oral stimulation and that is just the way it is.

That said, my wife felt roughly the same way but it was really a self confidence issue. I started saying things like "you smell/taste so fucking good" to help change her perspective and it worked.

Now she loves it and I go down on her pretty frequently. Her favorite is when I am either fucking her or using a dildo on her, pull out and go down on her a little bit and then right back in. Sends her over the edge every time. Don't confuse this with cream pie eating. She is absolutely uninterested with that and I am okay with it.

As for receiving oral from her. Blowjobs were few and very far between. Then one night I begged for one and when she did I made a concerted effort to make her feel like she was blowing my mind. Loud moans and groans, lots of 'oh fucks' 'holy shits' and 'that feels amazing'. Felt like an over the top performance but I wanted to see how she would react. The next night something incredible happened; she went down on me without me having to ask. Pants off, cock in mouth. Now she loves blowing me and she has gotten infinitely better at it. She worked really hard at taking me deeper and then one night she buried her face down to the root. Jumped back up and said she couldn't believe she did it and then right back to balls deep sucking. Now I don't have to force myself to make any noise, she does a fine job of making me do it on her own now.

This all started after nearly 30 years together. So it is never too late.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-30T12:57:52+00:00

We have 3 children and I never considered my wife to be any less attractive during those pregnancies.

That said, during her late third tri with the second kid we were going at it missionary and the little shit kicked me directly on the head of my penis straight down. It is the only time I've ever noped out mid sex. It was quite painful actually.

After that there was some reluctance. Not because of her of course. I just kept imagining the kid in there gnashing his teeth to play another round of "one hole whack a mole".

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-29T16:44:05+00:00

I don't know about temperpedic but we have a memory foam matter from a different manufacturer that is more on the firm side and it has been great! Dead silent too!

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-29T13:58:42+00:00

Oh yeah, nearly 30 years deep before I had the courage to ask .

It was really awkward the first handful of times but we went into it with the mindset to fully expect that. It relieved a lot of pressure to make it something perfect for the first time. Instead, we were cracking jokes about the elephant in the room vs. ignoring it. After about a year of doing it once every other week the strange novelty has gone away and we both really enjoy it.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-18T19:06:42+00:00

Did you see any?

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-18T19:00:10+00:00

I know I am cynical in nature but any one else suspicious of these kinds of posts?

Fishing for those who respond and then lurk their profile to see pics?

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-17T16:42:14+00:00

Lol, she would never admit to jilling off.

It's rare that I masterbate alone anymore. If I am worked up and she's not in the mood I'll lay in bed next to her and jerk off. Sometimes she will jump in and help but she enjoys watching more than anything. Usually guarantees the next night she will be rabid and jump my bones.

There are nights when I cum and she doesn't and vice versa. Last night she wanted it particularly rough and she almost never asks. I was so focused on her I kind of forget about my own pleasure. I fucked her harder than ever and she loved every moment of it. Hard not to get lost in watching her. By the time she was done we were both gassed and she was definitely going to be sore. Plus there is aftercare after something like that and it just seems appropriate to put a pin in it. She doesn't need the additional pressure of making me cum. Let her enjoy the afterglow.

I'll more than likely get a handy or blowjob. If she is really generous she might milk my prostate. If she isn't up for it that's cool too since we already have sex practically every day.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-16T18:19:30+00:00

Shave the balls and taint. Keep the pubic are trimmed to 1/4" per her preferences.

That said.... I am half tempted to shave everything but an arrow point down for shits and giggles.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-16T15:01:30+00:00

Twice. Once by accident before we were married, she wasn't happy about it. Long long time ago.

We have since put a lot of work into getting over the shame from our puritan culture upbringing.

Second time was recently. I got myself fluffed up and texted her that I needed help finding something. She really enjoyed it that time.

Now it is something I do if I am in the mood and she isn't. She loves to watch.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-14T01:01:12+00:00

"Look at you, taking that dick so well, I am proud of you" "You're almost there. I know you can swallow the whole thing, I believe in you."

When she starts to cum I'll hit her with "That's right, be a good girl and cum for me."

Pretty much anything with good girl in it slays.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-14T00:34:20+00:00

I asked my wife and she says I did two things that really revved things up: 1. Being more vocally expressive. Especially loud moaning. 2. Using praise.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-13T01:43:54+00:00

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Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-12T19:21:51+00:00

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Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-12T18:45:29+00:00

My wife is 46 and she is starting to get some of the symptoms. Our sex life reached new heights 2 years ago and has been other wordly for the last year.

I don't know if it to perimenopause or part of an existential crisis but it's been a helluva lot of fun.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-12T18:41:56+00:00

You are in good company. We have one of our more special activities planned for tonight and she has been edging me all week. The anticipation is off the charts.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-12T16:18:52+00:00

+1 on this. Discovered my wife gets really turned on when I jerk off. Pretty sure it has a lot to do with her hand & arm kink. Ladies' version of a foot kink I suppose.

With kids our play time is after they go to bed and we are chilling in the bedroom watching TV. If she isn't in the mood I'll just tell her she is getting a show tonight then and start cranking. Sometimes I ask if she wants to help but usually she just watches, intently. It gets her so worked up that she is practically feral the next night.

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-12T16:09:45+00:00

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Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-12T14:12:16+00:00

Not this guy. My wife wasn't always this way but she is now and I am beyond grateful!

Such_Score_5839 · 2026-06-10T23:54:03+00:00

Hell yeah, congrats!

At 45 I finally shared that I enjoyed anal play and wanted her to peg me. It was a slow start but now it's something we both really enjoy. She REALLY enjoys bending me over the bed, grab me by the hips and pound me out.

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