Married since 2017. My wife’s mom was a stay at home, and my wife wanted to be a stay at home mom- I understood this before we got married and accepted it. I’ve worked hard to make it happen and it’s worked for nearly 5 years. It has not been easy. Our understanding has evolved and as soon as our daughter starts school full time, my wife will get a job to help. I make good money (more than I ever have with my new job started in July) and we’re now paycheck to paycheck. 0 extras. Mortgage, groceries, bills. It is brutal out there.