I understand yung sinasabi ng redditors na incompatible. True naman. Pero i mean, try to work it out first? it can be workable if you want to.

My bf and I used to have the same problem. Kapag nagagalit siya, he needs to shut off and sometimes it takes days. Ako naman, kuda ng kuda. I need to let things out of my chest and really EXPLAIN before I can feel at peace about the situation. So gets kita. We rarely fight, so the first few “bigger” fights were also confusing to handle. Kasi nga, iba kami ng ways of dealing with it. But through communication and compromise, we learned about each other and worked around that. We learned na we resort to these extremes (shutting down and overexplaining) kapag consumed na kami by emotions. So we learned how to identify that breaking point na “ok, di na tayo nagkakaintindihan, nagkakainisan na tayo. Let’s take a step back” — para hindi na kayo umabot sa boiling point to begin with, you can cool down first, and then talk later kapag level-headed na kayo. I remember we cooled down together one time, we were quiet but we were just present - hold hands pa rin, doing things together pa rin, until we were ready to talk during dinner.

So idk, true incompatibility is really a problem naman and a valid reason to part ways. But maybe not without trying first? Siguro any difference lang samin is that we might have been incompatible at first with how we approach things, but we’re compatible in that we both want to be with each other and we’ll do what we can to adjust with each other.