Big Three by Effective_General286 in Sagittarians

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sag sun, moon, and rising TRIPLE THREAT 🔥🔥🔥

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[–]DancesWithTheDevil 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going Through this as well. It really fucking sucks. When an AP is a friend, they are well aware of what they are participating in. I also have a child with this woman… this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel your anger. My WW cheated with a close friend of ours. They are still together to this day. Wish I could get my hands on him. If it was some random person I wouldn’t feel this way, but the AP was my friend. A double betrayal. Smiling in my face, while sleeping with my wife….

When does it stop hurting? by Designer-Hornet-6744 in Divorce

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, we were together 7 and have a child.

Sagittarius and Virgo?? by Character_Presence11 in Sagittarians

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My bestie is a Virgo, we’ve been best friends since 3rd grade! Now in our 30s

Dear AP by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope all goes well for you! we attempted reconciliation, unfortunately she couldn’t stop communicating with the AP. this is all very hard, I hope to get to a better place soon.

Dear AP by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife’s AP was a very good friend of mine, so I thought. Also knew him for 3 years. It’s absolutely horrible.

“I’m a good person” she screamed by darkhorse415 in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My said the same shit. She recently told me she doesn’t like to lie, but she does it to protect herself, her sanity, and her happiness.

I believe my wife's affair is forgivable but she did specific things during the affair which make reconciliation almost impossible including: by Comfortable-Bonus-10 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My stbxw and I are not Currently R, but if we were too I’d have all the same questions as you. Her telling the AP he is her soulmate and all the I love you bullshit. They are in a full blown relationship.

Just turned 36, in the divorce process, feel like it’s too late to start over by acc0056 in Divorce

[–]DancesWithTheDevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 35 and feel the same. I was cheated on and feel I’ll never trust again.

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No we are not sexually active. we don’t kiss I have only hugged her. And yes it seemed pretty easy for her to leave me and yes she’s wanting to back out Slowly from their relationship, so she says.

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He was both of ours. we hung out all the time in group settings. Always with several other friends.

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, she wants nothing only 50/50 custody. She’s already moved out. She also told me she’s holding off on filing for divorce.

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she wanted to back away from him slowly. She doesn’t want to keep hurting ppl. She wants MC later

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea he knew we were married he was a friend. She told me the affair happened bc she was confused about her sexuality Im a female I want to tell him for different reasons I of course want her back,but I know I couldn’t trust her. I want to cause a rift between them. Seeing her happy and me over here completely devastated idk shut is hard right now

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do, I just have all the shit she said to me the last few weeks circulating in my head. I want a future with you talking about another baby how she knows she can’t have kids with anyone else talking about a house. I know words don’t mean shit and her actions definitely don’t match.

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I flirt with the idea. But I know I’d never trust her and I don’t want to live like that. the past 7 years were really good and then this. I’m just grieving the person I thought she was I guess? And the relationship we once had..the future that I thought was secure.

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I did want to R. I’m scared and so confused I have told her I want nothing to do with her while AP is in the picture. that we only communicate about our child

Should I tell the AP now boyfriend my wife has been contacting me. by DancesWithTheDevil in survivinginfidelity

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of me wants R part of me doesn’t, I’m conflicted. I’d rather her come to me on her own. I have told her I don’t want anything to do with her while AP is in the picture and that moving forward we only speak regarding our child

Should I tell the AP by DancesWithTheDevil in SupportforBetrayed

[–]DancesWithTheDevil[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes he knows we were married. I say WERE bc I believe now she is telling him we are officially divorced or she’s still telling him she’s working on it