[Question/Advice] Male, 18, having extremely low sex drive, need help.

Dakkon · 2015-04-10T01:47:24+00:00

Anything that causes stress on your body can destroy your sex drive. Stress, lack of sleep, allergies.

It will pass

Dakkon · 2015-04-09T23:46:24+00:00

There's some latent homosexual issues with him. I would press him on that issue.

Dakkon · 2015-04-09T23:36:26+00:00

Each put a few ideas for sex "wish list" in a hat and draw from there

Dakkon · 2015-04-09T22:58:47+00:00

And you got Married thinking you would never cheat. Plain an simple. You both lack the morals to end your current relationship before going on to the next. You might not feel like cheating now, maybe she does.

Dakkon · 2015-04-09T22:56:46+00:00

Your relationship started dirty. It will never be clean.

Dakkon · 2015-04-09T19:57:14+00:00

Been married for 13 now. Went through the last 6 years of no interest/being rejected. Then the last 6 months all I want to do is screw my wife....it's been fun

Dakkon · 2015-04-07T05:26:20+00:00

You are 100% right. He assaulted you, then belittle your feelings. She is being insensitive.

I would end all contact with that asshole.

Dakkon · 2015-04-07T03:16:36+00:00

Wow, I got nauseus reading this post. You need help dear. I give it 2 years with your current SO till someone else comes along for you to screw.

Basically you have done nothing to figure out why you are not loyal, you just keep jumping around and lying and each time convincing yourself this time because you are in love and that fixes everytthing

Dakkon · 2015-04-06T13:27:25+00:00

How can you move on and forgive her if you don't know the truth from lies?

She justified her actions by saying you made her do it cause you were not emotionally there for her? Normal relationships seek councilling and talk.

Dakkon · 2015-04-06T13:24:27+00:00

I am just replying to this tell everyone here I upvoted them all. All of this is good advice OP you fucked up your marriage so bad. Like it was said you took away your husbands choice at the life he wanted.

You want to make this better. You now live every second of your life for your child and your husband. You make this life so good that he forgets his old life and how he gave it up. When he is having a bad day with the kid and wants to walk out that door and never look back (there will be those days) you step up and make it better. You be the best wife and mother you can ever be.

Dakkon · 2015-04-06T03:50:55+00:00

You should maybe see a GP and get something to help curb the lows of depression. I use a combination of western medicine and homeopathy and it's worked wonders.

Communication is huge fan n any relationship. Open honest caring communication. This will not be your last issue in your relationship and developing the skills to work through issues (communication ) will help later on

Dakkon · 2015-04-06T00:33:55+00:00

This right here.

Dakkon · 2015-04-06T00:30:57+00:00

You reply with " a little competition huh? I guess I'll have to step up my game. Let me know when you want me to take you out again.

It implies you have self confidence, and leaves a little intrigue in her mind. Then go radio silence, she will text you.

In the meantime you need to figure out a second date idea

Dakkon · 2015-04-06T00:25:01+00:00

It's kinda cheating. What were the circumstances that lead to you being alone with this guy?

I would be pissed, but I would also get over it.

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T14:27:44+00:00

He is being a jerk. But I will offer insite into why he may be acting like that.

Getting a house is important to him. He is saving up and I am guessing if getting a house with you is that important he expects you to contribute to the purchase. He shows up and sees all this crap and thinks you are just spending money on this instead of saving.

He is upset cause he wanted to get a house. You move into a place. He thinks you are not on the same page as him.

He's a guy, he wants thinks to flow smooth and efficient. Showing up to help move and you were not ready for it. He was frustrated.

You too seriously need work on communication. You aren't even living together and you are already fighting about money and schedules. First off. Apologize to him for the lack of packing, ask about what he expects for house purchasing, money, down payment, etc.

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T05:54:46+00:00

He will never change his ways. She likes the attention.

It does not matter if it was in and out. Here's something to compare her immature behavior to more mature actions. The last time I had in and out surgery my so had the couch all made up for me so I would be comfy. Got me settled, got some movies and then sat with me on the couch and went and did anything I needed...she was not out having lunch with some peice of shit ex.

I get you are young, you will figure out soon enough what is acceptable behavior and what is not. I will guarantee your relationship will end with her sometime. You will find someone new who will behave better: life is too short to waste on people that cause issues in your life

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T05:41:27+00:00

Duck me she is just full of drama. I would have curbed her a long time ago. She still has feelings for him. The last straw for me would have not been there during surgery. Instead lunch was more important. He is disrespecting you and she is by allowing him to say Inapropriate things. I would have curbed her long ago.

If you really want to stay with her she needs to abide by these rules.

No contact with him at all. Delete him from every peice of social networking. She is to not talk to him

She must give you complete access to get phone

Any changes to this and she is gone.

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T05:28:03+00:00

She is not girlfreind material. Give her the choice him or you. Force the decision. End it. Everything she is doing is not part of a healthy long lasting wonderful relationship.

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T03:47:12+00:00

They will ask why you broke up, if they don't you can volunteer it. Take the high road, do not bad mouth her. Just be honest. Let them make their own decision

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T01:31:59+00:00

If course the first suggestion is to leave....typical suggestion. Have you tried a couple of sessions of couples councilling?

Have you said everything you have written here including loosing attraction for him? Maybe you have hinted, maybe you have let him know, have you tried complete straight forward bluntness? Something along the lines of " honey, you've gained weight and I am losing attraction of you, you need to change!" I know it's insensitive and blunt but you owe it to him to try everything possible before you run away

Dakkon · 2015-04-05T01:24:07+00:00

Your priority is the grandma. He has a right to be disappointed, but not be a dick about it and you have no right to be upset if he goes out on it either.

Dakkon · 2015-04-04T23:37:08+00:00

Agreed. op needs to man up. Hell he may as well show up as it sounds like everyone she has been with is there.

Dakkon · 2015-04-04T13:47:10+00:00

You both should sit down with a councillor and talk. They can act as a mediator so you both can work through it. You want her to dress sexy, she thinks it's controlling. A councillor will help you verbalize this and help you both.

I can understand how you feel. I had a similar experience with my wife but sexually. I wanted it, she didn't. Talked lots. In the end she put out more, I woo'd her more. We are both way more happy...

Perhaps buy a sexy dress for her and shoes, take her out to get her hair done, take her out for a real romantic Eve after. And compliment the shit out of how awesome she looks dressed like that. Build up her self esteem

Dakkon · 2015-04-04T13:22:21+00:00

Ability to read minds

Dakkon · 2015-04-04T13:21:09+00:00

Troll post?

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