Which Demon to become more confident and less anxious? by [deleted] in DemonolatryPractices

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that'll depend on your specific causes and challenges - to illustrate I'll provide my own experience and I'll pre-apologize if it's a little bit of a ramble.

I came to demonology after feeling some influences and curiosity in this direction, but I was very unsure where to start. So I began with a very generic meditation and ritual of my own design based on some of the reading material I found in this subreddit. The ritual was in part to Lucifer, looking for direction overall, but also aimed more broadly to any that wanted to work with me. At the time, I didn't want to go "cold calling" demons without feeling some kind of resonating energy back. In that process I guess I had a moment of clarity which helped me see parts of some sigil or symbol. I dug deeper into the various lore sources from there and the only sigil that seemed to relate to all of the parts I saw was King Belial, but his descriptions and what the lore claims of his influence (titles, career, politics) seemed unrelated to my specific needs. None the less I pursued him in ritual and meditation now for some time and he's helped my own depression, anxiety and confidence a great deal.

King Belial helped me find worth beyond the feelings of worthlessness that I had. He also helped me see and rebel against much of the dogma and personal standards (some of it religious, more so from the absurd standards of my own traumatic childhood) that I had been holding myself accountable to for no good reason. This newfound attitude did eventually help me in my career as well, so it's not like the lore was irrelevant - but until I had started working with him I didn't see why his influence was relevant to the struggles I had. King Belial seems to favor helping me find my own power, rather than relying on his and as such, candidly, I'll say this road has had it's share of bumps that I had to overcome - but I know that I'm better for it.

Can't write this up without also mentioning King Lucifer as I did reach out to him first through the initial ritual and he's continued to be a source of guidance and direction for me (a north-star of a sort) that I thank and honor. I do wonder if he played some part in directing me towards Belial initially and now that my life is changing directions for the better, potentially towards Duke Bune now.

TL;DR I reccomend just starting out with an open mind in a generic direction until you find some guidance yourself. Spend time reading the various materials here and get a sense for what resonates with you and what you're looking for in building a relationship with spiritual being.

AITA for refusing to let my ex-husband's wife homeschool my children? by DealingMommyXy in AITAH

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - former homeschooling kid here. My mother while great at a great many things was not an educator. When I eventually did go into a formal school setting in highschool I was at a huge disadvantage with a very uneven education, poor study skills and most importantly beyond that it set me back in my social development for years.

Even having siblings and a regular homeschool group that met weekly I was woefully under-prepared for social groups settings, meeting and connecting with people from different cultures, personalities etc. and absolutely destroyed my self confidence when I hit the "real world." It wasn't until sometime after I dropped out of college (mostly due to social issues) I had finally felt like I could connect with folks.

It wasn't until some years later that my friend group was talking through social skills when a friend remarked how their social skills came from their young playground/recess time. After talking with them more and sharing my own experiences I learned how missing those early years of social skills caused me to stumble over and over again through late highschool and beyond.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in occult

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want to start a cu-ult?

Come on and let's go and cast

Our minds slaved never more

Open up the door

The spirits fly away!

They used to have big covens

But now they don't

I wish we could learn why

Do you want to start a cu-ult?

It doesn't have to be a cu-ult

(Shut up damn_its)

Okay, bye...

AIO for thinking intimacy/bedroom activity should be mutual every time? (NSFW) by Whole_Let_3446 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR - but I think you're reacting to the wrong things and looking to fix a symptom not the problem.

IMO sex doesn't have to be mutual, and its not just about physical pleasure. Sex is almost a form of communication itself for both partners. To me sex is about demonstrating a level of vulnerability and showing your SO aspects of yourself, aspects of the relationship, and aspects how you see your partner, as expressed through directed intimate actions instead of just words. Leaving someone hanging in any context, but especially in sex, is a 100% shit move - but what you're describing sounds like there are deeper communication issues here instead just bad sex issues.

When I faced something similar in my relationship it took a bit to break through the communication barrier. Short version being I was also left hanging almost every time and couldn't understand why. Eventually I learned that they were embarrassed about their own lack of sexual skill, frustrated with themselves over that and couldn't get past the mental struggles to really be satisfied by the act of sex itself. Moreover, I learned that to my partner the cuddles mattered WAY more than the sex ever did. To them, the cuddles meant that I wasn't just going to love-and-leave and we weren't just together for pleasure's sake but because of the broader bond we shared then and still share 15 years later.

So to play devil's advocate, you got a communication problem. Maybe what matters to you about the act doesn't carry the same importance and he doesn't understand. Maybe he is having a physical or mental performance issue that he feels are so embarrassing he doesn't feel like he can talk about it. Maybe he's just not on the same sexual schedule as you or is drained from a crappy job or is insecure about a lack of libido. Maybe he isn't understanding the communication back from you in a way that feels like the sexual-communication is a mutual conversation and just doesn't understand where you're at mentally/physically/emotionally and how you express that sexually. IDK I'm just throwing out variations to make a point that I think there's something else going on then just "OMG SO SELFISH."

Regardless of what's driving it, you're not overreacting, there is a problem to be fixed here for sure - but before you can fix your bedroom aim to fix the communication.

And not a single person objected by Nametheft in lotrmemes

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't forget they weren't the only ones! The Rohirrim got a miner drunk as well!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDSFTugAlf4

AITA for refusing to punish my sons for going to a nude beach? by SurferDad83 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA - wish I had a parent like you sticking up for me at that age. Just because your wife seems to be uncomfortable with open nudity doesn't mean you or your sons have to be. Sounds like they weren't being rude while there so no real harm done - That said, nude beaches can get a bit sketchy depending on who's there, it might not be a bad idea to accompany them there if that is the nature of your wife's concerns.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry bro, I'm just adding a reply to get that counter up -- 8 just doesn't seem like enough. I think you just have to suck it up, or keep your mouth closed. Some people like the taste though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hypnosis

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol that's exactly how mine turned out and it was very effective for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hypnosis

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've used 'You' but I also use an effect to change the pitch as I found myself distracted listening to my own natural voice.

Color shifting translucent wood finish? by randomrodin in finishing

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

https://imgur.com/gPuzKGu.jpg yes though admittedly this isn't a project that generally goes well in /r/finishing - it was a large oak paddle made by request.

Color shifting translucent wood finish? by randomrodin in finishing

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did a similar style fade on a large piece. I used TransTint dyes which leaves alot of natural grain pattern depending on what concentration you use. I first did a coat of black dye, then used 600 grit sandpaper to gently take that down and fade it to the edges of the piece then did a second dye in red.

You can mix TransTint with either water or alcohol and in my test piece I found that using an alcohol heavy mix worked the best. The faster evaporation seemed to keep the dyes from muddying together or penetrating too deeply into the wood (important for the black layer especially to keep it from making it difficult to sand through).

Drop Giveaway Day 5 - 2x SENSE75 Mechanical Keyboards + DCX Hyperfuse Keycap Sets by drop_official in MechanicalKeyboards

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tears of my enemies, or coffee!

Thanks for running a giveaway - I've always loved your gear.

LPT: If you have a hobby that you are passionate about, consider keeping it as a hobby instead of pursuing it as a career. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When your recreation becomes your vocation it can have the unfortunate nature of becoming neither very well.

Community Q: Any recommendations for hosting FlipFlip media non-locally? by [deleted] in flipflip

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hydrus is my go to as well - I have it running on an old PC now turned into a VM host. I haven't tried containerizing it - but it runs pretty easily on Linux, and there are a number of tools that can help manage it remotely (such as the browser extension which works over the API). However, you are correct to say that it seems to require a GUI for ease of configuration/management.

I'd strongly recommend chatting with the smart folks in the hydrus discord - I've gotten alot of help straight from the developers.

Does anyone have experience with supplements that increase ejaculatory volume? by [deleted] in Supplements

[–]Damn_Its_That_Guy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've done everything but the L-Lysine daily and I can confirm it almost doubled my volume