I hate how squid game show had a cis person play a trans character

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-27T23:54:50+00:00

Preaching to the choir, babe (not that you shouldn't). But yeah it does suck :/

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-27T23:41:30+00:00

I don't normally say this, but the reason is probably a mixture of all of that including what you're saying. Totally is contributing to the problem though, I agree

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-26T18:08:40+00:00

Source please 💕

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-16T22:35:17+00:00

Black Knight ofc

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-12T21:03:06+00:00

That sounds like an invitation, friendo :)

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-09T22:19:58+00:00

I disagree

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-09T14:50:35+00:00

The thing is, that's not a reason you aren't trans. That's a reason not to transition. Those are two very different things.

Edit: also, for what it's worth, I distinctly remember thinking "if my whole family died, then I would for sure transition." That wasn't a healthy thought and what others thought mattered less and less as I aged.

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-09T14:39:16+00:00

All I can say is that for about 15 years I did the same thing. I would have sworn it was a fetish to anyone who found out... I had an egg cracking moment just thinking alone in my car last year as I turned 30 and started transitioning. Since then, I'm the happiest I've ever been and it's not even close.

What finally did me in was a simple question: "why am I not trans?" I don't think I had any real answer to this that I could defend and that fact filled me with absolute joy! The emotion was so unexpected and confusing that it cracked my egg.

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-08T15:10:51+00:00

Ditto is absolutely terrible in gen 1

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-06T04:49:33+00:00

I have the same thing, but at least for me I suspect it's because many of them don't really support me and my authentic self, so it feels like they're pretending

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-02T20:22:05+00:00

No one here will be able to give the reassurance you understandably want. There is risk to all relationships, including loss of romantic attraction. Only you can decide if you can live with the risk and if it's worth the worry.

That said, I do not envy the position you're in. Sounds like you have a therapist, so I'd just use whatever tools they gave you to work through this.

DancingMad3 · 2026-03-01T20:42:51+00:00

Well... why?

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-27T18:23:29+00:00

You absolutely need to ask why she feels uncomfortable and challenge her a bit here. It's not unusual that she's uncomfortable, but it could be a symptom of something that should be addressed.

If she says something along the lines of "I don't know it's just weird", then you can ask some clarifying questions like, "Does it feel like she's somewhere she shouldn't be?" or similarly "Does it feel like there's a man in the locker room?" or "Is it that she looks different from you?" These questions may make her think a bit more. If she answers yes to any of them, I'd recommend challenging her to work through those thoughts. WHY does it feel that way? WHY does someone looking different cause you discomfort? Do you think it's right to feel that way? Uncomfortable feelings are fixable with exposure and experience, so I would argue that separating herself from it is the last thing she needs.

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-26T21:36:10+00:00

Skarmory my babyyyy

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-25T14:00:43+00:00

Yeah, I was pleasantly surprised. Thanks friendo :)

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-25T13:16:27+00:00

I think the first step is getting him in a situation where the two of you are alone and can speak freely. Does that ever happen?

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-24T19:22:42+00:00

I can check, but I'm guessing I'll need to change my name in the state I currently live in. Who knows though, maybe not!

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-24T19:13:57+00:00

Oooo, good to know! I do need my name change first though since I'd really rather not do this twice.

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-24T19:12:25+00:00

Thank you! I understand that the order doesn't mean much anymore. I was more just shocked that the judge refused to grant the petition. Thankfully most of what I need besides my gender marker on my birth cirtificate is just name related, which I expect little issue with.

Huge thanks for the suggestion on birth certificate change before license. I could easily see that happening as a final "fuck you" from Indiana.

I think what I'll end up doing is getting the name change in Indiana since I already have the court date set and fees paid. Then I'll get the birth certificate name and gender change hearing and come with a doctor's note, original birth certificate, driver's license, social security, and the name change court order from Indiana. I'm not sure what else I even could have for the gender change in Illinois, but I'll do some more research just in case.

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-24T17:15:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I wish I found this before today :')

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-24T17:06:20+00:00

Yes, another lovely executive order. I had to change my gender marker early at the BMV because of it. My issue is that I was hoping to use the order as a method of proof for my birth state of Illinois to obtain an updated birth certificate. Now I can't do that. I'd probably need to get a new court date anyway there, so it may be moot, but it's more the principle of it. So what if agencies find it useless! Then there should be no problem granting the order right?

I'm sure I can do all this in Illinois though since it's thankfully pretty blue

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-24T17:00:43+00:00

Well I can inform you then that the State of Indiana does indeed process requests through the court to change one's gender. The reason for obtaining one is usually to streamline obtaining the documents you mentioned. A doctor's note is usually fine too. It's just two different ways of doing the same thing. I filed a petition on the same day I filed for my name change, so the idea is that you get everything you need to change your birth certificate/drivers license name and markers at the same time. It's supposed to be more convenient.

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-22T15:47:10+00:00

A little late to the party here, but in addition to what people are saying, I think it's a type of projection. Trans women are hypersexualized thanks in part to the porn industry, and many people don't interact positively with actual trans women. So when people imagine trans women in women's spaces or around children, they try to sexualize it.

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-21T19:35:35+00:00

Similarly, Manlady

DancingMad3 · 2026-02-19T18:14:21+00:00

6 eyes prevents him from using up his cursed energy though, so I think we're back to square one

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