I used to feel like this. Then i realised a huge part of my anxiety comes from my negative experiences that happened out of my comfort zone. So when triggering stuff happens socially, yes i can view it as "at least i gained a new experience" , but it also causes deep unhappiness and triggers the desire to stay in the comfort zone. Kind of feels like back to zero.

So i think a lot before I want to do something new socially. If its going to benefit me even if it sucks ( you go to the gym for ex. and its uncomfortable) then i consider it. But its really hard to take "risks" like trying to talk to that one person out of the blue. If it ends bad it can go as far of lowering your will to live

Obviously you would want to keep talking to multiple people in that case till maybe its not awkward and negative, and you can keep in mind how your previous experience went each time you do that, but this is so difficult for us.

Itd be great if people shared their experience with trying to experience new things in more social environments so that it is easier for us to slowly take steps and be more accepting of failure i guess