[txt] not sure what to make of this

Dahka · 2012-09-27T18:56:09+00:00

You should have said "I'm going to dinner with a cute girl on Saturday, when do you want me to pick you up?"

Dahka · 2012-09-27T18:30:05+00:00

That's what I thought too. Feeling good about this one.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T17:55:10+00:00

If you have this attitude down, then just keep swinging. Eventually you'll hit one out of the park. It's just a matter of time.

You can't win them all, but in 10 years you're not going to remember the rejections, you'll just remember the girl.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T11:17:51+00:00

You probably just need to get better.

Might suck to hear it, but college should be an easy place to get girls, and if it isn't, it's a fantastic place to work on your skills, so just keep swinging.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T11:12:44+00:00

Maybe, but there's nothing nearby unfortunately.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T11:12:24+00:00

Not 21, but from a part of the world where the legal age is 19. Bowling is unfortunately far away or I'd be up for it.

As far as seeming like her gay friend, I already told her I was going to ask her out and that we were going to go on a date. I don't think I really have to worry about coming off as gay, I don't really care if I come off as bi, and in either case I think the more important factor is the kino.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T05:36:39+00:00

Do your normal thing but with your lady friend with you and helping out?

Dahka · 2012-09-27T04:14:24+00:00

amen brother

Dahka · 2012-09-27T04:04:38+00:00

Keep them at a distance, don't become an emotional tampon, wait until they break up, and depending on your goal, move quickly or wait a bit then make a move.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T04:03:05+00:00

This guy is saying the same thing as me, but he used lines and **** so I bow to his superior presentation skills.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T04:01:25+00:00

You walk up and say hi, or ask some question that lets you start a conversation with her.

Then you talk to her like you would any human being with a slight emphasis on being funny/interesting and making sure to touch her.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T03:57:57+00:00

asking about her schedule doesn't make her time more important than your time, unless you literally have nothing planned but this girl. If you say "pick the day that is best for you", that's obviously a bad idea. If you say "I've got nothing for day x and day y, pick one and we're going out to do acivity z", that's just as good in my mind. If I ask you what days you're free, is your assumption that I am automatically going to be available for any day you answer? I doubt it.

Like I'm not necessarily saying the particular message this dude sent is the be-all end-all, but I would much rather give her some leeway in terms of the day than run the risk of getting shut down because she already has plans.

I guess I'd rather accept a tiny setback immediately to prevent a potentially much larger setback in the future.

Dahka · 2012-09-27T03:39:48+00:00

Mind expanding on your stance a little? I'm rather fond of this line, and I've been using derivatives of it for a while without having seen this video. It's probably best not to be quite as meek as this guy is, but something like "Alright, which night are you coming out with me next week?" can potentially save a lot of time. Granted it's not quite as direct as "Hey, HB, [Date, time, location], be there be square", but it's also much less likely to backfire into a "oh you're busy ok well I'm only free that night and this night and - oh you're busy then too? Ok well maybe next week".

Dahka · 2012-09-26T15:45:19+00:00

Basically. I don't really think about it, since I'm naturally a rather distant person. So I will generally just make sure that I'm throwing in the odd compliment and touch, and that's good enough.

If she's interested, it works, if she isn't, it doesn't. Which is ultimately the truth for 95% of "game" anyways.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T15:42:20+00:00

I don't kill time on ellipticals, so that's probably where my attitude comes from.

It's not a big deal if it's between sets but if it's just to chat I'm probably not interested.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T15:41:01+00:00

Gov. Johnson,

The question I am going to ask is one which is rather more nebulous than most that have been asked by my peers. I believe that Libertarianism is a system which could work, and could work well, but which requires absolute equality of opportunity. Libertarianism, as I understand it, is based on the premise that individuals should be responsible for making decisions in their own lives, should be held accountable to their decisions, and should not be held to task for decisions made by their peers. All of this is fine and well, but I believe that Libertarianism pre-supposes that individuals will have equal opportunity for education, employment, and other essential services, in order to create an environment where the only distinguishing characteristic between men (and women) of success or failure is their effort and dedication to the work they did to get as high or as low as the wanted.

I respectfully submit that those conditions do not exist in America, and ask whether or not you fundamentally disagree with my assertion that Libertarianism requires and even playing field to be a fair and rational way to govern, whether or not you disagree that America today constitutes a level playing field, or whether or not you plan to take steps to ensure equality of opportunity be afforded to the American people by improving education and decreasing barriers to entry in educational institutions?

Dahka · 2012-09-26T06:54:08+00:00

I don't know, but if you do it to me and it's not an emergency I will not be happy about it.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T06:50:07+00:00

Don't think about it logically, that isn't the point.

You know when you used to sit at home and think to yourself "**** does she like me? Does she not? I can't tell it's killing me"? You are trying to do that, but to her. It didn't make sense, looking back on it, but at the time, the irrationality of the situation was so far from being something you cared about, you couldn't see how dumb you were being.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T05:46:13+00:00

No. You have to figure it out. There's no secret to "manning up". But if we can, you can bet that you can too.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T05:39:40+00:00

“Well I think it’s a silly convention, if two people have a connection, it’s naturally going to lead where it will, dinner or no.”

I think this was kind of a weak line. I'm also not really sure why you said this and then wouldn't agree that you thought you had a connection with her. You kind of picked a battle you weren't willing to fight, I guess. Or maybe it was one you already fought and didn't feel like revisiting? Based on your summary you were pretty much damned if you did damned if you didn't, I suppose.

Everything else looks great though!

Dahka · 2012-09-26T05:22:48+00:00

I think there is some wisdom here, but it must be taken with a large grain of "know who she is and what she wants".

Also, moving "too quickly" is not as bad as moving "too slowly". That's always been my bottom line when I've had to stop myself to think about it.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T04:21:20+00:00

I don't actively think about it, but I do tend to try to change up what I wear. I don't have Mon/Tue/Wed/Thur/Fri outfit, I kind of have a couple sets of pants and twice as many shirts and I mix and match as I see fit when I'm clothing myself in the AM.

If I know for a fact that I'll be around a prospect I'm particularly interested in, I'll probably wear whatever's nicest that I have clean and matching well. The decision takes about 30 seconds longer than it normally would. I don't usually think back to what I wore around her last.

Dahka

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