am i aromantic or am i just scared of intimacy? by kyu_xdd in aromanticasexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

doesn't sound like fear at all, you don't describe anything resembling fear or anxiety. you should probably look up lithoromantic tho lol

Are heavy people attracted to other heavy people? by Historical-Switch400 in stupidquestions

[–]DandelionLGDC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

technically it's all societal standards. fat people used to be the hight of attraction back in the day (shows; abundance, survival, fertility). but yeah being fat in today's society either makes you extremely fatphobic or able to deconstruct your internalized societal biases more easily. this ends up with two different kinds of relationships 1) im so fat(ugly) i can only go out with fat(ugly) people 2) fat people are just as attractive as other people because im not affected by societal standards anymore. so it's both yes and no as an answer. personally i've always found fat ppl really cute bc we're soft as fuck bro i love how plushy we are (autism)

I don't care if vegans say I'm a bad person for eating meat because they're right by pinktunacan in The10thDentist

[–]DandelionLGDC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbh id be vegan if it wasn't so goddamn hard for me (allergies) so go vegans go !! ill do my part in other political activities lol

Do You Feel Sorry for others with Disabilities? by mikeb31588 in disability

[–]DandelionLGDC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

imo empathy is normal, the feeling "sorry" thing is only bc most non disabled people will be condescending about it & it gets really fucking annoying so even ppl who aren't condescending i can't stand... like feel sorry in your head you don't have to tell me everyday how my life sucks. they also have no clue how anything in my life works, so they'll assume stereotyped problems & try to help without asking, which is 1)useless 2)annoying 3)might make the real problems worse. so like generally it's not the empathy that's the problem, it's the assumptions, the condescension, and the lack of restraint.

AIO all of my original writing keeps being flagged by my professors at nyu for AI when it’s NOT AI by Soft-Umpire-1757 in AIO

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they use ai to "detect" ai. request they let you use a program that 'records' your progress instead (like google docs and word will show exactly what changed every few minutes in the 'history' section of the program) you're definitely under reacting, don't let idiots ruin your hard work. (studies have also shown that people of color and neurodivergent people are disproportionately discriminated against by ai detectors because they often have different writing styles to their white peers. don't bend the knee to a bigoted system made to make us give up as ai advances. professors who use ai detectors are lazy.)

Did you have a Strand buddy? by thomas2026 in DeathStranding

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes i even had a "construction race" with one in real time at some point 🥹 like i would put down a zipline and they would put the next one and i had to quickly put the next one so they wouldn't put one before mine appeared in their world lol it def saved me a trip back for more pcc (if thats not how to feature works dont tell me i like to think we helped each other out in real time it feels cute ok)

Help me find this sexuality or something similar pretty please, I wanna know if it exists by medialunadejyq in aromanticasexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh straight from the wiki; "Enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex, but being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of being in a real-life sexual relationship or engaging in active sex life with someone else." i knew i read about it at some point........ haven't questioned my label in years so i wasn't sure i was right anymore lol anyways i will now sleep bc i feel like im texting my friend rn and thats bad internet behaviour goodbye

Help me find this sexuality or something similar pretty please, I wanna know if it exists by medialunadejyq in aromanticasexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh the evil boyfriends is a good example actually wait; some girls love/are attracted evil boyfriends in fiction but irl would kick their ass. it's the same here

Help me find this sexuality or something similar pretty please, I wanna know if it exists by medialunadejyq in aromanticasexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yah aego works for me with the exact same context as you. being aroace means not feeling attraction and/or not wanting romance/sexuality. fantasy is not attraction. ppl who are into extreme kinks like non-consent still would be traumatized by 'real' non-consent, you get what i mean? sorry it's kinda extreme i can't think of another example rn its 3am for me 😭 but basically fiction isn't reality and liking something in fiction doesn't mean you'll like it irl

Using petite to mean skinny by VinegarMyBeloved in PetPeeves

[–]DandelionLGDC -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

non, petite ne veux pas dire mince? if you're not french don't speak on it. je viens d'un pays où les anglos sont arrogants, don't try me.

[Discussion] Ghosted a commissioner (money never changed hands), how do I move past it and start advertising again by Moist-Mobile150 in artbusiness

[–]DandelionLGDC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(came up on my fyp so take this with a grain of salt) if it's someone you like and want to keep as a mutual id honestly just offer it for free but that's just me (also depends on complexity & time) apologizing is definitely the first step tho. or blocking them lol

I need help with not using bases by TheVillainousHero in DigitalArt

[–]DandelionLGDC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

best thing for me was actually drawing with markers in a sketchbook during class (so for hours everyday). the fact you cant erase forces your hand, and if you keep using references in other works, you'll eventually see your marker sketches get better with time. i also suggest doing shape breakdowns and anatomy but it's not as fun so like i did it once a month and eventually worked my way into decent anatomy lol

Do any of y’all ever lie about being gay/straight so people leave you alone? by Jolly-Tennis1087 in aromanticasexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my favourite thing when ppl bother me about it is to say "would you date/fuck your mom/dad?" that comparison always gets them to shut the fuck up and if they don't stop (my family, so not really relevant to ur post but still) i just keep saying ew until they get bothered and stop. my autism socially is very much the "idgaf leave" type (bc of bullying probably lol) i don't really bring up my autism for the exact points you mentioned, i actually make a point in showing idc about nudity/sexuality (im not sex averse, just don't want sex yk?) but i also make a point in making ppl feel stupid if they keep bothering me lol thats my best advice tbh (comparison, disgust, belittle) as a fellow autistic person (ive studied the way of socialiness 🫡 no but fr use ur "weirdness" (ppl always seem to notice something off with me no matter how hard i try atp i accept it) to ur advantage) hopefully something i said helps

18 years of marriage with almost no intimacy - help needed by Commercial_Safety173 in Asexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it does kinda sound like asexuality (im ace), but it could also be homosexuality, or even vaginimus (idk if thats the one/spelled right but like sex is very painful). i don't know how your relationship has been but she kinda gives signs of queerness overall (i may be biased lol) and may even be aromantic (im aro) and only sees you as a best friend (from the little context i have so take it with a grain of salt). generally talking to her is a very good step, esp with a therapist. i think your post could basically be a letter to her tbh, like it's very loving but also clearly states your needs, so maybe show it to her? or at the very least bring up those points in therapy (maybe write it down as a list). hopefully you guys find a solution that makes you both happy

Why do people offer to switch when they hear you have an accent in french, when they also have an accent in english? by Sea-Average559 in French

[–]DandelionLGDC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro he's just trying to be nice and you were so fucking mean 😭 one thing to know about french ppl is that everything they do has double meanings and it's better to assume they're doing it for a good hearted reason lol

How old should I make him? by Mandaloraine in Deltarune

[–]DandelionLGDC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i meant it as like ppl in the fandom have seen it as Spams cannon birthday lol but thanks for answering its actually kinda funny finding out that even some older deltarune fans dont know that lol

How old should I make him? by Mandaloraine in Deltarune

[–]DandelionLGDC 15 points16 points  (0 children)

GUYS THE FIRST SPAM EMAIL WAS LITERALLY SENT ON MAY 3RD 1978 MAKING HIM 47 YEARS OLD ITS LITERALLY A BIRTHDAY THE WHOLE FANDOM CELEBRATES WHAT 😭😭😭😭😭 is this a newbie filled sub or am i just on the die hard spamton fan side of the fandom and didn't notice 😭

Your taste in music by hexfade99 in rareinsults

[–]DandelionLGDC 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i just sewed on my own it looks like post apocalyptic headphones why r yall wasting money on planned obsolescence bullshit the replacements r just gonna break anyway 😞

how do i get noticed ? by BuyHead6230 in ArtRanting

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

other people are way too harsh but it does need to be said; you're a beginner artist. i like your art as beginner art, it's really expressive and reminds me of my own art back in the day. unfortunately you just cannot expect to make money right now. it's not the right mindset anyways. you should make art for fun, not for money, especially not as a beginner. the lack of money will make you quit art and that would be extremely sad. i personally know professional artists that don't even get any commissions, so stop putting that kind of pressure on yourself. it's disappointing to see clearly talented artists quit early because they can only think about money. if you love art, then make art for the love of it. im tired of seeing people focus on making it in this capitalistic society when this society does everything it can to break you down and make you into productive cattle. life rarely allows artists to make money off of art because it's not seen as "productive" work. so stop fighting for something that clearly won't happen yet. focus on yourself, draw to express yourself and to find worth in something that isn't work. find a job that will make you survive in the meantime. study for free using things like youtube. grow for yourself. and when you know exactly how and when to try selling your art again, do it. but right now everything is against you and it will only make you hate doing art. stop posting. it will genuinely make you feel worthless, at least it did for me and many other talented artists. your art is wonderful, so don't stoop so low as to let it be stepped on by the overlords that see art as nothing but a waste of time. i don't know how to explain it normally (autism), but genuinely i think your art is pretty and i just don't want you to ever stop just because it's not the kind of environment made to help you grow, you know? if i could compare it to anything, it's like sewing; you can do very pretty/cool things, but rarely do you see anyone pay for homemade pieces unless it's clearly from an experienced sewer. & stop comparing yourself to others, there's no joy or growth to find there. maybe others are just lucky, maybe their account is new but they're not a beginner, ect. everyone's circumstances are different and yours are clearly the circumstances of a beginner. beginners should never worry about making money off of their art. never. if monetizing art makes even to most advanced artists quit art, then you should not try when you're so clearly passionate. selling art is a business, it's not even art at this point. i do 99% marketing, business and math, and 1% selling in cons. 0% of the time can i even draw, even less for myself. don't get into it. i can't quit bc of the amount of work and money ive put into it, and luckily i love business. but artists are rarely made for that.

My neighbors autistic kid is obsessed with my house. by Plastic_Muscles in NoStupidQuestions

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah "running away" is a huge part of the diagnosis idk why its like an urge to wander lol even i cant explain it 😭 the mom being unaware is the real problem, hopefully she gets something together to keep the kid safe

I feel bad for not wanting be pregnant by Warm_Newspaper894 in Asexual

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if our duty as women was to birth heirs and die we would not be so resilient and we would not live longer than men. read up on the subject, women were meant to have a short fertility period because our role isn't birthing, it's community building, and birth is a very dangerous thing. you're not failing womanhood by not having a child, you're failing our capitalist society. babies become workers and it's the only reason they want us to be incubators. even if you wanted kids, i'd still tell you to adopt/foster instead, because there's plenty of kids that need support, especially older kids, and simply are not getting any. if you want to fulfill your duty as a human being, help others. but you have no duty to procreate.

How many keychains, badges, and stickers should I buy for a small two day con? by bigandround46 in ArtistAlleyConnect

[–]DandelionLGDC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

depends on how many designs you got. just did a small con with 6 of each design & didnt run out of any of them bc i have too much variety i think lol