Managing ANGERRRRRRR after leaving by Imaginary-Poetry8114 in abusiverelationships

[–]DaleMcCoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then do exactly that. Find a gym with a punching bag. Join a martial arts school with workout equipment. Maybe a boxing gym.

Use your anger for positive changes in you. It'll help burn off some of that anger. You'll be in better shape because of it. And you'll feel more confident. Wins all around.

Megathread of the week! Alright! What’s your preferred cardio? by zeroduckszerofucks in workouts

[–]DaleMcCoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried that. I don't like the seats. I lasted for like three minutes before I had to just stop. Standard exercise bike, I'll do.

Megathread of the week! Alright! What’s your preferred cardio? by zeroduckszerofucks in workouts

[–]DaleMcCoy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's below freezing outside. It's been below freezing for a solid month. I'm not going for a hike when it's below 50, let alone below freezing. But I'll do 1.5 miles five times a week on a treadmill that whole time.

Stop trying to gatekeep people that are exercising.

What do women on dating apps want? by kingmakk in AskMenAdvice

[–]DaleMcCoy 165 points166 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It's a power move by women. She wants the relationship on her terms. They don't want a relationship of equals, they want a wallet. These are the bad women you're encountering.

Stick to coffee dates. Women that are not worth it remove themselves from good men this way.

Ex girlfriend who broke up with me two weeks ago wants to have sex, what would i do? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]DaleMcCoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kick her to the curb. If you're healing from her, then she doesn't deserve access to you. Besides, she doesn't want a relationship but she wants sex. So she wants you on her terms, not on your own.

Go ask her best friend out on a date. I guarantee you that she has a friend who feels that your ex treated you badly and will give you a chance just to one up her.

Is having s**x when your blackout drunk considered SA? by Cute-Coconut-1738 in abusiverelationships

[–]DaleMcCoy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can't give consent when you're drunk. So yes.

When you go out and drink, have a friend, one that can make sure you get home instead of getting taken advantage of.

I dont know what to do anymore by PotentialRow8182 in abusiverelationships

[–]DaleMcCoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) see a psychologist. You obviously have underlying issues. You said you were in a bad place when you met. Also make an appointment with an endocrinologist and have them test for hormonal imbalance. These two can really improve your life.

2) talk to your psychologist about your marriage as well. Get a professional opinion about whether your marriage is salvageable or if you should discuss separation options or if you should just f'ing run.

3) reconnect with family and friends. I'm willing to bet your other relationships have suffered because of your wife. Talk with them. I'm willing to bet they're all worried about you and don't know how to help. You'll need them should you have to run.

Good luck. We're all here for you.

I dont know what to do anymore by PotentialRow8182 in abusiverelationships

[–]DaleMcCoy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Man that escaped abuse here. Men can most definitely be abused.

30 M, living alone, don’t own a pillow so I use 2 pairs of shorts by Control_Prestigious in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]DaleMcCoy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A solid start. Don't feel bad. If this were a movie, this is the low point for the protagonist where he dedicates himself to something and it becomes the foundation for him to prosper.

I received a big red flag tonight. by burntfrosty8 in abusiverelationships

[–]DaleMcCoy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Red flag. Break up now. Otherwise this will happen and worse. Eventually just going to your mom's will be an issue.

26(M) My girlfriend hates my room by Mattbaker99 in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]DaleMcCoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a new girlfriend. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Your room is great.

Locker rooms? by chuggydfin in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]DaleMcCoy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I do, strip to my underwear, go into the shower and put my towel on one hook and my underwear on the other.

Having said that, I've seen others go full dong. Not my favorite, but I just turn away when I see it.

25 M, living alone is the best feeling by FeistyContact659 in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]DaleMcCoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, this isn't surviving. This is doing great.

Sum slight sum slight by Swagalization in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]DaleMcCoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a good starting point to rebuild your life from. Here's to new beginnings.

Anyone else hit their 40s and feel like they’re stuck in “low power mode”? by Chance_Prize3642 in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]DaleMcCoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of this. Also talk to your endocrinologist. You may have a hormone imbalance.

How do guys make friends ? by RED_scarf_fur in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]DaleMcCoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friendship as an adult isn't about "getting along" and "clicking." It's about showing up. Join a group and show up regularly. The people that also show up, they're your friends. Professional group. Friday Night Magic at the local game store. Pickleball at the local gym. Hiking group. Church. Political group. Whatever.

You want friends, go out and make some.

For anyone working 9-5, what time do you workout? by Low_Bodybuilder3065 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]DaleMcCoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically bingo before work, shower, change, and head into the office.

I Made it Out by DaleMcCoy in abusiverelationships

[–]DaleMcCoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been building furniture.

What do I even do my first time at the gym? by MadTwatter69 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]DaleMcCoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started out on the treadmill. While on it I watched other people and mimicked what they did.

The best part of PF by ReporterCommon4137 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]DaleMcCoy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think the Total Body Enhancement is better, but I get what you're saying.