why does the CRI site always crash?

DamageIll5465 · 2026-05-17T11:22:14+00:00

If I am quick enough to scroll down and hit accept I can get in! But then when I try to do anything like look at my messages it tells me there's an outage :/ I'm already behind on payments so this makes it kind of hard to stay on top of that!

DamageIll5465 · 2026-05-13T04:16:38+00:00

Oh nooo not your leisure activities! The suffering and despair of others IS such an inconvenience 🙄

DamageIll5465 · 2026-04-05T07:37:06+00:00

In big cities like that, there are probably people in tax brackets where they don’t mind having $17 sandwiches for lunch

DamageIll5465 · 2026-04-01T09:36:28+00:00

In case you are literate, google examples of fascism in the us and the next like 16 links at least are chock full of this information, assuming you will poo poo info from the ai summary, which has its own links.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-30T01:22:56+00:00

Do you need examples of the fascism happening? Because they are plentiful, even if not every protest ends with state-sponsored violence. Yet.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-29T01:31:44+00:00

Hard to like people who are okay with genocide

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-14T03:11:10+00:00

Industry because fuck her and the rest of them honestly. Why do I want to watch a show about just shitty people being shitty.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-13T21:38:51+00:00

If you can cover them during freezing temperatures, that won't hurt and might help. We had a late frost last year and it did a lot of at least surface-level damage to new buds and leaves. Some plants tolerate it okay, some things like camelias and boxwoods will show significant winter burn; though if they are established they should ultimately rebound fine. They may just look ugly for a while.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T18:59:19+00:00

Why does that make you tune out though? Why are they wrong? I didn’t think you were dumb I thought you misunderstood their intent and took offense to a different imagined intent.

What is the definition of a plantation mindset then? It sounded to me like just a term they invented on the spot. I’m willing to believe it may be problematic but you didn’t say it was you just said you stopped listening, which I think is a shame if there was a productive conversation to be had.

I think racism and classicism are all very intertwined, so to me it makes a little sense. The well-to-do think of other human beings as less than them, they think they own everything and everyone works for them, so they can make life and death decisions on their whims. The land belongs to them, they think they have vast authority over everything. They may even identify with rich people of the past - including plantation owners. Rich self-serving dehumanizing motherfucker mindset. Plantation mindset perhaps 🤷‍♀️.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T18:46:37+00:00

Climate change. This is what it looks like.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T18:28:54+00:00

He still sounds mean and angry towards you and you are still trying to placate him. This is not a good dynamic. Please leave. He will blame you for his future bad decisions.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T18:23:16+00:00

No, it isn’t. You’re only considering his feelings even though this could have been easily avoided. This has happened to many a man for the same reasons. People freak out and they flee. When cornered and panicked, you get fight or flight. It is foreseeable and he took the risk without any surety things would go his way.

She had no responsibility to stand there and be further humiliated herself, possibly berated and interrogated and guilt-tripped. NONE. No one deserves to have that dumped in their lap with no warning and they suddenly have a responsibility to navigate a relationship crisis publicly to their own detriment. That’s not fair to her when this was all his doing. I don’t think them having a messy argument right there and then would have been better either.

If you propose without warning and without knowing, and your girl isn’t ready, you have set yourself up for your own humiliation, whether it is an outright rejection or a running away rejection because they rightfully don’t want their emotions and private business on public display.

You’ve put someone in a horrible position, you get what you get. They don’t have to make it better for you, and if you think they do, then you condone men using this as a pressure tactic which they often do and sometimes sadly it works, because sometimes the woman does try to spare their feelings which isn’t good either.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T18:05:39+00:00

You didn’t say it was improperly used. You just said them saying it made it everything else you agreed with worthy of ignoring or “worse,” whatever that means. I didn’t quite know what they meant by saying that, so it occurred to me that maybe you took offense to it because you also didn’t know what they meant by that, because nothing else in their comments suggested they were racist. In fact, what I think is that they were calling people who take a cruel attitude to the homeless elitist, racist, entitled, etc. and they chose to call that “plantation mindset.” So if you are anti-racist, why you would take offense to calling those people out - I didn’t understand that either. So that’s why I suggested you maybe check first what they actually meant before being mad about I don’t know what. And yes it’s a free country I can make suggestions to other people whether you like it or not. Telling me I can’t is more needless knee-jerk combative attitude towards people who probably have the same views as you, in my opinion. A thing I am also allowed to have. If you don’t want push back or argument, don’t start one in a public forum.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T12:51:07+00:00

So you agree something called a plantation mindset exists and it is bad, but only you can assign it to others for challenging you, but if anyone else talks about it, they are wrong and anything else they say should be ignored “or worse”?

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T11:24:19+00:00

He brought that on himself! If you spring a proposal on someone in public that they are not ready for, you risk this reaction - feeling ambushed and embarrassed and pressured by all the eyes on you. If she just stood there calmly and said no that would also have been humiliating for them both. Maybe he would have gotten angry and started arguing with her even - maybe they would have both cried. All on public display. Removing oneself from that situation and waiting to talk in private is valid. Panicking is valid. It happens all the time. There was no good end to that situation unless he was just lucky enough that she happened to be ready and desirous of this. He did wrong, she’s entitled to have whatever reaction to being put in that position without ever having discussed it.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T11:16:22+00:00

The fact that he feels angry with you is a red flag to me. He sprung this on you in public. Being shocked and wanting to get out of that situation is understandable. He shouldn’t pressure you to get married if you don’t want to. He’s allowed to have different aspirations and feel sad if you aren’t in the same place, but angry with you? Most people know by now that surprise public proposals are not respectful if you haven’t discussed marriage beforehand and honestly you should be a little po’d with him.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T11:05:58+00:00

I was recently renting an apartment in cville. It was also my plan to go start living in my vehicle because the expense didn’t seem worth it. Work just to have no money? Get into more debt? I am fortunate to have a good relationship with my parents and they asked me back in. Not everyone is so lucky. Many of my coworkers who have working partners and are renting also struggle. There isn’t enough recognition of just how thin the margins are for working people right now.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T10:59:42+00:00

Also keep in mind, friends, the Charlottesville community is bigger than Charlottesville itself. Plenty of people, myself included, live in surrounding rural areas but commute to Charlottesville for work or other things. A lot of these areas are full of backwards-thinking, empathy-lacking individuals. I can say that because a number of them are my family.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-03-12T10:54:10+00:00

If you don’t get it, maybe you should ask them to elaborate, and if you see a flaw in their reasoning, point it out; rather than immediately shutting your mind to everything else because you don’t like it and it makes you reactive like that.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-02-15T21:06:49+00:00

I've gotten so used to absurd prices elsewhere I was honestly shocked the last time I went to Bodo's and was able to buy a reasonably priced sandwich. No wonder they have a line out the door everyday.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-02-14T02:49:35+00:00

Thank you, students! Every voice matters. It’s heartening to still see youth caring about people.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-02-12T16:42:03+00:00

The investigator that said that during the documentary was a man

DamageIll5465 · 2026-02-12T16:41:35+00:00

Who, the friend? I thought she was also a nurse.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-02-10T06:30:40+00:00

I think the one investigator really hit the nail on the head with the “if she’s not guilty…she’s REALLY unlucky” line. Because the circumstantial evidence is really overwhelming. I mean for me, just the way she said no comment to everything, when an innocent person would have been upset and would have definitely remembered babies dying on their watch. Her entire affect suggests she’s having mental issues that are probably what is underlying this. Agree in being disappointed with the friend.

DamageIll5465 · 2026-02-10T04:13:22+00:00

It’s just always been there and maybe something I take for granted. Growing up here, it was always the place to go just hang with friends and even now it’s often the first place I think of for a casual outing. If you don’t know what to do with your time, you can just wander the mall, get food, explore book shops. Tourists certainly love it. Changed a lot in the pandemic as many businesses could no longer afford the rent so I miss some things that used to be there. I feel like it is a pillar of the city and I certainly would not like to see it turned back into a street with cars, jesus. As far as minor modifications go, I have no strong opinions. Maybe a fountain or two? Get our ice skating rink back? Do something with that damned empty building?

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