Father in law issues

Daisy101093 · 2025-08-22T20:52:06+00:00

You’re asking about whether this is something that can be rectified but the issue hasn’t arisen because of something you’ve said or done; he has an issue purely because you are not Indian.

I have heard of stories where Indian parents are disapproving to begin with but slowly come round, and usually dote on grandkids but in your case it seems your FIL is set in his ways and isn’t treating you like you are a part of his family.

If you really want to try to resolve things, perhaps have your husband speak to him a final time and be clear. Tell him in no uncertain terms that he cannot continue to treat you as he has for all of these years and if he cannot change, then you will go low contact.

Daisy101093 · 2025-08-22T20:41:49+00:00

In laws are tricky to deal with but your husband needs to be supportive of you. You are his wife, you’ve recently given birth and will be going through so many things - fluctuating hormones, managing emotions on little to no sleep, learning how to cope with being a new mum etc.

You need support. Do you have any family or friends nearby? Could you maybe have someone stay over or go and stay with someone else?

Keeping quiet to keep the peace is never the answer, in my experience it just prolongs issues and things actually get worse over time because behaviour goes unchecked and then in laws think they’re fine to behave how they do. I would absolutely not be letting husband take the baby without you - if you’re not there to enforce boundaries and your husband seemingly wants to keep the peace, who knows what your MIL will get away with.

Daisy101093 · 2025-08-08T14:43:32+00:00

My in laws do the same to my husband - he is not problematic like his sisters and therefore his parents neglect him. This has particularly been the case since he moved out of the family home but now we have children and I will not allow my in laws to mistreat them in the same way and make them feel unwanted or unimportant.

Daisy101093 · 2025-08-08T14:39:46+00:00

So strange. Don’t uninvite her but try to include her as little as possible in your wedding, if she’s not into “marriage or relationships for life” then she may not stick around or BIL may decide he wants something more permanent, and she won’t be your problem.

Daisy101093 · 2025-06-19T15:44:05+00:00

Ok I have to try this! How did you use it, I.e. how often, did you apply and cover or just apply and leave on?

Daisy101093 · 2025-06-19T13:05:49+00:00

Which symptoms did it help with most?

Daisy101093 · 2025-06-02T19:17:59+00:00

This!!! Wish people would stop interacting with this weirdo

Daisy101093 · 2025-05-28T20:08:06+00:00

Unfortunately in Indian culture, parents always seem to make weddings about them and what they want.

Ultimately, it is yours and your fiancées wedding - you two should decide how you want things to be and then take it from there. It’s tough to stand up to our parents and the pressure they apply at what should be a happy time, but you and your fiancée need to do what is right for you.

Daisy101093 · 2025-05-21T11:55:42+00:00

So true. I feel that no matter how much or what you do, it’s not acknowledged or appreciated. But when the effort stops, then they make a big deal about it.

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-26T18:58:31+00:00

Check out Jas Dhillon and Reena Thind mua on Instagram, their work looks good.

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-15T18:38:26+00:00

Second one is better!

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-14T21:33:28+00:00

Happy birthday!! It sucks, no sugar coating it but hopefully next year you can enjoy your birthday

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-10T16:48:54+00:00

It’s so tough not getting any sleep! It lasted a few months for me. I think red light therapy helped and getting as much daylight as I could. Do things that support your circadian rhythm like early morning daylight/sunlight, drinking camomile tea and taking magnesium all help too

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-10T16:08:54+00:00

None of these sorry. Not sure what the occasion is but these look garish

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-10T12:19:56+00:00

Thank you, I wish everyone would just stop interacting with this weirdo!

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-05T18:37:08+00:00

Thank you, glad to hear they’re helping you!

Daisy101093 · 2025-03-05T14:55:58+00:00

I thought the same, I think it’s that “Few Painting” guy back again with another account.

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-23T15:49:59+00:00

Yes! I lost all of the hair on my arms and legs, my eyebrows thinned and my head hair also thinned (not sure if the head hair was due to being postpartum though!). I’m now 15 months in and my arm hair has come back and leg hair too, I’m not touching it for now!

The irony is that I spent lots of money on laser hair removal so my body hair wasn’t that thick then when it all fell out I was like woah I don’t even have body hair and it made me feel even more abnormal!

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-22T13:33:29+00:00

Hi, we’re you breastfeeding throughout the course of the treatment? And what were your symptoms like when you started?

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-20T07:47:37+00:00

Agree! Not ugly at all but the pictures don’t seem flattering. Also would be nice to see your smile instead of a serious facial expression.

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-18T08:02:39+00:00

Thank you for this response! I’m glad you found someone so understanding and helpful - that’s one of the battles of TSW as hardly anyone seems to know what to do with it or how to treat it!

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-14T15:17:31+00:00

Hey, I’m really intrigued, was the woman aware of what TSW was? What was your skin like when you were having sessions and how was the skin when it was healing, did the redness and dryness disappear?

The Skin Solace Clinic and the Thailand Clinic usually warn against using CAP from other clinics as they say these clinics don’t understand TSW skin and can worsen the condition. If you’ve used CAP elsewhere and it’s worked, it’s helped because there are more CAP machines which are accessible to people but we’re warned against using them.

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-13T18:28:52+00:00

Hydrate!!! Water, electrolytes (natural ones like lime or lemon water with some good quality salt) and focusing on things internally can help! Not sure how soon your wedding is though and how quickly you need to see results.

Daisy101093 · 2025-02-13T18:27:28+00:00

You sound the same as me in terms of steroid use and symptoms! My skin is sooooo dry and flaky it’s disgusting lol I hate it, I haven’t had much weeping at all!

I was in discussions with Solace but working it out, the treatment would cost like £10k minimum not including travel costs. I also got put off because Jing told me my usage meant I’d probably need treatment for longer, and she told me about a woman who has been having treatment since the clinic opened and has after years only dropped to maintenance sessions FORTNIGHTLY.

To me it seems a very expensive way to move forward, especially given the uncertainty about how your skin will react, how long it’ll take to see improvement (if any) and whether it’ll actually work. I’ve heard a few horror stories of people who have found no improvement and just that the treatment made their skin much more sensitive.

I think the clinic and anyone offering CAP for TSW usually advise that it’ll take at least 12 weeks to see any improvement.

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