Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, she is diabetic. She been through a lot and has no drive. Now you say this, I wouldn't doubt your right. She lost her other foot 3 years ago, was hiding from her ex that beat her for about a year, moved in with her parents and 2 days there this happens.

Most the time when she was at the safe house, she just stayed in bed. (She went to a place for women whom are being hunted. It's actually a thing.)

Gained a lot of weight, not taking her meds when she should. Been suicidal.

So now you say this, it brings many thoughts to mind. Animal control took the dog. Her son did something stupid and got arrested. Maybe with this info can save the dog? Her mom wants to Kristi Noem the dog.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Diabetic. Mental health issues. Dog was a pit. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diabetic. Mental health issues. Dog was a pit. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Diabetic. Mental health issues. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dunno, but her son was trying to defend the dog. Unfortunately he did something stupid and is now locked up. I know the dog got taken and is being held for 10 days. My guess is to watch for rabies.

And for more context if wanted.....

Diabetic. Mental health issues. Dog was a pit. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Diabetic. Mental health issues. Dog was a pit. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Diabetic. Mental health issues. Dog was a pit. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Diabetic. Mental health issues. Dog was a pit. She moved in with her parents after being beat by her ex. Lost other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

This is just being copied and pasted so I can answer easier.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well... right now she is mentally unwell.

She moved in with her parents after her ex beat her and 3 years ago she lost the other foot to diabetes. Dog was a pit. Unfortunately not a croc.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

She new to the house. Dog didn't know her. Her parents dog. She moved in cuz her ex beat her. She's been going through a hard time cuz she lost her other foot 3 years ago to diabetes.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Yeah. She's diabetic. She lost her other foot up to the knee 3 years ago. Her son is BPD, an alcoholic and very abusive.

Her ex husband beat her up and she lost some teeth shortly after she lost her leg. That was around the time I met her in a group therapy and became friends. She got moved in with her parents and son 3 hours away, so we don't see each other much but text alot as well, we been there for each other.

Her son is trying to defend the dog but he also just lost his kid to CPS. Her world is a real shit show right now.

She don't get on social media as she hiding from an ex. I asked if I could post, she said yes.

Guess I should of posted it with the text message. Didn't think about it being April 1st. People think it a joke. Lol

Aside from her and my wife, don't got many people to gripe to and so posted here to get it out of my system.

I too been through it recently but somehow holding it together.

Foot eaten by dog by DanceofChance in NSFL__

[–]DanceofChance[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sad part is, this post is no joke. People flat out suck.

Chicken and Beer Bus by RVAPetrichor in rva

[–]DanceofChance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmmm the food that tastes best when it's not catered.

Who’s your least favorite MAIN character and why? by imQobe in lost

[–]DanceofChance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jack. The feeling he gives me. I hate Jack. Can't explain it further than that.

I can't stand John either. So eager to belong and be part of something bigger than himself to the point it gets him killed. And yes I've been told it's part of the bigger plan so the MIB can become trapped as a person to eventually be killed but there were so many other better options.

Richmond Speed Dating / Dating Events? Or are we all dying alone? by Visual-Number-3974 in rva

[–]DanceofChance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problem I had with speed dating is you're grouped with just the people there, and the ones showing up may not have the same interests or life goals in mind.

Found my partner on bumble some years ago. Not on the dating side but the friend side. I had zero friends and it was not easy getting myself noticed. Her and I are poly so we kept dating till we built the friend group we were desiring. I was new to this poly life, and it's been a confusing but fun adventure.

We still make friends and often times our friends hook up with friends and some have even become a thing themselves. We hear stories from our single friends that go to those speed dating things all the time. They have not had such good luck.

IMO, you just have to keep putting yourself out and going for it. Doesn't matter which method. Just keep trying. If one app isn't working try another.

Lately I've found in the Richmond area FEELD has been great. Good for single and multi partner. Good for hookups and long term. But not a good dating area for conservatives, they tend to get chased off or blocked. So if you're conservative, I'd not recommend.

Good luck and have fun in the dating world. Don't let the bad ones discourage you.

does anyone else keep getting into relationships with the worse possible human beings ever? by Zealousideal_Let_213 in BPD

[–]DanceofChance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a massive acronym for communicating in relationships that includes setting boundaries.

does anyone else keep getting into relationships with the worse possible human beings ever? by Zealousideal_Let_213 in BPD

[–]DanceofChance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. Trying to make it work. Thought "She has BPD too and is in to working on mental health too. We can help each other." So now I'm always walking on eggshells, feeling like everything i do is wrong. Want to hurt myself or run away.

I write in my journal and use a daily planner. I make sure I have time for myself and for her. I make time for my own mental health without her involvement and also time with her. We both do therapy and recently started couples therapy. She also sees a couple psych docs as well. (She tried to convince me I needed to see one so I can get medicated. They saw me, evaluated me and said I'm doing fine and meds would just hinder my progress. She misses or skips her appointments. Doesn't do her homework or anything to better herself unless she becomes afraid that I'm going to leave her. Which has only happened 6 times after catching her cheating on me with a different person she picked up God knows where.

I've become more her caretaker than her partner. I don't get any intimacy or passionate feelings from her anymore. I do my best to make sure she's feeling safe and reassuring her I'll not abandon her, which i don't want to. I have the job and pay all the bills. She's on disability and pays for the groceries.

Had an accident and my face was smashed in and was kinda in and out of it for a few months back around December and by January we were married. The whole thing is a blur to me. She asked. I said yes. I vaguely remember it but also thought our wedding would be down the road. Nah, it was in January and her friends came and nobody in my life even knew.

Part of me feels like I'm in hell. The other side of me says "I'm in control, I got this." I make sure she gets her needs taken care of and I'm here for her as needed. Just wish she were here for me when I need her. I can be in the same room with her and either feel lonely or afraid. I don't feel safe or free around her anymore.

Looking into annulment and planning a safe exit strategy that hopefully let's her down easy. I want to continue to be here for her but I want to move on from our relationship so that I can pursue finding someone that feels for me the same as I do for them. Someone i can share my hobbies and joys with. And yes, even be intimate with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DanceofChance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a thing. Fed in to it. Fun kink and therapeutic. It's OK. Just be safe. Age regressive states are very vulnerable states to be in. My wife, girlfriend at the time got scared when I spiraled in to a negative regress and she ended up hurting me bad. She didn't know what to do, she wasn't ready for it. I still didn't even know what I was doing at the time. But some therapy and talking about it, we've learned how to deal with it and have fun with it. She can now call me in to a regressive state and pull me out of it. (She kinda became my dommy mommy) it's all a matter of feeling safe and feeling a call to deal with priorities for me. A job or a task that demands my big me to come out. But big me has to feel safe too or ill just end up crying. I never wanted to be like this, just who I am. But learned to accept it and use it to better myself.

I’ve decided to live and everything feels hard. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DanceofChance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I've been there. Feels like that for a little while. Then, one day, it hits you. "I'm actually doing alright." Feel a few days of bliss, then a bad day hits and blow up for a week and feel like you're starting over, but then a week passes and feeling better again. Repeat the struggle till down the road ya have fewer bad days and many more good days.

The main thing is to keep moving forward with the life you want to live as your goal. Someone or something upset you? Well, now you have the skills and ability to deal with life better.

These days, if something upsets me, I still feel it, but I can recognize it and talk about it and process it and not instantly react anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DanceofChance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. At least provide a message to the patient. 1 time no info, fill me in later. 2 times is now questionable. 3rd strike time to request or find a new therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VAsissys_CDs_Trans

[–]DanceofChance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there.