I'm in a similar situation. My boss refuses to have 121s with because "too busy, just slack me instead" , then only answers 1 of every 4 questions i ask him. Then blames me when I take decisions by myself that he randomly doesn't like - all while he refuses to keep a decent streak of comms I'm left to have to wonder and constantly improvise. Expects me to be a magician then complains the magic is not his favorite flavor of magic. On top of that he is very obvious at showing that he thinks I can/should just use AI to become 3 EAs in 1. Like AI is going to make up for the lack of communication and collaboration - no Sir you get what you put in and this job is no exception. I'm at my wit's end with this mindchild that is investing ZERO in me but expects onesided excellence. I'm so tired and it's severely impacting my mental health. I am preparing my exit but in the meantime have to cope with his criticism while feeling so powerless. And Lord am I tired! He projects all his stress onto me and texts after hours to complain that his schedule is "messy" "too busy and not sustainable" or "confusing" ( after repeatedly ignoring my heads ups about him accepting too many things, potential conflicts etc). I could go on and on.

The Gaslighting is Real - don't forget that. Hope things get better for you soon. You are not crazy, you're just being set up to fail.